What do you think of this family house rule?

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People in the house are not allowed to come downstairs in the morning without being fully dressed/clean and moderately groomed.

This does not apply to school kids during the week. But at the weekends/school holidays memebers of the household are not allowed to be in pyjamas. They can veg out on the sofa but they have to be groomed and in clean clothes. Trackies are allowed.

Absolutely ridiculous.

If you can't slob around in your PJ's at home, then when the fuck can you?

You're obviously the mum.

If you are so confident that you are right, why are you asking?

Your family obviously don’t like it. Everyone is telling you that you’re being mental.

Are you going to carry on this controlling behaviour?

Apart from anything else, I don’t like to brush my teeth just before I have coffee.

What were you hoping for from this thread OP?

You’re continuing to miss the point. If you are happier in loungewear, then you wear it and be happy. Enforcing your preference on the rest of your family is unnecessary and controlling.

If your DH decided loungewear was too slobby and announced a new “house rule” that you were all to appear in morning suits, would you accept it?

It just seems overly controlling to me. Fine to say teens should be clean by showering at leastX times per week - but not that they need to be dressed with their hair done just to sit around watching tv.

As long as it's not every day, I think there's something very nice about getting up, slinging on a dressing gown and slippers over your pjs and having breakfast/watching tv/having a cuppa with your parents. I know I enjoyed it with mine as a teen.

Surely it's easier to just kick them out at 18 if that's the end goal.

Weirdly controlling.

Being that much of a pretentious arsehole and then allowing trackies.

Make it make sense

Is this a home or is it a jail ? This is awful.

AIBU?
YES
NO I'M NOT

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I'm with the WHY IS THIS UNREASONABLE? crowd. I hated my teens slobbing around in pjs when it was 'day time'. Fine to pop down for a coffee but then get ready for the day. I think getting clean and dressed is good for your mental health.

Not in dressing gown but loungewear - hair not brushed, teeth not cleaned…. No speaking. Straight to coffee.

Getting strong Hyacinth Bucket vibes from this post. Does the household rule maker also have a penchant for candle light suppers?

Very weirdly controlling. I wouldn't be enforcing that on people but if I wanted to do it myself then that's fine.

How is being clean pretentious?

Is this a house or a boot camp? If the latter then yanbu.

Each to their own. Dh chases out teens mid mornings to shower and change. I'm not fussed

This. Totally this. If its just a thing and not an issue why start a thread. Because your kids are obviously unhappy with your controlling begaviour

I think it sounds utterly batshit to push arbitrary rules that only serve to make people feel uncomfortable and unable to relax in their own homes.

If anyone tried it in my house I'd walk around nude just to spite them.

This thread is bizarre. Why are kids going to be miserable because they have to get changed first thing? My dcs have done this all their life and they are not miserable. I agree about the mental switch and the dcs being in a more positive state of mind. They have a lie in for as long as they want but once they’re up then it’s wash and change. It’s hardly controlling.

Fine to pop down for a coffee but then get ready for the day.

But that's not the OPs rule. The rule here is don't set foot downstairs until you're 'groomed', whatever the fuck that means...

This way the teens don’t have to be moaned at

Why the obsession with clean?