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Everythingisnumbersnow · 16/03/2025 20:54

DBSFstupid · 16/03/2025 20:53

That's not what I said.
I said 'Life isn't a bed of roses'. It's not meant to be easy all the time.
Do you think it is?

At work the younger ones that work for us now cannot be given developmental feedback (said kindly and carefully) without having a massive meltdown and citing their MH issues as reasons that they can't be told off (gently) for not doing their job properly. It's causing chaos in my workplace as it is in other industries and my profession is becoming a bit of a joke.
It's all so fucked up.
The people that genuinely have MH issues aren't getting the help they desperately need because all this crap is also clogging up the system along with the government etc etc

Life sucks and young people have nothing to look forward to. I don't think you can really blame them for having collectively lost their minds. Remember COVID when years of their lives were stolen for he benefit of old folks?

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 20:59

DBSFstupid · 16/03/2025 20:53

That's not what I said.
I said 'Life isn't a bed of roses'. It's not meant to be easy all the time.
Do you think it is?

At work the younger ones that work for us now cannot be given developmental feedback (said kindly and carefully) without having a massive meltdown and citing their MH issues as reasons that they can't be told off (gently) for not doing their job properly. It's causing chaos in my workplace as it is in other industries and my profession is becoming a bit of a joke.
It's all so fucked up.
The people that genuinely have MH issues aren't getting the help they desperately need because all this crap is also clogging up the system along with the government etc etc

You must work in a very shit environment because I don’t see that where I work- at all!

InALonelyWorld · 16/03/2025 21:00

FumingTRex · 16/03/2025 20:52

But are they the worried well? Weve lived through a pandemic/lockdowns, child poverty is spiralling, the gap between rich and poor is growing and growing. Many of todays younger generations spent large parts of their childhood in childcare of varying quality and on screens, not making normal friendships. Most young people will never have the quality of life their parents had and are having to massively lower their expectations.

Where’s the evidence that doctors are suddenly diagnosing more, why cant it be that theres a genuine increase in poor mental health?

So to you what is the grounds for a reasonable diagnosis though? Because many people around where I live are being diagnosed with MH issues through a telephone appointment with their GP fully based on what that person said and send to a pharmacy for antidepressants with a 1-2year wait for NHS counselling... no physical sight of the person no monitoring has been done, no clinical in house investigating or consideration for circumstantial factors. Are all these people ringing in actually depressed, etc and should be believed at word (not face) value? Because I bet an unreasonable % actually aren't but are getting away with a diagnosis because the GP system isn't fit for purpose anymore.

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 21:00

DBSFstupid · 16/03/2025 20:53

That's not what I said.
I said 'Life isn't a bed of roses'. It's not meant to be easy all the time.
Do you think it is?

At work the younger ones that work for us now cannot be given developmental feedback (said kindly and carefully) without having a massive meltdown and citing their MH issues as reasons that they can't be told off (gently) for not doing their job properly. It's causing chaos in my workplace as it is in other industries and my profession is becoming a bit of a joke.
It's all so fucked up.
The people that genuinely have MH issues aren't getting the help they desperately need because all this crap is also clogging up the system along with the government etc etc

So what are genuine mental health problems?

soupyspoon · 16/03/2025 21:02

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 20:59

You must work in a very shit environment because I don’t see that where I work- at all!

Your workplace is very different to lots of people by what you've said. Strange

What this poster describes also happens in my workplace too.

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 21:04

soupyspoon · 16/03/2025 21:02

Your workplace is very different to lots of people by what you've said. Strange

What this poster describes also happens in my workplace too.

Strange that some posters have such an anti view towards young people.

Stompythedinosaur · 16/03/2025 21:05

He isn't a clinician who's competent to have any view on whether a diagnosis is correct or not.

So I'm inclined to think he should shut the hell up.

soupyspoon · 16/03/2025 21:06

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 21:04

Strange that some posters have such an anti view towards young people.

What young people?

Anti view of what?

