What do you think of this family house rule?

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People in the house are not allowed to come downstairs in the morning without being fully dressed/clean and moderately groomed.

This does not apply to school kids during the week. But at the weekends/school holidays memebers of the household are not allowed to be in pyjamas. They can veg out on the sofa but they have to be groomed and in clean clothes. Trackies are allowed.

Op the whole thread is thinking you're a control freak and it's unreasonable to impose your wannabe victoriana pretentiousness and control freakery to people in their own house making everyone uncomfortable cos you like it so. Read the room. What else do you like controlling, food, any other rules..

Honestly, I couldn't care less what DH wears when he gets up first thing to make me a cup of tea (to drink in bed). I could raise my standards and insist he gets showered and washed first is suppose, but then I'd have to wait for my tea.

I like this idea. I think it sets up the day nicely and installs good routines and habits. I don’t do it myself but I might try and be more proactive like this

Yes, definitely agree everyone should be washed and dressed before coming down / into the common rooms.

It's not a 5 minute job. I would want to shower, wash my face etc before putting on clean clothes for the day and I would like to have a cup of tea or coffee before I do that, and I'd be fucking pissed off if someone tried to imply there is something slobby about popping downstairs in my dressing gown to make a drink.

You sound so controlling.

Its one thing saying something like, you expect everyone up and dressed by 10am maybe? But I don't see why there is any issue with walking downstairs in pyjamas or dressing gown to make a drink or similar.

If they don’t go out, my kids basically stay in thier pjs. What’s the point of dressing up if you’re not going any where? I get dressed everyday as that’s my personal choice. DS comes straight home from college and changes into pj bottoms… dd sometimes changes depends… we never dress up for Christmas. We spend it at home. Most of us wear xmas pjs all day. I guess it’s your house your rules but asking on here your probs not gonna get the reaction you hoped for.

Assuming they need to get washed first, how is that a five minute job?

I don't function in the morning without my cup of tea, so I'm certainly not going to get dressed before going down to the kitchen to make it.

What would create a nicer home environment is the mum of the house not implementing ludicrous, controlling, batshit twattery. You realize at some point you can't police when your kids last changed their pants don't you? What will you do then? Decide you'll only hug your adult children if they can guarantee they have clean socks on and didn't spend too long in a dressing down earlier?

I can be bothered to RTFT but at some point your children will get older, and nonsense like this will be what keeps them from coming to your house.

This is absolutely a you problem so deal with it.

Absolutely ridiculous! My kids, husband and myself sometimes come down in their pjs have breakfast and then go and get dressed! Firstly we have animals to deal with that won't wait until we have all preened, secondly I don't want or them to change again also brush your teeth etc after eating/doing morning stuff and thirdly it's our home and if they want to slob about all day in their pjs who cares! If royalty is coming round I let them know the night before!!

Not for me, because I don’t live in Victorian middle class England and I don’t give a shit about apppearance. if it works for you, knock yourself out, I say.

Clean clothes at all times, as for the rest of it, crazy!

But to answer more seriously….
I would never do this because whilst it is my role to model and encourage the behaviour I think is appropriate, I don’t think “my way or the highway” is a good or productive model for family life.

I didn’t grow up with such rigid rules and somehow I turned out ok and don’t sit in stinking PJs for 8 hours at the weekend. Most mentally healthy people want to be up, clean, dressed, out, and doing stuff after the acute teenage phase. Most people don’t need a rule book to govern their mornings in order to achieve this pinnacle of adulting,

How come your DC smell of BO? I've raised teens and I can't remember any of them stinking.
Maybe the laundry system needs to be looked at and improved or maybe they aren't washing properly.
Either way, slobbing around in clean fragrant 😊 PJ's isn't a problem in our house.

Oh dear 🙈 we are also that family who don't put PJs on until going to bed (washed before) unless showers are done earlier (like 3/4pm and not going out again). So it's rare that PJs are worn downstairs at all 🙊 12:12 hour rule clearly (/s)

I can assure my children are very happy 😂 2 out of 3 are like me, with other one being dependent on mood - they would stay in bedtime stuff all day if had free reign to stay on devices...they are usually the one being nudged 😉 but we also have the flexibility to allow them to sleep in on a weekday (mine are up by 4-5am generally/6-7am for one 😭 if sleep at all!) if needed (usually around a growth spurt). Our day is typically in full swing/activities by 8am 🙈

I would think there was a backstory, such as a teenager who refused to wash.

I’d hate to ‘live’ like that. Sounds like a prison

Nope. I roll out of bed, throw my dressing gown on and head straight to the kettle to make my first coffee of the day.

I had this house rule growing up. 100% also applied to kids!!! I’d have been asked to go back and change/ groom if I’d not turned up ‘ready’.

and certainly no trackies allowed unless a sports activity was on the schedule.
A dress was considered most appropriate. And you’d usually get changed again to leave the house, as it would be sort of a ‘home/ breakfast dress’. Weekday you might eat in your school/ work clothes.

I still kinda follow it unless I’m on my own, except that I wear specific loungewear, a dress etc would be a little much for other people.

It’s not downton abbey is it, it’s meant to be home! Crazy rule. I can understand having rules about taking off your uniform in case bits can be reworn etc but I dislike the rest and would never live like that.

If you think a few extra hours in your PJs makes you “stinking” you likely have more issues than you realise…

You'd have a job to do that in my house - the bathroom is downstairs!

Me, plus anyone staying, goes down in the morning looking like a scarecrow.

I think it's uptight and not what I would want. But what other people do in their homes is not my business!

Family house rules? Thos is not a family house. I have a friend who is controlling like this. She had a lot of issues and used control as a weapon. Not one of her 3 kids speak to her. She will tell you she has no idea why.

Why would the pyjamas be dirty? Do you never wash the bedlinen?