He didn’t go to Tesco?

[purpleparroty]

I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

Kids not starving is setting the bar extremely low. How about some standards, like 'kids fed nutritious food'. Or do those expectations only apply to mums?

Honestly, I'm surprised nobody's yet blamed OP for not ensuring the kids were used to a sufficiently wide variety of frozen ready meals.

This! Couldn't say it any better. He needs to do the shopping more often and be responsible for sorting children's meals out so he knows what to buy, and the consequences of doing a half a*sed job, should he have to go again. I'd save the things he bought for him when he's back and let him be the one to eat it since he doesn't have an issue with it!

This is why the bar for men is sooooo low.

“He tried”. Okay? He didn’t try hard enough, did he? Anyone with half a brain cell would go and buy actual food for dinner and proper snacks. He’s just an idiot.

Did you give him a shopping list or did he buy them off his own bat? Some men should be given a list as they have no idea of a sensible grocery shop

i would be beyond furious. He is a grown man and should know what is suitable to buy for a weekend. You shouldn’t even have to ask him to go to the shop I’m sure he can see what’s in the cupboards. And I don’t think it’s fair to be asking you to do an online shop either, if you have flu you are very poorly and honestly he should be able to figure it out on his own.

Agree @Redpeach
we have no problem keeping everything fresh.
Bread in the fridge for example……..with salad etc

Perhaps peoples fridges / freezers aren’t that efficient ( although ours is very old so 🤷‍♀️ )

He sounds like a massive man child. Oh and a lazy one. You've probably been doing everything for years - this is a sign to tell him he must share the load and put effort in.

@Glasgowgal200 they choose not to know, because it's easier for them! Are you telling me her husband thought this was a normal grocery shop? Girls don't take extra lessons at school 'how to do a proper shop' while the boys are learning how to buy crisps at one stop.

Funny how that’s never an issue for women in general. Could you imagine a mum saying ‘my husband gives me a shopping list cos my woman brain doesn’t compute how to get basic groceries to feed our children’. Do you think men are simple of brain?

Did you just seriously ask if she had to parent her Husband! He is an adult, no one tells me how to do a basic shop. He should surely know what his kids eat and what normal food is.

Its actually baffling that people genuinely think being male means they are absolute idiots that need to essentially be parented.

I would genuinely have concerns if my Husband wasn't capable of picking up some food shopping, or just generally taking over without instructions if I were unable to do anything for a few days.

This literally had me laughing out loud

Underrated post…

This.

Oh come on. If I'm at work and asked to pick up food on the way home, I don't think its unreasonable to expect the person who is literally in the home to say what is needed. I don't keep a running tally of what we have in, who does unless you have nothing else going on in your life.

Ummmm pretty sure he bought ready meals too, which apparently is the crime of the century 🙄

There’s a difference between ‘can you get milk/coffee/sugar cos just realised we’re low’ and ‘we need meals for the next dinners, can you get a few bits in’. Especially when ill, why on earth does another adult need micromanaging in meal planning?

I lead a busy, full life and don't keep a running tally of what's in my fridge or cupboards, but equally I don't get to a point where I have literally no store cupboard staples to feed. Knowing what you kids eat is not the same as knowing exactly what's in the cupboards at any given time, especially if you don't usually do the cooking. Easy to say a few bits you need but apparently even easier to whinge and moan on mn 🙄

i am with you although I have learnt that with my OH (who I suspect has ASD), I have to be very very specific, ie what aisle in the supermarket/lots of description. I have to tell him to look beyond branded and get supermarket own as he will spend twice much on say Birds Eye fish fingers rather than hunting for supermarkets own. I have had many a moment like this when I’ve felt like head butting the fridge in frustration. In this case unless he has form this feels like laziness and as others have said disengagement from normal family life. I would be furious also.

As i said, in our house we don't have a situation where we have literally no food in to make meals, how hard is it to say 'we have plenty of pasta and some potatoes so could you grab something to go with those' for example. But then DH and I both strive to make one anothers lives easy and stress free. I thought that was normal, but apparently some people don't like the partners they have chosen to live with very much!

Well you’ve hit the nail on the head there, unintentionally. The op has been ill for days. So surely her husband has stepped up, been making meals and had the opportunity himself to realise what they’re running low on so he could list what they need for the next few days…

I’d have done an online shop then it wouldn’t still need to be sorted once feeling better.

I don't know the OP personally, I don't know how ill she has been or what they have done up to this point. I stand by my point though - if you're well enough to post on mn then you're well enough to list a couple of bits you need and get exactly what want if you have such a clear idea of what you should and shouldn't be having. But if people prefer not to say and instead have a row about it after the event that's on them. Each to their own and you do you...

She’s had the flu, it’s literally in the first sentence of the OP. Seems that ‘striving to make each others lives easier’ doesn’t apply to the op in your eyes though, she can be on MN with the flu so should also be traipsing around the kitchen, cooking and making a mental list of what food has run out?

An online shop for the week maybe wise going forward

Pasta and a jar of sauce?