What do you think of this family house rule?

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People in the house are not allowed to come downstairs in the morning without being fully dressed/clean and moderately groomed.

This does not apply to school kids during the week. But at the weekends/school holidays memebers of the household are not allowed to be in pyjamas. They can veg out on the sofa but they have to be groomed and in clean clothes. Trackies are allowed.

I usually go downstairs in my pjs to get a glass of water first thing. I then shower and get ready. I wouldn't want to not be allowed a water before getting ready.

OP you’re definitely the mum i dont know why you’re pretending otherwise.

My MIL has this rule. Must be dressed for lunch, no pyjamas. Lunch is also served at 1215, no exceptions, even immediately after having a baby (lived there temporarily during lockdown with a newborn). Batshit.

In our house people do what that feel like doing. There are no set rules. My husband always gets dressed before coming downstairs. I never do. The kids are older and sometimes do and sometimes don’t.

I mean, it’s a bit much! We don’t lounge about in our pyjamas all day (unless I’ll) but would have coffee/breakfast before getting dressed in the weekend for sure. Especially as weekday mornings are a rush to get everyone up, dressed and out, when we don’t have to be out early we take time to relax

I don't like it all.

I'm down with this, tbh. We do this by default in our house.

Nailed it. Fuck. That.

That doesn't sound like my definition of home life.

There is nothing wrong with getting dressed before going downstairs, it's more the fact that it is a rule and there isn't an option to not get dressed and be 'moderately groomed'. Very controlling and the person enforcing it is weird.

I grew up in a house like that, and bed had to be made as well.

The cats would object loudly and vigorously.

I feed and water the cats then make my coffee in my pjs. Then I work out and shower and dress for the day.

A dress code in the home that applies at certain times is rigid and stupid and senseless. That it only applies at certain times, the person who made this should go work for the Parking police. This just teaches the kids how to be a rigid asshole.

Sounds hideous.

I just wouldn't come downstairs then. Sod that.

Dressed by lunch is very different to first thing in the morning

I get that for some people it makes them ready for the day or sets their frame of mind and that's obviously up to the individual. But in my mind it's imposing a rule for the sake of it by insisting others do the same.

My rules for my own teens are treating others respectfully, not leaving dirty clothes, plates, sports kit etc lying around, clear up after making food (or creating a mess) let me know where you're going/who you're with and pitch in with household chores. What time they shower and whether they eat breakfast wearing their pjs has no bearing on anyone else and is of no consequence - I don't see the need to set - or enforce - any rules around that.

Well, I don’t have a rule, but I would never wear PJs all day and would not allow my children too either. None of us has ever suggested it - it’s a non issue!

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I do, twice a day minimum and one of my sons’ pocket money is based on sweeping too! He leaves a trail in his wake as he potters about!!!!!!

I'd say the parents sound like control freaks and also don't think their kids are capable of being independent.
My teens get up, have breakfast then get a shower without these rules. And if they wanted to stay in PJ's all day without a shower occasionally I wouldn't really mind.

"not saying if it's me I not"

😂 It's quite clearly you. I'd hate to be your kid. As long as showers have been had/teeth brushed/face washed/hair brushed does it really matter if they're wearing pjs? No one is saying they let their family members stink up the place with BO 😂

Mine are even worse, my DSs just wear their (clean) boxers lounging around the house, maybe a T-shirt if it’s chilly. The horror 😱

What are you all doing in bed that your pjs are so filthy and stinky? You're not demanding showers so presumably it's the PJ's that you think reek. Do you let them have clean ones or do they only have one pair each? I can't think why else they'd be so dirty compared to their joggers and t-shirt by 6 pm (and equivalent amount of time worn).

As a rule it probably just seems normal to the kids if they've always done it, I suppose it depends what the sanctions are for disobeying.

I get the rule and why the parent would want to do it, but sleeping in pyjamas one night does not make them dirty or smell like bo.....

I hope she has a little bell she tinkles when lunch is ready? None of this shouting “grub’s up” shit.

If the kids are coming down in pjs, I very much doubt they've had a shower. Surely we're talking about out of bed and downstairs in pjs, not put of bed, shower and putting last night's PJ's back on

And you'd be right