Would you consider this “having stuffed yourself all day”

[ThatJolly]

I was talking to a friend and she accused me of competitive underrating, which i certainly was not doing! I referred to my eating as having stuffed my face all day and she told me to get a grip and she found what I said triggering!

What I ate:

• Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie
• Beans on toast (2 slices)
• Half a carton of precut pineapple
• chicken wings and celery with hot sauce
• a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed)

I went to bed uncomfortably stuffed. So to me i did “stuff my face all day”

What do you think?

Eating less food today because you ate more than enough yesterday is a perfectly normal and healthy response — it is exactly what is supposed to happen, often without even thinking about it.

If I ate that much every day I’d be overweight, if not obese. That is the reality.

Your idea of normal size might be very different to mine.

There's a good 9 inches between me and one of my closest friends (I'm the taller one). I don't know her weight but I would guess that we have roughly the same BMI for our respective heights.

When we're together, I eat more than she does - unsurprising, as she's smaller. If she said she was stuffed from an amount of food that I could happily devour as a snack then I would never dream of having a go at her for it. Same goes for someone taller than me. People are different.

And yes, if I stuffed my face yesterday, I'd probably eat a bit less today to compensate. I'm a healthy weight and happy with the balance.

Your friend was rude, OP. Don't sweat about it.

Of course it's not "disordered." Balancing intake over several days is medically sound advice.

Eating when one is full just for the sake of eating is absurd.

The NHS and the British association of dieticians says 2-3 tablespoons is a portion size of cooked pasta. As is one slice of bread. So by any measure the OP had at least six portions of starch that day, or roughly double what the BDA and NHS recommend for an adult.

As a one-off, OK, but anyone eating more than that on a daily basis one would hope also is getting an above average amount of activity through work or exercise. Particularly middle-aged and older women (ask me, I am one) would find it difficult not to become obese with that as a routine daily intake. Reducing what one eats the day after a big splurge is healthy.

@Josiezu

OP never said she wasn’t going to eat, just that she didn’t fancy a panini as she had more bread than usual the day before. That’s fine. Surely you don’t see that as an issue?

If you ate two slices of toast for breakfast, then a sandwich for lunch, then a bowl of pasta for dinner, you'd be obese? Are you two feet tall?

I’m 5,6. Yes, three white carb heavy meals every day would make me fat. I have an active job but I don’t exercise.

If there are other women that can eat that much and stay slim then good luck to them. I’m jealous.

I estimate that was about 1700-1850 calories, so no, its either a normal intake for someone quite active or a little over by around 20% for someone sedentary. You felt stuffed because its mostly carbs.

No, that is not what I would consider stuffing my face all day. That’s not a lot of food.
Without understanding the context of this conversation it’s difficult to comment. If you think that’s stuffing your face I would be worried about your relationship with food, but on the other hand it’s not for you to be concerned about triggering another persons food issues! Is this an overweight person being annoyed about a slim person who claims they overeat? Unless you are constantly going on about how much (actually little) you eat, it’s none of their business.

No, she said she wasn’t going to eat as she had “stuffed her face” the day before and wasn’t hungry. Then went on to describe a perfectly normal intake.

making the friend feel shit for having a panini, because unless she’d managed to eat significantly less than o/p the day before she’s just a greedy pig stuffing her face all day every day.

we have one of these at work. Always talking about how much she eats and whether she’s eaten too much. People have stopped bringing food to share as when it’s offered round she’s either “stuffed” from her lunch, or refuses because she’s “being good”, which effectively tells everyone else they are fat pigs for not “being good” or still wanting to eat after their sandwich.

language around food is very sensitive. Just say no. No need to elaborate on how you’re not a greedy pig or you are some sort of saint “being good” and refusing.

”no thank you I don’t fancy it, but you go ahead if you’re hungry” is all that’s needed. Don’t pile on the guilt and virtue on it.

That’s not much food at all so no I wouldn’t consider it stuffing myself.

If I had eaten just that I would be starving hungry. However happy to believe you when you say you're feeling stuffed eating that and wouldn't have quizzed you about it - send like a really weird conversation

I wouldn’t consider it stuffing myself but I also wouldn’t feel the need to talk about what I eat in such detail.

That’s not what she said, she said it was because she “stuffed her face all day long”.

I agree it's a huge amount to eat in one day (unless you mean the evening meals were shared ?). I hope you kept a bucket next to the bed, in case of an upset stomach?

I think she took a throwaway comment the wrong way regardless of how much you ate. It's her issue, not yours.

But you didn't stuff your face. You essentially ate 3 meals with dinner being a starter and a small main.

Tbh I would eye roll if you said you stuffed yourself

This makes no sense.

You said you had egg and toast, then beans and toast, then chicken wings, then pasta. Implied to be throughout the day. But actually was all early enough for you to go out for coffee and then make tuna nuscoise and potatoes for another meal?

Two sandwiches and a main meal, plus the ravioli, is quite a bit in one day unless the eater does heavy labour.

Aaaaaannddd the teeny tinies under eating klaxon has gone off. Back in the real world, .....

Unless you ate an entire flock's worth of chicken wings that's a pretty poultry paltry main meal, and adding a child's portion of pasta only gives you the carbs that were absent in the first place.

Plus there are no snacks and no pudding for either lunch or tea. So no, that menu hardly constitutes "having stuffed yourself all day" imo.

Surely people don’t eat dessert every day. I think we have it at Christmas, New year’s, Easter and birthdays.

I stuffed my face yesterday (had a bad day)

I ate a large bar of Cadbury’s for breakfast (Diam choc bar)
2 slices buttered toast

lunch McDonalds - large plant meal, half a share box of mozzarella dippers, three raspberry and white chocolate pies but I did have two large diet cokes

a chocolate brownie

large portion of veggie spag bol
4 slices garlic bread

large bar of cadburys chocolate (S’mores bar) and a mini egg milky bar

today I’ve been a LOT more restrained 😂

but honestly op - that is stuffing your face, not what you ate

do I feel good - no but it is what it is and I don’t have days like that very often (I’m at the higher range of normal bmi)

Yes that’s not stuffing yourself. Sounds like low ish amount of food. I’d eat that on a diet.

You weren’t eating all day, so didn’t stuff your face all day. And what you ate wasn’t a lot imo.

I think this is a really limited amount of food, and I’m not a particularly big eater.

Not that you’ll listen, you’re very sure that you’re right.