What do you think of this family house rule?

[Porcell]

People in the house are not allowed to come downstairs in the morning without being fully dressed/clean and moderately groomed.

This does not apply to school kids during the week. But at the weekends/school holidays memebers of the household are not allowed to be in pyjamas. They can veg out on the sofa but they have to be groomed and in clean clothes. Trackies are allowed.

Surely if they are not at school then they'll be cleaning chimneys and so they'll need to wear more casual clothes?

They can 'spruce up' later after a day up the flu with a dip in the tin bath in front of the fire with some bread and dripping.

That's what 'appens in our 'ouse, and everybodies 'appy. And God forbid if they're not.🤬

I've just had surgery on my back, it's only me and my teen but that was even suggested to me I'd actually reply 'fuck of your grace'

I agree. I bet the kids can't wait to leave home. It all sounds a bit Hyacinth Bucket to me.

Just let the kids enjoy their childhood.

My 7 year old likes to be naked. We have a rule saying that if once he's up he needs pants on, but will stay in pants unless we get any visitors or he needs to go out. My limit is pants.

Sounds like the mum has a massive stick up.her bum. I imagine this isn't the only thing she is stressy about.

Of course the goal is independent kids. But normal independent kids not kids that flee from a nasty controlled environment and never have a good relationship with their parent and need therapy to deal with it. You need to get help.

Or you could just try not moaning at them?

It’s not a rule, but we do this. Up, showered, teeth brushed and dressed. Takes 15 minutes to get ready. DD comes down in her Pjs and then dressed after breakfast (saves the outfit change if she spills her food).

Not a rule, but it’s how we’re most comfortable approaching each day. Do whatever works for you!

OP - AIBU
Everyone- Yes
OP - no I'm not 🙄

Well, there is another way forward on that. You could unclench and stop moaning?

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I just don’t understand this either. Why buy clothes you find uncomfortable to wear???? You try them on, you think they are too tight, you put them back. You don’t buy them fgs!

We are clearly the lone ones on this thread but that was my family’s thinking too - being showered and dressed set up good mental health for the day. Maybe others disagree but I still find that it helps reset and refresh me in the morning! There wasn’t anything draconian about it and I don’t harbour some hideous grudge over it 😂 we just kind of did it as a habit, same as taking off your shoes when you enter the house or whatever

If your kids have BO then they need to shower before getting into clean clothes. So it’s not a 5 min job. I think it’s mean to make them get dressed at the weekend for breakfast. Agree they shouldn’t be in PJs all day and need up, and washed and clean clothes by mid-morning and lunchtime at the latest.

but if the mum thinks they’re dirty and stink, then they really need washed too before getting dressed. If they’re not dirty and stinky then the mum is just being a self-entitled twat

"Nasty controlled environment"? Needing therapy? Because they are asked to get washed and dressed in the morning before they lounge around? Behave.

I think it's reasonable. Don't people get excited on here 🤣

That is going to be the least of your worries !

I don’t really understand the point of the rule. Assuming they have good hygiene and wash regularly then they are hardly dirty after a night of sleep.

I usually think ‘your house, your rules’, but this one seems arbitrary and pointless. How old are your kids and what do they think?

It's bollocks.

OP if this is you then I do think you’re being unreasonable. If your kids smell, handle it properly and sensitively.

maybe teach by example and always appear dressed and groomed but imposing that onto teenagers when you haven’t brought them up that way seems arbitrary

If you’re talking about someone else, then you’re also unreasonable because that’s a bit snidely. Unless you’re one of the teens

Controlling and not a very relaxing place to live.

@Summerbaby333 I’m with you too!

Nah. Tbh, while the adults get the final day in so many aspects of a household...as they should, I don't think attire is one of them. It just isn't up to me what other people wear around the house. Suitable for different scenarios outside of it? Yes. Not physically inappropriate? Yes. But other than that it is just a preference, and I don't have the right to assert that over others.

By all means say they can't eat in uniform or whatever, but that can mean coming down in PJs, eating, back up.

However mine have been quite capable of eating without getting food down themselves for a while now.

All this get showered and dressed is good for mental health. Ffs ridiculous . We are. Nit talking aBout adults with mh issues who need assistance in dressing.

not having controlling parents and ridiculous rules and being able to relax at home at the weekends will be a hell of a lot better for your teens mental health