Is it something I said

[Lilaclala]

Hi, I have been casually dating a guy, have been due to see him tonight but I've not heard from him from since Wednesday evening. Our last exchange was: him...'we might have to take the wine to bed and work through those condoms'
Me: 'sounds like good plan, although you might have to periodically check the condom is still on this time 🤣' (it fell off inside me last time, which I told him about). I have heard nothing since then, despite him being keen before. Have I said something to offend him? I've asked him today if he's still up for tonight but have heard nothing....🤷‍♀️

Why are you assuming youve done something wrong?

Sounds a bit like you killed the mood and maybe made it a bit serious?

It is strange to assume you have ‘offended’ him. However, it does seem clear that he’s not interested any more.

Did h take it that you think he is small in that compartment?

That's definitely not what I was suggesting. And no he's not small. I think it's because he came a couple of times in the same condom

How long have you been seeing him? And was it regular meet ups or just here and there?

It could have been misconstrued that you were saying his cock was too small for the condom?

Or maybe he’s just an arse if he’s ignoring you for that comment! It’s fair enough to not want a condom to come off! It’s him, not you

He might have been deterred by your buzz-kill reaponse, as it's only a casual thing?

Why is that a thing change it ffs

He's probably just changed his mind or got a better offer. He wouldn't have brought up the subjects of condoms if he was embarrassed about the falling off incident.

If he is that petty that he would be offended or put off by a very innocent comment, you are well rid.

I hate people who ghost, are inconsistent with communication or fade out. Just be straight up!

You have done nothing wrong, I really would ditch this one.

And why did you have to tell him the condom came off inside you 😆 surely he was aware there was no condom on his willy afterwards

I've only been seeing him about once a month if that, for the last few months, but regularly texting

Ew, why is he rationing the condoms?

Agree, that’s a daft thing to do really

Ok maybe he has found someone else

He said he didn't realise, and just assumed it came off somewhere. Should I not have mentioned anything? I kind of feel bad for 'killing the mood' when we were flirting, but I meant it in a lightheaded jokey way

Ok maybe I'm just jealous the sex must have been so wild he had no idea where the condom went!

Huh 🤔 didn’t he do sex education ??? It’s one orgasm per condom
thats so yuk, how are you not horrified and have left him already 🤦‍♀️

Hate to point out the obvious, but are you sure it was an accident? Stealthing is a thing (though I'm sure it's illegal now).

Guys generally know whether there's latex on their penis or not.

No I don't think that is the case. He gas 3 kids already. I doubt he'd want anymore. Definitely nothing I said then?

@Lilaclala we don't know if it was anything you said (or did) because we weren't there. Anyway, what difference would it make? Presumably you say and do things that you think are right for you. If he doesn't like that it means you are not compatible. And, he's decided he doesn't want to see you and you will probably never know why. I really feel for you, this has happened to me often. But, don't waste any more time wondering if it's your 'fault'.

Just for future reference, change the condom every time he has an orgasm. No wonder he’s got three kids. 😅

You won't like my opinion as it's old fashioned but the quicker you jump into bed with SOME men, the quicker they dump you as they don't see you as being long term relationship material.