Would you consider this “having stuffed yourself all day”

[ThatJolly]

I was talking to a friend and she accused me of competitive underrating, which i certainly was not doing! I referred to my eating as having stuffed my face all day and she told me to get a grip and she found what I said triggering!

What I ate:

• Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie
• Beans on toast (2 slices)
• Half a carton of precut pineapple
• chicken wings and celery with hot sauce
• a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed)

I went to bed uncomfortably stuffed. So to me i did “stuff my face all day”

What do you think?

People who know the calories in everything they eat without needing to look it up are either permanently yo-yo dieting or suffer from an ED.

Or have simply been trying to lose weight for a very long time, or have had to manage their diet carefully all their lives so as to not put weight on and become more overweight, as their appetite is an unreliable narrator.

If it was too much food for your appetite and needs and left you feeling uncomfortable it was clearly too much for you. Whether another person with a larger appetite and/or a need for more food would have found it too much is irrelevant. How much people eat is a pretty emotive subject, and if you don't want to cause controversy you're probably better off avoiding loaded language such as 'stuffing my face' when you're talking about it. If you feel compelled to discuss food intake, with a side comment on your digestive system, you could just say "Ive eaten more than usual today and feel full."

I'm really short and I would probably cry at the idea of half a sandwich for lunch! 🤣

After wasting a lot of my teens/early 20s counting calories when I had an ED I have no idea how many calories I eat in a day , but I have sandwiches, carbs, chocolate etc and don't have particularly small portions. (I do eat fruit, vegetables and protein too)

A young woman who’s very active could eat 2000 cal but most women would gain weight on that. I’m post menopause but active and I can eat around 1500 cals. I wouldn’t call the OPs food stuffing your face quantities, but it is plenty of food for me in one day.

That would be too much for me, but that’s me. Some people could eat that, no bother.

Oh god it was the next day wasn't it. I thought it was the same day but it can't have been if she met her friend for a coffee. Unless they go for coffee at 11pm.

Oh that's even worse. She couldn't possibly have eaten a panini as she "stuffed herself" the day before 😭

@MumCanIHaveASnackPlease

she really doesn’t. Honestly anyone who modifies their calorie intake in any way is classed as disordered eating or suffering from an ed on here!

Also sounds like OP is trying to get us to react in a certain way in this post. We are supposed to say that she is eating too much / eating too little / has an eatiing disorder / does not have an eating disorder, for whatever reason.

its not so much that as the competitive sharing of food diaries with her friend that I find concerning but that’s for your input.

It’s basically an attempt to look superior to those who eat more (ie normal people who aren’t obsessed with being the thinnest)

I think eating a reasonable amount of food (as you did) and then saying you’ve ‘stuffed yourself’ is massively judgey on your part.

A lot of people struggle with weight and food noise, and people have different metabolisms. But by you saying you’re stuffed on a relatively normal amount of food it automatically makes the other person a glutton if they’ve eaten the same or more but aren’t stuffed - or even worse, are still hungry.

I have a friend who complains about how much weight she’s put on and is now at 50kg (clearly a hippo then). It pisses me off because i grew up in an era of no body positivity and the only acceptable body shape was thin and straight. Whereas I was curvy and naturally more athletic so was heavier. Never fat (when younger at least) but certainly far more than 50kg. But the fact that my friend is so judgey about her 50kg makes me feel horrible because it’s an automatic judgement that anything more than that would be horrific. You’ve just done the same thing but with food instead of weight.

Was one of your dinners really just some chicken wings and celery? Nothing else? You see that doesn't seem substantial enough for a dinner. I think the chicken wings plus kids ravioli, together equals one dinner.

It sounds like your friend has a complicated relationship with food. For the term competitive under eating to be used (only ever seen that on MN) and to be triggered by you listing what you ate indicates it wasn't just a light hearted natter among friends.

How well do you know this friend? Don't you know that she finds it hard to talk about food and eating?

Anyway, in answer to your question - I think the term 'stuffing your face' does conjure up images of people eating too much in one go. It's generally not a positive thing.

Feeling stuffed doesn't always go hand in hand with stuffing your face.
I don't think you stuffed your face, but if you felt over full at bed time then you felt over full, no one's going to tell you you're wrong, unless you constantly wang on about how little need to eat to feel full.

You say you have a healthy BMI so obviously over time your 'stuff your face' days balance out with the eating normally days so there's no issue really, is there.

If I told someone I felt full after what they considered a small amount of food I'd likely feel a bit awkward and would then mention I'd eaten a lot the previous day or something.

I'd see that as a dinner she didn't have 2 dinners at all.

It looks like an ‘almond mom” diet.

You think not being able to eat the next day because you ate the day before isn’t disordered??

Well then, as I said, the kiddie portion of ravioli you had after your chicken and celery was just the carb part of your evening meal, wasn’t it, not a second dinner.

Again, just eat carbs (and protein and fat) for every meal and eat normally. Eating four slices of bread in a day isn’t excessive and the food you ate in that day isn’t excessive either. You mentioning that you didn’t exercise that day is irrelevant. You’re allowed to eat when you don’t exercise.

Never heard of anyone having srambled egg in a toasted sandwich before, and chicken wings with celery wouldn't even count as a proper meal to me (apart from it being a weird combination it's not going to be filling or contain many calories) but aside from that it sounds like plenty of food but you're not exactly 'stuffing your face' all day are you?

• Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie = Breakfast

• Beans on toast (2 slices) = Lunch

• Half a carton of precut pineapple Fruit snack

• chicken wings and celery with hot sauce = Dinner

• a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed) = Carbs that you missed at dinner

Hardly excessive eating - very very normal daily consumption by most people's standards so your expression of "stuffing your face" seems wildly exaggerated.

People who have had a binge eating disorder could easily see this as triggering. For them a binge can be thousands of calories of unsuitable food. Rather than your perfectly normal day. So I can see why your friend found you ridiculous.

The ravioli was eaten after I had had my dinner. I ate the kids leftovers. And I was literally stuffed to the brim when I ate it. Just tasted good so I indulged. I could have burst

Course you were

I would be too tired to cook dinner as well if that's all I had eaten all day.

Ahhh, so when do you usually meet friend and have the panini? Not lunch then presumably? The plot thickens…

People who have had a binge eating disorder could easily see this as triggering.

People with a binge eating disorder need to take responsibility for their own illness, not be nasty to people who eat normally and have a healthy response to food consumption i.e. notice when they've eaten too much.

Don't be ridiculous @SmoothEncounter im fit to burst just looking at a picture of it, in fact, think I'll be satisfied till the weekend! Carbs and cheese!!

So skipping meals the next day because you feel you ‘stuffed your face’ the day before by eating a very standard amount of food is a healthy response? And then telling people what a glutton you are for eating three meals in one day so that they know you’re skipping a meal instead of just saying ‘oh I’m not hungry’ when asked why they weren’t eating?

Seems to me that OP has her own issues with food