FumingTRex · 16/03/2025 21:06

InALonelyWorld · 16/03/2025 21:00

So to you what is the grounds for a reasonable diagnosis though? Because many people around where I live are being diagnosed with MH issues through a telephone appointment with their GP fully based on what that person said and send to a pharmacy for antidepressants with a 1-2year wait for NHS counselling... no physical sight of the person no monitoring has been done, no clinical in house investigating or consideration for circumstantial factors. Are all these people ringing in actually depressed, etc and should be believed at word (not face) value? Because I bet an unreasonable % actually aren't but are getting away with a diagnosis because the GP system isn't fit for purpose anymore.

I agree the GP situation is dire, but diagnosis of common MH conditions like depression and anxiety is always based on what the person says. There probably are people faking it, but it’s always been that way - under Thatcher huge numbers were moved from unemployment benefit to sickness benefit, sometimes for questionable reasons.

I agree that people in their 20s seem especially lacking in resilience but that doesn’t mean they arent experiencing genuine mental health conditions.

MidnightPatrol · 16/03/2025 21:07

I think people are very quick to label normal emotions / bad behaviour in children as ‘mental health problems’.

Particularly the vague labels of ADHD and anxiety, which seem to often involve a lot of self diagnosis.

It’s bizarre.

soupyspoon · 16/03/2025 21:08

InALonelyWorld · 16/03/2025 21:00

So to you what is the grounds for a reasonable diagnosis though? Because many people around where I live are being diagnosed with MH issues through a telephone appointment with their GP fully based on what that person said and send to a pharmacy for antidepressants with a 1-2year wait for NHS counselling... no physical sight of the person no monitoring has been done, no clinical in house investigating or consideration for circumstantial factors. Are all these people ringing in actually depressed, etc and should be believed at word (not face) value? Because I bet an unreasonable % actually aren't but are getting away with a diagnosis because the GP system isn't fit for purpose anymore.

GPs are under pressure to get people in and out of their surgery (or off the phone) in 6 minutes, one ailment a time. No way can a discussion be had in that time about someones mental health and whether it meets clinicial need. They know this as well, we have had meetings at work with GP surgeries who are prescribing unnecessary medication (not necessarily for MH issues), due to pressures from parents, sometimes quite scarily so.

whatsit84 · 16/03/2025 21:21

MyUmberSeal · 16/03/2025 20:09

At the risk of being shot down, is anyone actually just a bog standard person anymore?! As in no neuro diverse condition, mental health complaint, eats peanuts, not gluten intolerant, and can get through a day at work/school without having a breakdown.

I’m being facetious, of course, but it really does feel like it’s all so fucked up now.

Am I allowed to be a bog standard person that just doesn’t like peanuts 😂

MyUmberSeal · 16/03/2025 21:23

whatsit84 · 16/03/2025 21:21

Am I allowed to be a bog standard person that just doesn’t like peanuts 😂

Permission granted 🤣

DaffodilsGalore · 16/03/2025 21:30

FumingTRex · 16/03/2025 21:06

I agree the GP situation is dire, but diagnosis of common MH conditions like depression and anxiety is always based on what the person says. There probably are people faking it, but it’s always been that way - under Thatcher huge numbers were moved from unemployment benefit to sickness benefit, sometimes for questionable reasons.

I agree that people in their 20s seem especially lacking in resilience but that doesn’t mean they arent experiencing genuine mental health conditions.

How else do you think depression or anxiety can be diagnosed but based on what the lerson says? 😵‍💫😵‍💫
As far as I’m aware there isn’t a blood test that shows depression.

DaffodilsGalore · 16/03/2025 21:32

Sorry @FumingTRex
I wanted to reply to @InALonelyWorld post rather than yours….

DBSFstupid · 16/03/2025 21:33

MidnightPatrol · 16/03/2025 21:07

I think people are very quick to label normal emotions / bad behaviour in children as ‘mental health problems’.

Particularly the vague labels of ADHD and anxiety, which seem to often involve a lot of self diagnosis.

It’s bizarre.

Edited

Doesn't it.

DBSFstupid · 16/03/2025 21:39

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 21:00

So what are genuine mental health problems?

Ummmm... let me see...
Schizophrenia
Severe panic attacks
Severe anxiety
Bulimia
Anorexia
Bi-polar
Mania
Depression, Manic depression,
Anything that means the person isn't able to live a normal life.
Would you like to add any? There are plenty unfortunately...

