To think it is obvious that you are roasting the chicken...

[Neverenoughbiscuits]

DH and I both been out with different DC today. Had a discussion in the middle of the day around what we were having for dinner (Chicken Caesar salad with diced roast potatoes). Likelihood was that he'd be home first and would get dinner on.

We have a whole chicken (no other chicken) in the fridge for the salad. He sent me a message asking if he "should roast the chicken". I didn't see the message so have just spoken to him and apparently he was waiting for me to reply so hasn't put the chicken on. Given that we have no other chicken and he is aware of what we were having, AIBU to assume that it was bloody obvious what to do with the chicken and that he didn't need me to tell him?

I'm pretty grumpy that we're going to eat really late and he's having a strop because I asked him if he thought we'd be eating it raw.

Weaponised incompetence. He's a grown man and shouldn't need you to tell him to cook chicken. YANBU

I wouldn't necessarily know if the chicken should be roasted whole, or cut into pieces and baked? But yeah it does seem obvious with hindsight it would need cooking and that was the only chicken.

I could think maybe the whole chicken might be for a full roast another day and maybe I was to buy a couple breasts instead to use for the salad? But only if I was cooking for someone I didn't live with or eat with regularly.
Presuming you've had this exact dish before?

Weirdly pedantic? I don’t think so. I should imagine that people are aware what the thread is about but readers like to add their own takes on it. 😊

I’ve been vegetarian for 40 years and have never cooked a chicken but it would have been blindingly obvious to me! Also has DH never heard of Google? Sounds like an excuse to get out of it if you ask me - or an attempt to make sure you never ask him to cook again!

If you want a man to follow orders

That's it, right there @Riapia

I don't want a command and control structure in my own home. I want a relationship with a sentient adult who does not want or need orders.

@Neverenoughbiscuits just wanted to say thank you. We had the most delicious warm chicken Caesar salad for dinner tonight! We are resolved to add it to the regular rota.