Would you consider this “having stuffed yourself all day”

[ThatJolly]

I was talking to a friend and she accused me of competitive underrating, which i certainly was not doing! I referred to my eating as having stuffed my face all day and she told me to get a grip and she found what I said triggering!

What I ate:

• Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie
• Beans on toast (2 slices)
• Half a carton of precut pineapple
• chicken wings and celery with hot sauce
• a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed)

I went to bed uncomfortably stuffed. So to me i did “stuff my face all day”

What do you think?

When I was young having periods I.was always starving I think its a hormonal thing but I'd be mainlining crisps
so your food was relatively normal I really think you should stop worrying if you are hungry when you are due but just stop talking about food as a "bad thing" it will help your mindset.

4 slices of bread and a carb heavy dinner is most certainly not what 'most kids' eat (or should be eating for that matter) and it is definitely more than any adult should be consuming really.

I ate more than that yesterday and a lot more carbs than normal. But I still didn't consider it stuffing myself. (I'm 4'10 if that makes a difference!)

I'd interpret that as 4 meals, heavy on carbs, good protein, but almost no veggies. I could feel overfull but under-nutritioned on that.

If your friend finds a fleeting informal reference to your food consumption triggering, she should probably get some therapy, and avoid you (and people generally) in the meantime.

ps. I have eggs and veggies most days. Not with bread/in a toastie though.

That doesn't sound a lot.

One being chicken wings (not what most people would think as a whole meal in itself) and one being a child's plate of ravioli (a child's meal)

I wouldn’t consider chicken wings and celery, and a child size portion of cheesy ravioli as two dinners. I’d say that was one, rather random meal. The wings as your meat, celery as your veg and cheesy pasta as your carbs/side.

Fair enough but to be honest I don’t think you know what stuffing your face means

Me too! Especially on top of the eggs and toast. That is a lot of food!

(Not disparaging the OP, merely agreeing with her that her fullness is understandable).

Cake isn't junk food.

I wouldn’t class that as a meal - it’s a snack for most people.

It seems a bit odd to describe to anyone everything you’ve eaten in a day.

how much that is is completely dependent on your exercise levels, your physical size etc. What prompted you to list off your daily food to her? What were you hoping her reaction would be…?

Yeah my point more being, it’s certainly not two dinners, as the OP is trying to suggest!

You say "the only extra stuffing going on was the extra pasta after dinner..." like that somehow doesn't count?

That is a lot, not an "only." On top of all that bread, beans, the wings, etc. it's actually a lot. And I trust the OP if she says it's more than she generally consumers.

I too am short and would be rolling around like that blueberry girl in Wonka if I ate that many carbs every day.

Minus chocolate that is roughly what I would have and not consider it stuffing myself. It's a diet on which I lose weight in fact (though pudding would be fruit or a fat-free yoghurt and the bacon minus fat, low-fat sausages).

Honestly how would we know?
Chicken wings did you have 3 or 500?
How much is in a child’s portion of ravioli, how old is the child 2 or 17? Is that one large postage stamp of ravioli or 74?

It’s all too vague to give an opinion.

No, that’s not stuffing your face. You didn’t have two dinners. You had the spicy chicken and celery - ie no carbs, so missing part of your meal, then had a little portion of ravioli later, which makes up for the missing carbs in your meal and makes it equal one dinner.

There was nothing excessive in what you ate. Four slices of bread in a day isn’t excessive. You say you don’t normally eat carbs in the evening. This sounds weird and a bit abnormal. Just eat three normal meals with carbs. All this guilt around food (stuffing my face) isn’t good and it’s not necessary - and you honestly weren’t ‘stuffing your face’.

If you have a friend who is telling you that you are competitively under eating then it's worth thinking about whether this is more about a pattern of talking a particular way around food than this particular days worth of food. In which case, twelve pages of arguing mnetters isn't going to tell you if she has seen a problem that you are trying to ignore and how it might be impacting your life and those of the people around you.

Most people would not class a child’s portion of pasta and some chicken and celery as two adult dinners.

I was thinking about the timing.

when was this coffee? Late at night after the child’s plate of ravioli and stuffed feeling?

before? In which case “stuffed face” is eggs, beans and toast? But why tell the friend she feels stuffed from food she hasn’t yet eaten?

or was it next day? In which case still being stuffed from the previous day’s average eating/calorie load isn’t that great.

if you don’t want to eat always better to say something neutral like “not hungry” or I don’t fancy it rather than oh I’m so stuffed I could eat another morsel, I ate perfectly normal amount of food yesterday or “oh I’m being good”. Just say no.

No, it isn't.

So dinner was that small pack of chicken wings with celery sauce (which is what I'd call junk food)? I'm surprised you have any energy, OP. And 600 calories is not high for a main meal. The rest of what you ate would scarcely keep me going all day!
I never finished off kids' food. I have an issue with eating off other people's plates.

From what I can gather you ate:
B. Scrambled eggs on two slices of toast, not sure what 'veggies' refer to.
L: Beans on toast
Snack: some fruit
D: Ravioli, chicken wings and celery.

Neither under nor over eating really. Proteins, carbs, fruit and veg. Normal food intake unless you were working out or walking six miles or something.

I’d say you’re both very bored.

600 calories at one meal only leaves 600 calories for the rest of the day, if like many small women 1200 calories/day is a maintenance number.

For many of us who are short, mature and non-athletic, that's reality.