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 21:42

DBSFstupid · 16/03/2025 21:39

Ummmm... let me see...
Schizophrenia
Severe panic attacks
Severe anxiety
Bulimia
Anorexia
Bi-polar
Mania
Depression, Manic depression,
Anything that means the person isn't able to live a normal life.
Would you like to add any? There are plenty unfortunately...

What is severe anxiety and depression?

InALonelyWorld · 16/03/2025 21:42

FumingTRex · 16/03/2025 21:06

I agree the GP situation is dire, but diagnosis of common MH conditions like depression and anxiety is always based on what the person says. There probably are people faking it, but it’s always been that way - under Thatcher huge numbers were moved from unemployment benefit to sickness benefit, sometimes for questionable reasons.

I agree that people in their 20s seem especially lacking in resilience but that doesn’t mean they arent experiencing genuine mental health conditions.

I completely agree with what your saying and there does need a middle ground for a fix to work but the question is how do you weed out those playing the system without taking it out on those who actually do need the extra support. However the government seem to only want a this or that, either/or solution rather than an actual fix.

It's annoying and I completely understand why people can't, or dont even want to, work at the moment. If I'm honest MH services and benefits would be the last thing on my list to tackle to fix the state of the nation but some people also need to realise that the more people who continue excuse poor behaviour and the odd difficult emotion/situation as a ND or MH crisis are actually helping the nation system remain broken rather than fixing it.

DBSFstupid · 16/03/2025 21:46

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 21:42

What is severe anxiety and depression?

Are you being deliberately obtuse?
Look it up.

Anotherdaywasted · 16/03/2025 21:49

marshmallowmix · 16/03/2025 20:38

That thread is nasty and awful I’ve been set upon over there ! Yep the poll on here shows how people really feel which is good..x

Your thread is very different to this one, which focuses on MH issues in general, you shouldn't believe everyone on this thread agrees with you and your blatant ableism. Yours is a run of the mill benefit bashing thread that focuses solely on ADHD and the free BMWs people with ADHD apparently receive.

Gloriia · 16/03/2025 21:54

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 21:42

What is severe anxiety and depression?

Those that require significant doses of medication and reviews with hcps.

Not someone who gets a low dose of antidepressants on repeat and manages a full and active life.

528htz · 16/03/2025 21:55

DaffodilsGalore · 16/03/2025 21:30

How else do you think depression or anxiety can be diagnosed but based on what the lerson says? 😵‍💫😵‍💫
As far as I’m aware there isn’t a blood test that shows depression.

Brain scans and brain activity measurements can detect changes when a person is significantly affected by depression, ongoing generalised anxiety state etc. These tests are increasingly sophisticated and would certainly be capable of identifying someone who was faking it, so to speak.

But, most people can't even access a simple GP appointment let alone the government paying for brain analysis on thousands of people.

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 21:58

DBSFstupid · 16/03/2025 21:46

Are you being deliberately obtuse?
Look it up.

No I’m not. It has been stated that people are saying they have anxiety and depression and taking away from people with genuine anxiety and depression. What does that look like?

InALonelyWorld · 16/03/2025 22:01

DaffodilsGalore · 16/03/2025 21:30

How else do you think depression or anxiety can be diagnosed but based on what the lerson says? 😵‍💫😵‍💫
As far as I’m aware there isn’t a blood test that shows depression.

Since this was actually for me. You know fine well a blood test or whatever isn't what I meant. Nor was I talking about general anxiety and depression. There are other mental health issues you know?!

This is a hill I'm prepared to die on. These days everything is alleged as depression or anxiety. Feeling a valid feeling like nervousness for a date for example is often passed off as anxiety now. IT IS NOT!! Feeling crap and eating only ice cream for a few days because you've been dumped IS NOT full blown depression.

Taking the time to see a person in the flesh would actually help assess the situation further and see if everyone is actually now anxious, depressed or mentally ill and would help form an accurate decision for diagnosis AND treatment where needed. A F2F appointment can benefit both scenarios more than a TP appointment and a script of antidepressants being thrown at you, don't you think?