What do you think of this family house rule?

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People in the house are not allowed to come downstairs in the morning without being fully dressed/clean and moderately groomed.

This does not apply to school kids during the week. But at the weekends/school holidays memebers of the household are not allowed to be in pyjamas. They can veg out on the sofa but they have to be groomed and in clean clothes. Trackies are allowed.

Abusive

You want your kids to hate living with you, you crack on!

Ah, I think that’s where we differ. My teens don’t sit around watching tv on a weekend morning.

The mum of the house (not saying if it’s me or not)

Why the fuck not? Own your views!

Being dressed and being clean are different things.

We all go downstairs in our pyjamas, we are all clean.

It’s not just about what you want or your comfort. You can’t enforce this on other people.

Dh tends to be the up and dressed sort, although even he often has his coffee and breakfast first.

He doesn’t try to enforce it on me and the dc, because he’s normal and not a controlling arsehole.

I like to have my coffee and breakfast and get my bowels moving before I shower and put on clean underwear. Would that be ok with you op? Or would I have to explain my bowel movements to you if I lived in your house?

Ridiculous rule.

It wouldn't be for me. In our house people can stay in their PJs all day if we're not going anywhere. That's mainly because we have a lot of hobbies and activities so on a rare down day, I'm happy to let them do whatever they want. Personally I like to be dressed by at least 10ish but that's just me and everyone else can do what they like. I'm not a fan of pointless rules and this seems pointless to me personally

As a teen, I was forced to not wear PJs. Sometimes I just wanted a day vegetating in my PJ's at the weekend, and I hated that it wasn't allowed.

Also why can't you wear trakkies in your own house??

I grew up in the 80s/90s and I don't remember coming downstairs in pjs or dressing gowns and neither did my parents.
I often do at weekends. Dh tends to put joggers on but he wears a pair several times before putting them in the wash! And he is not stinky, and does not smell of BO. Sometimes I go out for a run first thing on a Saturday without showering first, and no one has backed away in horror !
Kids often are in pjs and dressing gowns until mid-late mornings and no one dies. It's not something I could get het up about

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Sorry but that’s all a bit controlling. during the week our kids come down to eat IN their uniforms to make sure they’re up and ready to leave in time. If they came down in their PJs though it wouldn’t be the end of the world.
Weekends, of course it’s more relaxed but they tend to have stuff to get dressed for anyway so it’s not like they’d be in PJs all day long.

All these people who wouldn't dream of going downstairs in their pyjamas - are you the same people who never ever fart, who take a shit in a different house to their partner and who spend their whole lives worrying about airborne shit particulates?
Weird as fuck.

Weekends we all have sports stuff to go to or there’s a dog to be walked…

My teenagers spend hours in the bathroom. I have no concerns about their cleanliness. It’s more likely to be me wandering about in pyjamas, waiting for the hot water.

I grew up in a bungalow. I assume if you were my parents you'd have expected me to emerge for my morning wee in clean clothes and a french plait.

Love these threads.

Mumsnet: "Yes, YABU"
OP: "No I'm not"

Why ask then?!

This is very much a you problem, OP, not a them problem. You don't like the idea of them sitting in pyjamas. You like people to be groomed at all times. This is a you problem.

I think that's very controlling
I love getting up on a day off, no need to get dressed right away and sipping over a coffee or two.

Agreed. I have 3 kids...2 teens and a 7 year old. The oldest child in particular is so busy, I'm normally out of the house taking her somewhere for 0700 both weekend days. The younger teen is getting there too, normally only one weekend day on average. Plus 4 evenings a week during school time...so on the rare occasion that we don't actually have to go anywhere, I don't care what everyone wears!

Thinking there is a reason for this rule … like certain persons having too much bits on display and/or being not clean.

Or sick of slovenly family members never “starting” the day.

Friend said her sofa started to have body odor smell as daughter in cami PJs lying on cushions or armpit on arm of sofa.

Can picture females showing too much in boxers and cami, man w bits showing from boxers or shirtless boys ….

Rules are made for a reason … I’ll not question this.

Bit tricky in my house as bedrooms and bathrooms are on the same floor as the kitchen and living room 😁
Also what about if you want to go for a run or so some exercise are you expected to get ready for the day shower etc, exercise and then get re changed??
Each to their own but sometimes kids and parents will get dressed as soon as up sometimes will jump in the shower straight away and sometimes we'll keep our pj's on until midday!
As it happens I have my pj's on since I got in at 6 and they are the pj's I had on last nights 😱

I suppose if you have teens who don’t leave the house all day you might want them dressed, ours don’t do that…

See I think that's why people knock heads on this a bit. Not everyone sleeps in PJs but they like to wear them around the house. They're warm and comfortable but not always slept in.

I think what's confusing me about this is the idea that pyjamas are 'dirty'.

They're pretty much the only clothing not worn outside. Doesn't that make them cleaner than everything else?

Everyone who is giving out possibly doesn’t have kids who land downstairs in whatever they wore to bed (sometimes boxers) with hair all over the place and sometimes no socks/ totally unmatched socks. They are willing to stay there most of a Saturday or Sunday and if someone is coming they might not even be quick to move. I love your rules, feel free to chat to people here!!!

My dm had this rule when I was a child - I now wear pajamas at home whenever I can and so do my dc, love a pajama day