What do you think of this family house rule?

[Porcell]

People in the house are not allowed to come downstairs in the morning without being fully dressed/clean and moderately groomed.

This does not apply to school kids during the week. But at the weekends/school holidays memebers of the household are not allowed to be in pyjamas. They can veg out on the sofa but they have to be groomed and in clean clothes. Trackies are allowed.

There is a massive difference between independent kids that have been nurtured and prepared for the big wide world, and then kids who are gone the minute they can because they can’t stand to be at home with stringent and, quite frankly, rather austere rules in force.

My goal is happy kids and happy home.

Batshit. There’s an unwritten rule in our house about getting dressed by a certain time (say 10?) but if they can eat breakfast in their PJs during the week, why the hell not at the weekend? Sounds very joyless to me.

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If they leave it will be because they don't want to spend time with you, not because being forced to get dressed in order to slob about downstairs made them develop life skills!

I think it's fair enough tbh. I'm sure she has her reasons.

It's not an official, strict rule in our house but I do like the kids washed and dressed fairly soon after they're up and breakfasted. Otherwise if I leave them in PJs I just find that they are more drawn to the TV or their tablets and their moods are just...flatter. If they are washed and dressed they tend to go outside in the garden or do something a bit more enriching. They seem more energised and it feels like the day has actually started.

Surely children should be showered and dressed each day for school?

Adults who are going out to work I'd imagine wouldn't need prompting to bathe and be 'groomed'. Though if groomed means women must be in makeup with blow dried hair then it's a no from me.

I personally think as long as people are clothed and don't actively reek of BO then they're alright to walk around their own homes. It's their own private space.

If they live alone then they only need shut the curtains and they can forgo clothing and showering fully if they wish.

Controlling and weird.
That said, I don't like lounging about all day in the night before pjs, but better to lead by example than make a rule.
I'm also not a fan of spending all morning in bed asleep or just watching TV the entire day, I thinks it's unhealthy and depressing. But i wouldn't try and regulate against it, just set better routines and habits as much as you can.
I would rather people were up and dressed before midday, but I'd be really resentful if I couldn't wander out to my kitchen and make a cup of tea in the early morning and drjnking it on the sofa without having to be 'properly' up, so it it wouldn't be fair to inflict it on other people just because I don't like their time management.

Yeh. Will everyone be lined up like the Von Trapps?

And sometimes on bad weather days, we do a PJ day as a treat - the kids love it!

most of the other days we are going out anyway, so have to get dressed. Do you guys not go out much at the weekend?

How is being in a clean hoodie and tracksuit bottoms at the breakfast table any less cosy than pjs? The kids are not expected to be in a morning suit with top hat.

Of course. But ideally you would like them to visit you occasionally. And when they gave their own children bring your grandchildren to see yiu.

You haven't got a hope in hell of either of the above happening with your ludicrous controlling rules. They will be out if the door at 18 and you'll never see them again.

Sounds like a horrid environment to live in. No one wants rubbish rules in their own home.

Teens rocking up hair messy and comfortable in their own skin and own home is so much nicer - you have your rules when they leave.

So what if they slob on the sofa - having a nice time - stress free.

Who are all these people waking up stinking and stewing in filth.

Wtaf are you doing that you’re so smelly and filthy after a nights sleep?

But it’s confusing if they can do it during the week and not at the weekend. Just why?! Seems a bit jobsworth to me.

I’m laughing at the responses, this was a rule in my house and many of my friends growing up! I didn’t think it was particularly weird at the time - seemed pretty normal to shower, get dressed and then go downstairs for breakfast - but the responses are making me rethink that!

We could occasionally “slob out” on a Saturday morning if friends were staying over / vice versa but otherwise yeah up and dressed first!

Amazing antidote to today's vulgar slob-like living.

I am OK with coffee in pyjamas but can't stand wearing them for much longer. My dc does wear pyjamas on the weekend until we have to go out, easier to let that slide than keep pestering.
What I am firm on is shoes off once entered the house and school uniforms should be changed straight away.

Sounds like a thoroughly miserable and awful place to live.

They might as well be in the Army.

Groomed?!

There is no chance that rule would exist in my house. I love slobbing around on the sofa at the weekend until midday and looking a right state 👍

And I thought I was ott for being annoyed when dh is still in his pj's in the afternoon 🤣. For the kids I really don't care. If they're not going anywhere they can hang out all day in their pj's as long as they take a shower and change pj in the evening. Normally they have something planned during the day and can stay in pj's until it's time to leave. I feel sorry for your kids not being able to have their friggin breakfast in pyjamas. Batshit crazy is my opinion. YABVU

@porcell

Independent children or children that hate their controlling parent/s?! Very different. Imagine not being allowed to wear PJs in your own home. Ridiculous. What a petty little person this rule maker must be.

The mum of the house (not saying if it’s me or not) hates the teens slobbing around in pyjamas. She thinks it encourages people to start the day off right and creates a nicer home environment. She doesn’t mind the kids lazing around just not in dirty pyjamas with bo.

Fine but don't expect them to like you when they're adults. The older they'll get, the more they'll realise how unreasonable you are

Me too! What a lot of drama. There are literally people saying that her kids will leave home as soon as they possibly can because of this "up and dressed" rule 🙄