Would you consider this “having stuffed yourself all day”

[ThatJolly]

I was talking to a friend and she accused me of competitive underrating, which i certainly was not doing! I referred to my eating as having stuffed my face all day and she told me to get a grip and she found what I said triggering!

What I ate:

• Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie
• Beans on toast (2 slices)
• Half a carton of precut pineapple
• chicken wings and celery with hot sauce
• a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed)

I went to bed uncomfortably stuffed. So to me i did “stuff my face all day”

What do you think?

My friend eats a very small meal and then announces that she is 'stuffed' and couldn't possibly eat any more. She does it so that people comment on how she hasn't eaten much and so that other people look greedy for eating more... I'm not saying you are doing this at all but maybe that's what it seemed like to your friend.

Well it’s not what I would classify as as stuffing myself all day but I have learnt to stay away from sliced bread during the day, my insulin resistant PCOS doesn’t agree with it.
I would have finished the day eating what you did feeling bloated (because of the quantity of bread) but probably not well nourished. However, it’s ONE day and if I had eaten like that I’d have just reverted back to my usual pattern of eating the next day, not tried to restrict myself.
I do still eat bread but mostly homemade and only once per day because I seem to be okay with it in small amounts every now and then. I do eat other carbs!

I agree that you may have overdone it and I suspect you felt pretty full when you were heading to bed.

It's not your job to monitor your language constantly and refrain from using commonly heard phrases (apart from phrases that you know would be offensive on grounds of protected characteristics). People overuse the word 'triggered' imo.

Yes, klaxon call to the disordered eaters of Mumsnet.
Proana forums closed for a reason.

@BlueBatsAndBakewellTarts of course.... we can only dream of being in the teeny tiny club wonder if op or daffi are Angela Schrute nèe Martin...

Probably because she knows you've actually barely eaten anything.

And if you met for coffee then it must have only been morning / lunchtime? So you hadn't actually eaten all of the days meals that you listed.

You keep mentioning being short but not your current weight? Are you very slim?

Spinach, celery, kale, mushrooms and tomatoes. These are the sort of veg that people on low calorie diets tend to choose.

You sound like my sister who’s obsessed with being skinny. Now she’s much older, it doesn’t suit her as her neck and hands look wrinkly and old.

People who know the calories in everything they eat without needing to look it up are either permanently yo-yo dieting or suffer from an ED? Maybe your friend is genuinely worried about you and thinks you have an ED?

Like any addiction, you’re not going to admit it to others until you can admit it to yourself. Take care OP.

That is a very rude question. You are not obliged to answer it honestly, or at all.

She also refuses to answer if her friend is perhaps a little larger.

Spinach, kale, mushrooms and tomatoes are also delicious and have lots of nutrients in them. Maybe the OP ate them because she likes them.

Precisely

Is it just me or does this thread feel a bit goady?

I'm currently on a diet (dress I want to get into for my big birthday) and the amount of food the OP has described as 'stuffing her face' is about what I'd eat (fewer carbs but probably the same calories) and I am losing weight.

Maybe I'm just hangry from lack of food (living in a calorie deficit is NOT fun) but this really does just seem to be a competitive under-eating thread designed to make everyone else feel bad for eating three square meals a day.

Not if the OP mentions food / diet / eating habits every time she sees her friend....

By the sounds of her friend saying "go on, tell me what you had" it sounds like these type of comments are quite common from OP and her friend is exasperated by it...

She must have been listing what she ate the day before and claiming she was still too full to eat a panini. Unless I knew she'd spent the day before at an all-you-can-eat buffet, I'd find that annoying and make a sarcastic comment too.

I don’t think it’s a problem saying you’ve stuffed yourself but it’s the listing of what you eat is unhelpful (first off it’s boring, secondly it’s clear it’s not stuffing yourself so it begs the question why you want to list foods to people or what you want them to respond with). It sounds like it’s in the ballpark of an average days calories depending on portion size so you can’t expect people to react in horror about it.

Thats a lot of food to me.

Because ive had 85% of my stomach removed.

Pre-op id be starving on that.

I think this is very telling. You previously said you didn't order as you weren't hungry. But actually here you are saying you would have ate, but there wasn't anything you fancied on the menu.

You must have eluded to what you ate yesterday to explain why you weren't eating today otherwise your friend had no reason to ask what you ate. You wanted to talk about your food intake, and I suspect you talk about it a lot and your friend is fed up.

What?!

Of course it’s a normal lunch. You make it sound like someone has taken a bite out of a live cow!

It’s not even what OP ate or how much, it’s obviously just ridiculous to say at lunchtime ‘I absolutely couldn’t eat lunch today, I stuffed myself all day long yesterday; I had breakfast, lunch and dinner’.

How much do you weigh and is your friend overweight?

No you have not stuffed your face all day !

That’s just eating
egg sandwich for breakfast
beans on toast for lunch
child's portion ravioli etc etc for tea

that would be a good day for me !
I’ve eaten similar but add in two packets of crisps , big handful of sweets , crackers and cheese , large slice of cake Freddo and you are bit closer to “stuffing”

Nowhere near ‘stuffing yourself all day’.

Sounds fairly healthy. Not one bar of choc, slice of cake, packet of crisps, no fast food. Those chicken wings wouldn’t fill me up and wouldn’t constitute a meal. Adding celery? Yeah that’s a snack at a picnic not a dinner.

Why aren't you answering when this meeting took place? If it was in the evening after you had eaten all this food then fair enough, but if it was the next day and you refused breakfast/ lunch because you were still "stuffed" from yesterday's food then I think thats weird.

A child's portion, as you said in your OP.

Chicken wings and celery are hardly a meal...

I do think there's also a big distinction between feeling stuffed

And saying you've been stuffing your face all day.

Which means eating a large amount of food quickly and in a way that's considered excessive or gluttonous.