To think it is obvious that you are roasting the chicken...

[Neverenoughbiscuits]

DH and I both been out with different DC today. Had a discussion in the middle of the day around what we were having for dinner (Chicken Caesar salad with diced roast potatoes). Likelihood was that he'd be home first and would get dinner on.

We have a whole chicken (no other chicken) in the fridge for the salad. He sent me a message asking if he "should roast the chicken". I didn't see the message so have just spoken to him and apparently he was waiting for me to reply so hasn't put the chicken on. Given that we have no other chicken and he is aware of what we were having, AIBU to assume that it was bloody obvious what to do with the chicken and that he didn't need me to tell him?

I'm pretty grumpy that we're going to eat really late and he's having a strop because I asked him if he thought we'd be eating it raw.

If I were in his shoes, I'd have followed up the text with a phone call, if I had received no response from you. It would have been sensible to assume you'd not seen the message. It's a bit of a feeble excuse on his part. Also, if it's custom in your household to roast a chicken for a ceasar salad, then I'm not sure why he needed to ask?

I have Yorkshire puddings with my vegetarian roast dinner (ducks and hides).

I also think roasting a chicken just for it to play a small part in a salad sounds a faff, just buy a chicken breast or 2 and chop and stir fry it

Completely missed what others are saying.. why serve it as ordinary "Sunday Roast" when you could make a couple of amazing meals and some lunches. It's always cheaper than buying chicken already butchered down 🤷🏻‍♀️
I can buy a chicken for £8 or a packet of pre cooked chicken for £2,49.
The precooked does 2 lunchboxes.
The whole chicken will do a meal for 4 plus (not a roast) and 4 lunchboxes and will give stock for soup for me WFH and another portion of stock for a tea in the week

You just have to accept the fact that men need step by step instructions.
You could have gone to a Supermarket for cooked chicken ? Then had the chicken the next day.

Every time we come back from holiday, when we're about 20 Minutes from home, my DH asks ' what's for tea ? ' I always answer 'sheeps shit and tatties'

Didums, the man can't decide what to do and only functions on the (unavailable) instructions of a woman. I can't believe how many people are defending him because OP didn't give full instructions and wasn't available to give directions

You just have to accept the fact that men need step by step instructions

Really? DH doesn't as he's a grown man. I despair at the quantity of posts on MN all over the place that have such very low expectations of men. And what those low expectations let men get away with.

This.

Your DH is a complete nob. I’d go mad.

This is where a pressure cooker is worth every penny. 20 minutes pressure cook, 5 minutes air fry and you’re done

Who the heck roasts a whole chicken for a salad?

Turns out, loads of us do this.

Having thought more about this in the last couple of days more than I ever had before, we roast a chicken about every ten days, and eat it as a roast dinner in the first instance possibly every third time? So roughly once a month. All the rest of the time we do other things with it.

I would have assumed there is different chicken for a salad and the whole chicken is to be kept for a roast

You assumed wrong! 😹

I am baffled by the posters who think it’s a waste to roast a chicken for a salad. Why not? And they add that it is a waste to roast a chicken if it’s not for a a full roast chicken dinner. Why?
I often roast a whole chicken to make a variety of meals: hot chicken and stuffing rolls, chicken salad, chicken and chips ( an easy, lazy meal 😊), to strip off the breast make chicken in cream sauce or curry and the use the rest to make soup…plus a traditional Sunday roast. You can still get a whole chicken for under a fiver which is cheap compared with packets of ham and cheese.
Sorry about the derail OP: your chicken Caesar salad sounds lovely and your DH is ridiculous.

PS - and I don’t mean that old daft MN thread about 8 meals from 1 chicken 😃. I mean 1-2 meals. 🐔

For chicken salad I always buy a 4 legged chicken so we get a leg each.

If you want a man to follow orders then your orders will need to be very specific and very detailed.
It’s most unreasonable to expect a man to have to make any decisions when carrying out orders.
😉😁😁.

Me too . Warm roast chicken and salad with new potatoes or crispy roast cubes with garlic and rosemary is a big favourite here 🤤

When I lived alone, I used to take great pleasure in roasting a chicken and then just making myself a lovely hot sandwich. Roasting is just a cooking method - it's not mandatory to then eat what comes out of the oven in a specific way. You've still got a cooked chicken at the end of it.

People are being weirdly pedantic about your use of the chicken.
The actual issue here is that your husband couldn't make a decision by himself to cook some chicken, the only chicken in the fridge, presumably he has eyes so was able to deduce this fact for himself without your assistance, and instead did nothing, and therefore you had no dinner at the appropriate time.
Not really the behaviour I'd expect from a competent adult and it would wind me up if it was a pattern of them not taking responsibility for basic household tasks.

Perhaps he thought you had some cooked chicken and didn't look in the fridge properly.
I wouldn't automatically think that the whole chicken was earmarked for the salad.

I would have thought it's more usual to roast the chicken for one meal then make the salad the next day when chicken is cold
I often used to do a stir fry or pasta dish with leftovers.

Yorkshires are for everything.