He didn’t go to Tesco?

[purpleparroty]

I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

The OP clearly means processed junk.

@purpleparroty YANBU. It isn't hard to buy some basic ingredients to make a bolognaise or omelette!

Interestingly, you ignored this bit why can't OP DH buy proper food when the OP is capable of doing that when she is not ill. Did the OP go on some short of training course that only females get sent on in how to feed and look after everyone !?

Yes it is the point, it’s the whole point, 🤣🤣🤣 she’s getting a good delivery Sunday ffs 🤦‍♀️

The point is that it falls to her. But you know that.

She’s ill so she can’t do it?? But u no that? So he done it ?

Are you married to the village idiot?

The bar for male behaviour is genuinely a tavern in Hades for some women. ‘Poor bloke’, etc. It’s genuinely tragic that so many women are eager to justify an adult being incapable of doing a basic food shop. If said adult were a woman, I suspect they’d be considerably less forgiving.

The extent to which everyday sexism is embedded in some people’s minds is really quite surprising.

OP hasn’t said
how they share life’s jobs
do they both work

do they both cook
do they both clean
do they both do the football run

We don’t know anything so. As OP has said since they’ve had kids he hasn’t shopped then it seems that’s OPs task and he does something else.

Technically we know nothing and yet many are assuming on here that dh is a pile of crap and does nothing at home. Whilst OP works 50 hours a week and is an expert in all tasks.

And No, I’m not a man …. I just couldn’t be bothered caring about such a non issue. Honestly OP if this is something that upsets you you must have a pretty good and stress free life.

All the posts saying its endearing, funny or acceptable are bonkers. Who the fuck are you living with? Man children not capable of shopping or cooking, and I bet they cant even find their own socks or make a packed lunch for kids?...Pathetic.

Why is it acceptable for men to be so useless at everyday normal tasks? Is it because most man move from mummy straight to the wife, and never live by themselves? I wonder, would they literally die if left on their own?...

OP, its pathetic and stupid. But I suspect he never done any food shopping or cooking before? Something to address once you feel better.

She’s ill so she can’t do it?? But u no that? So he done it

He "done" it? "U no that"?

I see...

Enjoy the fun you're having on this thread 🙄

@WiddlinDiddlin although I'm in a very small town not village I confess my corner shop stocks Cook ready meals 😆

I said I find it funny because some people are so precious, it’s one day off eating crap, my partner is good at doing the weekly shop he also clean the house most days, he do more than me around the house 🤣 I feel sorry for op husband getting crap off random people off the internet 🤣🤣🤦‍♀️ you could also turn it around and say what if the op didn’t have anyone to go to the shop for her ? Would she just die and her kids starve ??

Make a list and send him right back out.

I get the impression money is tight for them, and that is part of the reason the OP is justifiably upset and frustrated at his nonsense.

Where do you live ? Rutshire , surely 🤣

Exactly.
"Endearing", 😳 fuck that shit.

Why all the assumptions that people think this is okay because he's a man?

Some people think this is okay, on the odd occasion, full stop.

Corner shops aren't just for husbands.

The bar is so low for men.

Yes, folk are correct that one or two days of eating crap is not the end of the world. However those days are like a 'freebie' of not having to do the tiresome crap of keeping everyone happy and healthy. Why does he get to use that this time? Why, on the one occasion the OP is ill and has asked him to step up, he has unilaterally decided it is okay to take that freebie for himself?

Without also the consideration that maybe he could have made a nice nourishing meal for his ill wife?

I would find it very hard to respect a man that cannot manage to shop and cook for his family. How pathetic.

No it's quite a low socio-economic place! I did a double take when I saw the freezers.

If money is tight and nobody else will eat these meals for some reason, stick them in the freezer and let DH work through them over time. No money wasted.

You’ll all be fine.
The kids will be fed. You’ll get over your cold.

Relax and enjoy your convalescence.

You’ll be back to normal before you know it.

If OP was single she would surely ask a friend or a relative? And I bet they would do a better job than a useless husband. But yes, it looks like he is only marginally better than an empty space, you not wrong here.

This man wasted £50 so kids ended up eating crisps and chocolate for dinner, and has been sulking upstairs like a total dick. Sooo funny.

Didn't want to walk all the way round Tesco trailing a trolley up and down the aisles

So went to the corner shop because it is the quickest option

Pure laziness not thinking what he was buying

I'm a SAHM, I do all the meal planning, shopping and cooking. I make every school lunch and breakfasts. Dh has very little he has to do around the house. Whenever I'm sick he will be hypervigilant about food, he'll keep track of milk, fruit and bread in the fridge. He knows what the kids eat and will start planning ahead assuming I'll stay sick for a few days and will come to me with a plan and a list to sense check. If I'm very sick he won't bother coming to me. The kids might get an extra McDonald's that weekend or pizzas, but it'll be the pizzas they like and they will have three proper meals and not crisps for dinner. Because he's an adult. I actually think my childless brother would do a better job than the OP's DH.

Wow the bar is so fucking low for men. He "tried" ? Did he really ? Is he, a grown adult, really incapable of sorting out dinner for his own children ? But somehow that's okay because "he tried" ?

If I fed my kids nothing but crap would you tell me that's okay too because "I tried" ? Or would it actually... Not be okay ? Because hey, I don't have a wife to bail me out when I fail at the most basic tasks ?

It’s not that important. Crossed wires. Move on.

He didn’t buy crisps for dinner. He bought ready meals which apparently aren’t good enough.