He didn’t go to Tesco?

[purpleparroty]

I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

Absolutely.

For all those saying that he hasn't done anything wrong, how do they justify what he bought for 50 fucking pounds, and why didn't he go to a supermarket where he could get fresh food and actual dinners?

He could have spent a fraction and got some bread, eggs, milk, pasta, tuna, some veg etc.

This just about sums it up.

It's not crossed wires.

Also the pathetic twat has now sulked off to the bedroom for two hours - not doing any childcare then?

Pathetic man pissed off that his walking talking household appliance is broken.

The point is that she shouldn’t have to be sorting out the food when there is another responsible adult present!

I cannot believe the number of posts on this thread that are defending useless male behaviour

You knew he would do this...you should've sent him a detailed list and told him which shop to go to.

He is a grown adult!!

For everyone saying it's for one day and everything will be back to normal soon- that's the point isn't it. He won't be stepping up to share responsibility any time soon.

The issue isn't eating crap for one day, the issue is the dh being either unbelievably incompetent, or wilfully doing less than the absolute bare minimum. Not sure which is worse tbh. Actually if he didn't feel like cooking, for 50 bucks he probably could have gotten take-out that's healthier than what he chose.

@Yourethebeerthief what was it then? A malicious, premeditated trip to the village shop? A bold and deliberate act of defiance? Oh for heavens sake

Why should she have to do micromanage a grown adult doing a bit of food shopping for his family, exactly?

Because she’s the woman?

Agreed. I’m so surprised at some of the earlier responses!

I'm not sure why a grown adult wouldn’t know what is in their kitchen anyway? Knowing his wife was ill, why was he not on top of it?

By all means stop off for a snack, but who on earth buys ready meals etc in a newsagents? And then tries to feed them to kids?

You can't think of another option there?

What has gender got to do with it

Maybe that’s how the division of domestic work is set up? I don’t cook or food shop, my bloke does all that. Equally he doesn’t touch laundry or most of the cleaning.

If money is tight and nobody else will eat these meals for some reason, stick them in the freezer and let DH work through them over time. No money wasted.

There might not be much more money to get them to Sunday and their supermarket delivery though, that's the issue.

Come on, are we really having a go at OP for not wanting her children to eat pot noodles and crisps all weekend? Stop fixating on her comment about unbranded ready meals because that’s not what this is about. This is about a husband and father throwing £50 at a basket full of shite because he couldn’t be arsed to think of 2 days worth of meals and go to a supermarket to shop. Is the bar really that low? The fact he knows so little about his children’s likes that he bought this stuff without having a clue whether they would eat it. The fact he really thought crisps for tea was acceptable. The fact his family can’t afford to buy anything else in the meantime because he’s blown £50 on it!
If I asked DH to bring home dinner, at the very least he’d bring home something he knew everyone would like such as pizzas. In actual fact he’d cook something from scratch because he’s a grown ass man.

He needs to write out a list and put it on a cupboard door: so bananas + apples, yoghurt, bread, tinned soup, eggs, beans, milk, cheese etc so if OP is not functional for a few days then he knows what to get.

He can write the list himself.

I'd be irritated too, though my DH regularly goes to a supermarket so he wouldn't do this, but if I was feeling really rough I think I'd overlook it and just focus on getting better. It's not the end of the world. Hope you feel better soon.

@BIossomtoes

Maybe that’s how the division of domestic work is set up? I don’t cook or food shop, my bloke does all that. Equally he doesn’t touch laundry or most of the cleaning.

Are you saying that if your husband was ill you and your children would be living off of fray bentos style ready meals, chocolate and crisps? Would you not understand how to buy food from a supermarket?

And if you were ill would he not know how to work a washing machine or run a hoover around the house?

@Yourethebeerthief i could think of about a million. But I wouldn’t even bore a good friend with this, let alone post on Mumsnet. The bloke probably did what he thought was quickest and easiest for him so he could get home from work and have a sh*t then watch the tele. Nothing more exciting. Yes it was inconsiderate, yes he should’ve made more of an effort. What should we do? Lash him in the town square? Get over it.

A WHOLE two days?! Heaven forbid! 🙄

I've always hated Tescos too!

Anyway I don’t blame the man not wanting to go into Tesco after work and going to the corner shop for convenience

Why should she ? Is buying basic simple provisions just too difficult for the poor ickle soul ?