Would you consider this “having stuffed yourself all day”

[ThatJolly]

I was talking to a friend and she accused me of competitive underrating, which i certainly was not doing! I referred to my eating as having stuffed my face all day and she told me to get a grip and she found what I said triggering!

What I ate:

• Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie
• Beans on toast (2 slices)
• Half a carton of precut pineapple
• chicken wings and celery with hot sauce
• a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed)

I went to bed uncomfortably stuffed. So to me i did “stuff my face all day”

What do you think?

So you told her unprompted you had stuffed yourself all day and she was just responding to that.

I hate that kind of language around food. It's weird.
You ate more than you usually do. Oh well.

No one is “making” the friend feel anything. Friend is responsible for her own emotional responses. She’s the one who asked for the food list, anyway.

I had 4 squares of cake for breakfast. That set the tone of the day. So no, you didn’t stuff your face.

I don't think whether you actually stuffed your face or not is what she has an issue with, though. From what you've said, it sounds to me like she doesn't want to talk about it or hear about it anymore, period.

I watch what I eat too so I get it. It takes conscious, ongoing effort for me to stay at the weight I like to live in. And naturally, what's on my mind tends to come up in the conversations I have.

But food and weight and all that is a huge issue for many people, especially women, since we tend to be judged so harshly about on our appearance. Lots of emotions, judgment and other ugly history are included in those topics, for a lot of people.

What I'd do with this friend is just consider anything to do with weight, amount of food consumption, etc. off limits. Just talk about other things.

You could save the diet/weight discussions to have with like-minded friends.

The point is- YOU felt over full. So yes, you stuffed your face!

To me that is stuffing yourself all day but I usually go all day without eating until dinner because ADHD. Then I stuff myself.

That’s barely anything and you are not getting your full 5 a day!

Child's portion, I think you said?
So not exactly two dinners. One and a half, possibly.

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Although depends on the child, Ds at 8 is a strapping rugby player who can out eat me and his dad, then ask for seconds!

Sounds perfectly normal to me but if you felt stuffed you felt stuffed. We aren’t the food police

Why is it so hard for some people to understand that other people need and want less food than they do?

Why the need to call normal people who eat a normal amount ‘teenie tinies’? It’s nasty, and no better than a slim person calling others fatties.

This thread just goes to show that there is huge variation in what people think of as a ‘normal’ amount of food in a day.

So when actually was this conversation OP?

As everything you said is what you ate all in one day (up to bedtime), yet you told this friend it was everything you ate in one day.. I assume you weren't at a cafe considering ordering a panini at bedtime.. So was this the next day and you were discussing how full you were because of everything you ate the day before?

A starter and a small main, at best. No dessert either? 3 course meals, 3 times a day, plus snacks in between would be stuffing your face! This isn’t it. Friend is annoyed she’s gloating she doesn’t need to eat much before she is full - understandable if friend struggles to control her own intake

are u the poster who had a kfc an then nothing else all day and you had a guest

remins me of that

All that on top of dinner it’s stuffing your face in my opinion as well, I’ll feel uncomfortable full if I ate all that in one day

You are clearly an ascetic of the highest order. Props to you.

I'm sure plenty of people don't, but that's not really the point. My point was the OP is claiming to have stuffed herself all day yet had an apparently small dinner, an unremarkable breakfast and lunch, no snacks whatsoever and no pudding after either main meal.

It wasn’t “on top of dinner” though.

Now if I had stuffed my face all day, I’d have started with a full cooked breakfast, followed up with a couple of pastries, because they were there and I couldn’t resist them.

Then perhaps I’d be tempted to have a small slice of cake with my morning coffee.

Lunch would maybe be a bit lighter? Just a sandwich, perhaps with an ice cream with a 99 for dessert.

Then to finish off, a Chinese all-you-can-eat buffet, where I would start by trying a little of every starter, with extra sesame prawn toast, as I love that. Then I’d try a bit of most of the main courses with rice, then try to eat a bit of curry and chips, because that’s irresistible too. Then, as they’re there, I’d have a bowl of banana fritters.

Nobody could ever accuse me of competitive under eating!

But you had to say a child's plate. Which isn't a dinner for anybody over the age of nine. So it was just a dinner split onto two plates.

I don’t eat bread, so four slices of bread sounds a lot.

But, other than that, you’ve had two eggs, some baked beans, 12oz of chicken, some ravioli and some fruit. So about right, unless you’re trying to lose weight.

I don't think your total calorie count for the day has any bearing on "stuffing your face".

You could eat 3 large, balanced (full, adult-sized!) meals plus 1 or 2 large snacks for 1700 calories and feel "stuffed" by the end of the day.

Or you could eat a bowl of cereal and one pizza for 1700, and not feel even full by the end of the day.

200 calories of broccoli is a much larger volume of food than 200 calories of chocolate.

I wouldn’t consider that a lot of food, but I don’t think it’s particularly balanced either.

i guess it depends on what you’re used to. You can eat quite a small volume of food but rack up a large number of calories very easily. Also, stuff like white bread makes
me feel uncomfortably full.

Eh? The OP has listed breakfast, lunch and dinner. I don't count my breakfast and lunch as something I eat "on top of dinner". "On top of dinner" is something like making a sandwich or toast later in the evening, or eating crisps or chocolate after your main meal. And no, I'm not counting the presumably very small portion of ravioli, as the OP's dinner was a) tiny and b) without any carbs.