Would you consider this “having stuffed yourself all day”

[ThatJolly]

I was talking to a friend and she accused me of competitive underrating, which i certainly was not doing! I referred to my eating as having stuffed my face all day and she told me to get a grip and she found what I said triggering!

What I ate:

• Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie
• Beans on toast (2 slices)
• Half a carton of precut pineapple
• chicken wings and celery with hot sauce
• a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed)

I went to bed uncomfortably stuffed. So to me i did “stuff my face all day”

What do you think?

Fair enough, but the language does make it sound small. Many would just say I had some ravioli, or a small portion. Child's portion sounds like only maybe two bites for an adult!

Is that all your food for a day. That's a lot less than I would eat. I'd eat more veg, more protein and have olive oil dressed salads.
Do you have an eating disorder?

A child’s portion though?
So the equivalent of a starter before your main meal.

I once lived with someone who claimed she couldn't possibly eat a whole crumpet, she'd flap her hand above and declare herself stuffed!
Who can't eat a whole crumpet....

You felt stuffed and she asked what you ate so you told her and then she weirdly got pissed off. Yanbu as far as I can tell. It’s quite a lot of food so I can see why you got full and the full feeling can be uncomfortable so you feel stuffed.

different people feel full on different amounts. If she’s going to be triggered by someone’s food intake then don’t ask for their food intake

I don't think you "stuffed [your] face all day"; I think you maybe ate more bread (at breakfast?) than you normally would and then ate something you didn't really want/need right before bedtime. But I also think your friend is misusing the term "triggering" (unless she's genuinely working through some kind of trauma and has yet to fully identify and learn to manage her triggers) and that she doesn't need to correct your choice of words just because they're not the words that she would have used.

Is your friend overweight OP? Sounds like she's reacted badly due to jealousy. Your food intake seems pretty standard and unless you're constantly discussing diets/weight this sounds like her issue and not yours.

It’s incredibly rude to ask someone that. Internet forum or not.

And no. I have a healthy bmi

I think the point isn’t what you ate but that not everyone wants to constantly hear about what others are eating. She only asked the specifics after you had said you’d stuffed yourself.

OP it’s great you’re listening to your body and there’s no need to eat if you are feeling full. But do consider how you are viewing these situations - “stuffed my face all day” is a very critical and value laden way of referring to your eating. And if you normally do dog walks but didn’t yesterday doesn’t mean you have to adjust your eating yesterday in particular to compensate.

Chicken wings isn’t much meat though is it?

@QuestionableMouse

which is perfectly fine and adequate

‘Chicken wings and celery ‘ is not a full meal by most standards so not two dinners.

you are 3 moderate meals with no dessert, no drinks and almost zero snacking, half a tin of fruit. That’s a pretty moderate intake. If I ate that every day I’d probably lose weight and I’m a healthy BMI. I’m not arguing whether you feel stuffed, but if you do and you call that a lot you obviously eat very little usually.

I'm not being rude. I have a history of disordered eating, anorexia. In the throes of it, I would have thought that to be a lot of food. I would also eat childrens portions so I could keep a mental record of what I'd eaten.
Do you calorie count a lot?
I don't understand why you started this thread. But
YAB very U
HTH

BMI is not an indicator of an eating disorder.

I'm glad someone chipped in with calories, because otherwise "child's plate" and "portion" etc are all vague.

1700 may be a little high for you if you're 5.2 , but it's not loads objectively I don't think.

Whoever said women need 2000kcal a day. That is a lot higher than an average height and office-job type woman needs. I'm 5'8 and a size 12 and need 1800cal a day.

@crouchendtigerr

and what kind of eating disorder would that be? Op ate a perfectly normal amount of food

Clearly I’m in a minority but I’m with you, everything you’ve listed is quite carb and sugar heavy so I too would feel like I’d stuffed myself. If I had scrambled eggs and a toasted sandwich at breakfast I wouldn’t then go on to have beans on toast and more carbs later that day in the ravioli. So it sounds like more than a normal day to me (which would be cereal, then a Mediterranean style lunch, then a veggie dinner like curry, stir fry). I do eat carbs just not with every meal, I’d feel quite sluggish if I did.

It sounds fine and, as ever, depends on your overall lifestyle, weight and diet. But if you feel stuffed, then that's how you feel.

She sounds like a shit friend.

Maybe the kind of disordered eating where you eat a normal amount of food , declare your self to have stuffed your face all day and then restrict your eating the following day.

This

I have a friend who will say she has stuffed herself if she has had lunch AND dinner, but she has an incredibly disordered attitude to food.
Plus being full is subjective.
Unless you normaly talk a lot about your food intake your friend's attitude is perplexing op.

Yes but she’s obsessing over it. If she was full up, fair enough. But it’s not usual to describe a normal amount of food as ‘stuffing yourself all day’. There’s obviously some food issues going on.

Id think someone was being a drama queen if they ate that much and called it stuffing their face all day. Its 3 meals and a snack!
and unless you have portioned it out I dont see how you can be eating it all day either. Its much less volume of food then I eat on a diet.

Although TBF it is alot of beige carbs and if you dont normally eat them much I can see how it might make you feel abit crap afterwards!

One where because there is a feeling of having overeaten the day before they restrict calories the next day.