What do you think of this family house rule?

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People in the house are not allowed to come downstairs in the morning without being fully dressed/clean and moderately groomed.

This does not apply to school kids during the week. But at the weekends/school holidays memebers of the household are not allowed to be in pyjamas. They can veg out on the sofa but they have to be groomed and in clean clothes. Trackies are allowed.

So you hate your kids and want them gone at 18?

Waiting for the update from OP saying they’re her step kids.

I would hate that. I l like to swan around in a fancy dressing gown pretending to be in a Noel Coward play. If I can't be glamorously louche and eccentric in my own home, what's the point of weekends?

Rules for the sake of having rules.

My Nan had this house rule. She was very fond of making sure everything appeared perfect (in her mind) to outsiders. She was obsessed with appearances. The reality was quite different.

I would be wary of anyone who admitted to this behaviour.

Well no one in my house actually wears nightwear so might as well get dressed before going in the front room ( I have a flat so no stairs)

I kind of like it. It sets a schedule and a mindset for cleanliness and order. I couldn’t get my kids to do it though but I like the idea of it.

Well should hope people would be dressed by lunchtime. Breakfast maybe ok in nightwear but lunch is just scummy

And I can say I find weird when you go someone’s house on the weekend and the children are still in the pajamas, it looks messy.

I would hate living that way.

thankfully I am in charge of my house and it is ASD friendly unless there is a special occasion. Everyone wears whatever they want.

Torture! It’s your home you should be able to relax.

So if your children's friends have a sleepover, they all have to emerge the next morning fully 'groomed'??

Being dressed for lunch is fairly normal.

Omg not…not…messy <faints>

It’s the OP.

I see your point. I think in that case, it's fine but at a certain point I'd want them showered and fresh pjs on or possibly leave shower until evening and as long as they've washed face/brushed teeth and brushed hair I think that's acceptable, no?

It is you though 😂

Not on a weekend when you’ve been working all bloody week or like pp with a newborn baby. Why does it matter?

Hardly scummy 🙄

How old are the people that have to obey this rule? Does it include adults? I want to come early down in my PJs to get a cup of coffee to take back to bed for a bit.

This rule would make it like living in a Travelodge in my own house. Having get dressed and brush my hair before I can go down for breakfast. Weird.

I had a strict upbringing and not being ad to have breakfast in pyjamas was one of the things I resented the.most.

It must be you though OP? Otherwise you wouldn’t be getting defensive. I’d hate it, I love a pj day. We all work hard all week and if we have a quiet weekend why not?

I think this is an okay rule. I had a similar one during the lockdowns - mainly because spending days on end at home and not even getting dressed is a route to depression.

These days I usually ask / tell my children to get dressed and tooth brushed by 11.

Growing up I always got dressed when I got up. We never really did nice PJs and dressing gowns. It wasn’t a rule, I just never did it.

However my DC spend a lot of time in PJs and it doesn’t really bother me. I always think teens are meant to lounge around. Your whole life after teenage years is spent running and racing. Let them chill a bit.

Once they are doing some activity/exercise, keeping up and school and generally happy, I don’t really care if the rest of the time is on the couch. Good for them I say !!!

Same in my house (well, flat).

I can't bear the DC getting up unnecessarily late, slobbing around in slept in pajamas, teeth unbrushed, hair unbrushed. It's grim and just yuck. Fine to have them slob around in clean pajamas, after basic ablutions (including a shower if one wasn't had the night before). Get up, get clean, eat breakfast then do whatever you have to do starting with getting any chores/work out of the way preferably.

So if I wanted to make a cup of tea at 6 am I would need to be dressed first? Not a chance! I like to be showered and dressed by about 10am but before that I am wallowing in my jammies. I am a retired woman. I can do as I please.