Swinging teachers

[Saintsfan7]

Interested to read some opinions on this. Someone we know has found out that a teacher at their child's school is a swinger. This person is aghast about this and wants to report the teacher (not sure what for) and is refusing to let them teach their child.
My attitude is that as long as it doesn't affect their work (whichbit clearly isnt) then what the teacher chooses to do in their private time is their business and their business only. ATBU?

You are definitely special.

As I've had so many responses to my original post (and can't keep up with them !), all I'm going to (finally) say is people who regard blatant promiscuity as perfectly acceptable (all the responses to my original post have condoned it), have no morals or decency, perhaps they encourage their own (once grown) kiddies to sleep around, I know I certainly wouldn't !

They probably focus on consent, protection and communication. They probably teach their children to have open minds and consider the arguments. They probably tell their children that they can have a sleepover with a friend or stay at their aunt's or will be having a babysitter, because Mum and Dad are going out. What they won't be doing is telling them Mum and Dad are going out to a sex party, because that would be inappropriate and they will have boundaries and can practise discretion.

Unless the teacher is doing something illegal, her private life/sex life is absolutely nothing to do with your friend or the school. The only way it would be an issue is if a teacher had an Only Fans or similar, or was identifiable on public forums being sexually explicit or inappropriate, which could arguably be a disciplinary matter if parents/students could access it.

True. Many many years ago when I was a much younger teacher, a rumour swept the school one Monday that Ms Fountofwisdom, Ms X and Ms Y had been in a car parked up on the high street late on Saturday night, drinking, blaring out Eminem on the car stereo and head banging to it. I kid you not.

The 3 of us were quite friendly but had never socialised together, none of us had a car and we all had alibis for Saturday night! It was totally bizarre and went on for about 2 days until they got sick of it and moved on.

There are no bigger rumour-mongers on the planet than teenage school children! 😂

In my twenties I was teaching in the late 90s and I still had energy. Teaching was easier then- less pressure, realistic expectations, the onus was on the student to do the work, not the teacher. Sometimes I even went out in the week!

Now, the onus is on me not the students. The pressure is huge. The expectations are nonsensical ( my SEND students have the same expected grades as my non-Send- given that some of them have FAS and global memory delay, this is cruel for them and me. )

I see new young teachers burn out quickly. A lovely 3 years in teacher in my department told me she only goes out in holidays, she's too busy and tired. She has no life.

If I met a teacher who had the energy to swing I would want to know their secret. Is it time management? Drugs? Or are they SLT?

They might only be doing it in the holidays, we don't know.

I still admire them. In the holidays I mostly recover.
And if they are, good luck to them. It has literally no relevance to how well they can teach. If they can still dissect an model exam answer, model a better one, shepherd 6 classes through a day and do the data without swinging in the school day then it's no-ones business!

It just sounds like something scrawled on the back of a toilet door to me. Along with "Mr Evans is a Pedo" and "Mrs McGuffin takes it up the bum"

How would anyone even know? Maybe as @Markovenchip is so concerned with the moral turpitude of our educators, she could take one for the team and do some internet sleuthing..

Thank you.

perhaps they encourage their own (once grown) kiddies to sleep around, I know I certainly wouldn't !

The only person on this thread who seems to think that it's normal to talk to 'kiddies' about their future sex lives is you.

The fact that you automatically assume that parents and teachers 'encourage' children in what type of sex life they might want as an adult is both a) revealing and b) quite creepy. You seem to be the only person here who seems to think that trying to talk to children about the kind of sex life they should have as an adult is normal.

It is very obvious from your responses in this thread that you spend far, far more time obsessively thinking about other people's sex lives than anyone you've criticised as being immoral or indecent. You might want to consider what that says about you.

Are you part of the church?

I used to be friends with my A-Level English teacher and I got all the gossip about what they got up to lol.

The sociology teacher was boffing the one of the law lecturers and emailed the geography lecturer for a threesome.

My college was a hot bed of sleaze lol. Another law teacher was fired for sleeping with a student and my English teacher friend was also knobbing people left, right and centre. Several teachers used to turn up drunk to work too.

Being drunk at work is far more reprehensible than anything they might do in their spare time, IMO.

I'm not a swinger personally, but I'm polyamorous so know a lot of other people who are ethically non-monogamous of some description. I do know a lot of teachers/headteachers, but also a lot of doctors, police etc. Everyone would be at pains to be discreet, no one I know would want it to get out, but it's really no different to if they were single and dating as they're obviously not going to bring it into the workplace. If anything, as ENM isn't understood by most people, they'd probably try to be more discreet than they would otherwise.

What it says about me is I have morals, Christian values, and self-respect, the point I was making is many (including you) condone promiscuity as natural behaviour, I tell my kiddies it is not, find a partner and be loyal, you'll have a happier life

What it says about you is that you are intolerant and narrow-minded. You don't need to actually embrace or like the idea of alternative lifestyles (I don't) to understand that doing so doesn't automatically make someone a bad person. They could well be kinder, gentler and more generous than many people with more traditional lifestyles. Or don't Christians value such qualities any more?

Why are you talking to ‘kiddies’ about having sex at all, though? It’s inappropriate.

When they’re children it’s inappropriate to talk to them about having sex. When they’re adults, it’s inappropriate to think you have any right to be involved in their sexual choices.

Teachers understand that it would be inappropriate to talk to children about their future sex lives and will therefore not be promoting promiscuity. They won’t be promoting any kind of sexual behaviour. The only person who wants to talk to children about their private sexual choices is you.

Also FYI if you want to sound less creepy, please stop using the word ‘kiddies’; it makes you sound like a children’s party entertainer from the 1970s who makes little girls sit on his lap and call him Uncle.

Also FYI if you want to sound less creepy, please stop using the word ‘kiddies’; it makes you sound like a children’s party entertainer from the 1970s who makes little girls sit on his lap and call him Uncle.

It kept giving me flashbacks of Ivy Tilsley in Corrie. “It’s them kiddies I’m worried about!!”

I meant grown-up, over 16 'kiddies', not young ones !..........I do not wish to make any further comment on the this subject, and would prefer no more responses, thank you.

Precisely

I can't do anything about it, but I do not condone promiscuity (or drug taking) amongst professional people who educate and examine others, and while my taxes are paying Doctors, Teachers, Dentists, etc; etc; I will have my say, end of !

Report them for what? Can't see anything wrong except for a busybody who ought to keep their nose out of other people's business

I'd rather not have closed-minded, narrow-minded people educating and examining people, whether or not my taxes contribute to their wages, but we don't always get our wishes.

If you're chatting to your grown-up kids about their sex lives, that's absolutely inappropriate. You do not own their bodies.

If you don't want responses, don't keep posting on a public forum. You can't expect to tell other people that they are disgusting for their private sexual behaviour and not have them argue back with you.