Would you consider this “having stuffed yourself all day”

[ThatJolly]

I was talking to a friend and she accused me of competitive underrating, which i certainly was not doing! I referred to my eating as having stuffed my face all day and she told me to get a grip and she found what I said triggering!

What I ate:

• Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie
• Beans on toast (2 slices)
• Half a carton of precut pineapple
• chicken wings and celery with hot sauce
• a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed)

I went to bed uncomfortably stuffed. So to me i did “stuff my face all day”

What do you think?

“A child’s plate?” That’s obscene.

I always opt for an ant’s plate.

No it’s not stuffing yourself al day, stuffing yourself all day would involve eating non stop or with lots of snacking so in a way your friend was right.
Calling this “ stuffing yourself all day” is a competitive undereating.

Tbh MN is probably the worst place to talk about food unless you eat like a working horse.
Most posters here are size 14+ and consider 100g chocolate, a bag of hot cross buns or 1l ice cream "a snack". It's mad.
I am taller than you and thin and would also find what you ate "stuffing material", it's quite carby

Most posters here are size 14+

Oh I must have missed it when they did the census on here. Maybe I was away that day?

So you met up with someone at a cafe and didn't order a panini like you normally would, your friend asked why, and you told her in your words because 'you stuffed your face all day' the day before, so she asked what it was you ate in this apparent foodathon that meant you 'couldn't possibly eat anything' for lunch the day after.

you are listing a large breakfast (fine if you are used to that sort of thing), a small lunch (fine), a HALF portion of pineapple slices as a snack (fine), and a small dinner (fine), you felt full when you went to bed because you ate the extra children's portion (too much), not because you had stuffed your face "all day" ..

So bear in mind this is the NEXT DAY and you are saying the reason you don't want any lunch is because you stuffed your face the day before, even though you didn't actually stuff your face at all.. so why not just say you weren't hungry and leave it at that?

By saying you couldn't possibly eat because you ate food the day before, you are making her feel guilty for having a perfectly normal appetite, you do sound like one of those annoying people who have lost weight who can't just be around food anymore without passing comment, I don't think the competitive under-eater comment was misplaced to be fair, you had no reason to tell her any of that, you were just using it as a point scoring exercise.

chicken wings and celery is just a starter surely?

It's not a lot to me, but I wouldn't comment, though I would find it hard to believe you considered it a lot of food. I would expect the total to far exceed recommended calories per day - easily done if you have lots of chocs, junk etc. Portions are very individual and some people really don't eat much at all (not me!).

So wait, you just didn’t fancy a panini, but you could have eaten a tuna nicoise? So you weren’t completely stuffed unable to eat another bite?! You just didn’t want a panini, so when your friend asked you lied and said you were stuffed? I’m confused.

I can see where you are coming from. I wouldn't be able to eat 4 slices of bread in a day and then have ravioli with cheese later. With the scrambled eggs and beans, those are all quite filling. That would all sit really heavy on my stomach and I'd feel bloaty and uncomfortable.

Not sure why your friend would get snarky over that?

By saying you couldn't possibly eat because you ate food the day before, you are making her feel guilty for having a perfectly normal appetite, you do sound like one of those annoying people who have lost weight who can't just be around food anymore without passing comment,

If OP is being annoying and the friend is just eating normally, why would she need to feel guilty? If she feels guilty for eating normally, wouldn’t that indicate that she is the one with food issues? Especially considering she asked the OP what she’s eaten instead of just accepting that she was feeling a bit bloated?

I’m confused by the chicken wings, was it really 800 calories? Every time I’ve ever looked at packs of them they’re only about 300?

It’s not brain surgery. She felt stuffed by the excessive carbs the day before and wanted some veggies and protein.

And mumsnet is the worst place for thinking eating any carbs is “stuffing your face” and “far too much food for one day”

every bloody thread it’s carbs and carby and it’s always too many carbs.

a balanced, healthy diet includes carbs. I eat a carb based diet because it’s what suits my metabolism and keeps me from putting on weight. It’s not “too many” or “too much”

stop judging.

Well, yes, if you felt stuffed, you did stuff your face.

I don't understand what a scrambled egg veggies toasted sarnie is, so i cant comment on that but there are lots of variables here - what type of bread? There's a big differnce between Nimble and door stop white. Same for the beans and chicken wings - a quarter of a tine/pack or the whole thing?

It says it’s 225 calories 🙄. That’s a light snack, that lots of people would eat to keep them going between lunch and dinner on an average day, before going on to eat an adult portion of dinner. What do you eat on a typical day if that’s “stuffing yourself”?

It's difficult to tell without knowing the weight of chicken that you ate, but assuming it wasn't a heaped plate then yes, you are being unreasonable. What you describe is a low-to-normal amount of food, assuming the chicken wings weren't a large amount and that the child's plate of ravioli was quite small. If those two things were so, that definitely doesn't count as stuffing your face all day. I can understand your friend's irritation of this is a pattern with you.

Missing the point by a massive, massive margin.

What's chicken wings and celery all about? And you're careful to refer to it as a child-sized portion of ravioli. Not just, a small tin. You're emphasising it was a portion for a child, and then saying you were stuffed.

Yes, you are competitively under-eating. I used to work with a woman who would buy a Yorkie bar, eat two chunks then performatively wrap it up and put it in her drawer because it's 'too much'. She needed firing into the sun too.

That’s more food that I typically eat on a normal day but when I think of stuffing yourself, I think more of grazing on crap all day, rather than feeling full.

Most of my slimmer friends eat a lot more than me, so eating a lot isn’t about greed, whereas stuffing your face implies greed.

Either your friend has issues with her weight/food or you have a tendency to competitively under-eat.
I assume the truth is in the middle somewhere.

Recommended daily calories for the average adult is 2,000, so if you ate 1700 calories in a day, that is officially not stuffing your face.

I know how you feel @ThatJolly. I once licked an olive and smelled a grape on the same day and couldn’t eat for days afterwards.

I really thought we’d moved beyond this wide eyed ‘but I’m just a little waif and anything more than air is too much for me’ posts where eating is described as stuffing your face, mouths are described as gobs and anyone daring to eat more than one biscuit per sitting is a glutton or pig.

It’s extremely dull and if you need validation for being teeny weeny then there are - sadly - plenty of other places you’ll be feted for your obsession with normal food intake being described negatively.

Don't you know you can tell a fatty fat person just by the way they type?!

You sound like you’re trying to encourage people to tell you that you’re a greedy over-eater.

Friend asked. We met for a coffee and i didnt order a panini like i usually would cause i genuinely was not hungry. I told friend this and she said “go on, tell me what you ate”.
Very condescendingly too

And this sounds like you regularly tell your friend how much you haven’t eaten and she’s a bit sick of listening to it.

And for all the ‘but why would your friend be annoyed if she wasn’t feeling bad about how much she eats herself’ - competitive undereaters are joy sucking pains in the arse.

Any occasion around food is immediately a chance for them to make themselves the centre of attention whilst also trying to push their nonsense onto everyone else. Tedious in the extreme.

Well to me thats not stuffing my face, I would be hungry if I ate, thats the sort of menu I have in a day if I am dieting.
But my mum for example, that would be loads of food, she eats really small portions and takes ages to eat anything.
I would think her saying it is triggering is over the top and ridiculous. Unless, you know your friend has a bad relationship with food and is always dieting and she has shared her food issues with you. Then I can see she could find it triggering. But then it is her issue not to be able to have perspective that some peoples stuffing their face is another persons diet.