Would you consider this “having stuffed yourself all day”

[ThatJolly]

I was talking to a friend and she accused me of competitive underrating, which i certainly was not doing! I referred to my eating as having stuffed my face all day and she told me to get a grip and she found what I said triggering!

What I ate:

• Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie
• Beans on toast (2 slices)
• Half a carton of precut pineapple
• chicken wings and celery with hot sauce
• a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed)

I went to bed uncomfortably stuffed. So to me i did “stuff my face all day”

What do you think?

I wouldn't feel stuffed on that amount of food but different people have different appetites. I voted YANBU because I think your friend was rude.

Greenqueen40 · Today 11:49

That would be a days food if I was on a diet, another tedious competitive undereating thread...

Totally agree with Greenqueen. Yes I try to eat higher protein , fruit, veg lots of water etc. Honestly there are so many eat like a sparrow people on here . They probably post they are shocked their totally normal food is questioned then eat a shed load of carbs in real life.

And the constant oh that’s very carb heavy comments.

Christ!

Why do I read this?

I even call it Petty Gripes, not Mumsnet.

I guess it makes me feel I’m so abnormal liking to feel full and satisfied after a meal.

I always eat carbs in the evening. Just not lunch as it makes me sleepy

OP you sound overly invested in food and thoughts around food. I haven't got a clue how many calories I eat a day. Do you talk about food a lot with your friend? Sounds to me like she's a bit exasperated with the food chat and you clearly have big differences there.

You know full well that isn't ' stuffing your face' , so stop with the wide eyed ' Ooh look at this food' humble brag.

If that's what you want to eat fair enough, but don't try and fat shame other people by indicating that anything more than that must be sheer gluttony.

Looks like you had breakfast, lunch, dinner and a snack. That wouldn't be stuffing yourself all day here 🤷‍♀️

In my mind "stuffing yourself all day" would mean snacking very frequently (potentially with unhealthy things)

Whereas you had fairly carb heavy meals.

I would suggest both OP and friend have issues with food, considering the OP is insistent that they did stuff themselves with an enormous amount of food.

You could have said you ate a lot and felt uncomfortably full the previous day, without detailing everything. (Although I often find I'm really hungry even a day after I've eaten a lot!)

For me yes but only because I’m trying to stay in a calorie deficit.

I think it’s fair to say everyone has different appetites and ideas on what constitutes a lot of food. Feeling stuffed and stuffing your face are very different things.

Feeling stuffed is just feeling overly full, maybe you had a few extra mouthfuls of your meal that you didn’t need and now are uncomfortable.

Stuffing your face implies you’ve been gluttonous, you’ve spent a prolonged period overeating and it implies an embarrassing/shameful amount.

I do not think that what you’ve eaten is in anyway stuffing your face, you’ve had quite normal meals, yes, as some people point out that it’s carb heavy. But by referring to it as stuffing your face when I doubt it would even be over the recommended calorie intake would make me roll my eyes.

But if you constantly make similar comments on portion sizes, being greedy, stuffing your face and that’s what you’re referring to is similar to what you’ve described then yes you’re going to start offending people around you and making them uncomfortable because you’re describing a pretty standard amount of food, especially if the person your talking to has issues with weight

You’re a very odd person

So when was the coffee meet up? The following day at lunchtime and you decided not to eat? In that case you’re being very weird about food and I can see why your friend found it annoying.

Exactly this. Your food intake is normal, but perhaps it's your overall attitude towards food that prompted that comment from your friend..?

It's not underrating but also not over eating... it kind of doesn't sound like a huge amount (child's plate size) etc. It's a regular food schedule. If you are slim and that's enough for you then fine, if you're bigger and that's all you had then sounds like a diet of sorts. Your friend sounds bitter.

That's a modest amount of food IMO. Definitely NOT stuffing yourself.

I wouldn’t describe it as stuffing your face, just a normal day really.

That is my bloody breakfast right there.And I have a BMI of 22, so your friend is bonkers.

no, that’s not “stuffing yourself all day”. Which of course you know very well yourself.

not sure what you hoped to get out of this. A medal?

Food and eating are very emotive subjects for a lot of people. I do think you were a little dramatic in your phrase and I think your friend was quite dramatic in her response. But I would guess she has an underlying issue relating to that. I try to avoid emotive language when discussing food unless I know the person has a similar attitude and healthy relationship to food and body image like myself.

This is my thinking too. I also wouldn't refer to any bread as "shit bread" which is making me wonder if you do have a tenancy for being quite restrictive with food? That can also include being restrictive with the type of food as well as quantity of food. I certainly wouldn't describe what you've listed here as having "stuffed my face all day".

You can’t really say you had two dinners because based on the portion size the two combined barely had enough calories to be considered even one dinner. You did not “stuff your face” and does point towards an issue with food if you genuinely believe you did.

It's not that much - definitely no more than 2,000 calories unless you ate a family bucket of chicken wings - and it sounds like your friend has a point about the competitive undereating.

You exaggerated when you said you stuffed your face. It’s quite a meagre days rations. I would be hungry on that.

then you get accused of “competitive under eating” because actually half a sandwich is a perfectly adequate lunch when you’re tiny like us. But apparently not wanting to eat big portions and saving half a chocolate bar for later is evil and we’re now responsible for everyone else’s dysfunctional relationship with food

So when anyone taller than you/OP eats more food than you do it’s a ’dysfunctional relationship with food’ not because we need more calories? Okaaaaaay.

as a friend I would have been worried about your perceptions of food and appropriate amounts to eat. It depends on your past comments to her, if you have form for eating quite lightly or making comments when others eat. On the other hand maybe the protein heavy day made you feel more full for longer, context is everything. The amount of food and approximate calories doesn’t look like an over abundance of food for the day.

It's not up to us to manage others triggers... its up to them