He didn’t go to Tesco?

[purpleparroty]

I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

Unless you are also able to fix a car and install an ensuite it’s not a particularly equal relationship, is it? I’m with @mamajong.

Jesus wept.

Do people install ensuites daily?
My kids could have lived without an ensuite but they would be hungry on crisps and chocolate for a weekend.

I live near to one of this kind of shops and totally understand the absolute crap they sell.

now my son likes ready meal lasagnes & if my dh had gone out and bought one of those I’d have understand.

But expecting the kids to eat the kind of stuff they never have before & awful versions of it as well, no way.

my dh would have bought bread, milk, potatoes, couple of tins of beans, frozen fish fingers, pack of grapes and chicken fillet portions. He’d have probably bought supernoodles as Ds eats them & maybe a jar of pasta sauce. Yes he’d have bought crisps & chocolate too but not £50 worth.

it’s not hard.

i know I’ve forgotten to buy bread and/or milk before….. and I’m the one who does most shopping and cooking. It happens. It’s hardly a crime.

I get it’s annoying but really it’s hardly the worst thing in the world worth such a fuss. Just move on.

its not about men being crap and incompetent. Women can do this too sometimes.

He got ready meals! Not ideal but no one will die from that. If you know your kids are fussy then be specific about what is needed. Personally I couldn't remember what's in the fridge/freezer off the top of my head after a day at work, if DH was messaging me to get something id expect him to say if ee had no bread and milk, Why not take a minute to say what you need. Hardly a hardship to list a handful of essentials is it.

Unless you are also able to fix a car and install an ensuite it’s not a particularly equal relationship, is it?

I'm relatively handy too tbf - enough to be a helpful labourer/assistant. But yes I'm definitely the lucky one. However I don't take the piss and do things that are intentionally wildly lazy or incompetent, unlike poor OPs useless bloke.

Ummm what?? They are his kids. It is not her job to inform him that they are fussy, it is his job to know what his kids eat and don’t eat.

Opened this thread and my god the depressing amount of ‘poor man tried’ replies are right off the bat aren’t they. What a classic case of weaponised incompetence. ‘It’s fine for a few days’, yes until the op has to be well enough to go fix it and buy proper food. Or would it be acceptable for a woman to do a weeks shop at the local corner shop as well?

Forgetting bread and milk is not the same as spunking £50 on utter shite

Hardly a hardship to list a handful of essentials is it.

No it’s not, so why has the husband failed at it when not being handheld through what his family typically eats? Is he hard of thinking? Poor man, I wonder if he manages to hold down a job with such lack of critical thinking skills.

Well, I’ve probably been known to do that too at some point.

Unless he’s an overall shite husband who regularly wastes money, never cooks and other rubbish then I think it’s a massive overreaction that’s not harming anyone.

that’s not harming anyone

There wouldn't be a thread if it wasn't harming anyone. OP is upset by it, I imagine because it's not the first instance of thoughtlessness. Her children might be pleased with chocolate and crisps for dinner for a night but they're going to be hungry and upset after that. If they are on a budget that is an extortionate amount of money to waste on frozen dinners, chocolate and crisps.

Never mind being a shite husband, he's being a totally shite father if he can't feed his own kids.

I can categorically say, I have absolutely NEVER given my kids crisps and chocolate for dinner. I am very far from a perfect mum who cooks organic homemade fresh meals every single night but I have always done better than a fucking packet of crips for GOODNESS sake. I don't know any parent who would do this unless they were absolutely destitute. Even a bowl of cereal is better.

He had £50, we know that. They can't get take-away or deliveries because of where they live, OP made that clear. There's clearly a Tesco around or a village shop that sells bread. He could have done better than a packet of crips for his kids and everyone knows this. My 7 year old could have done a better job feeding eveyone.

He's an absolute failure.

That’s a unicorn you’ve got there, I’m jealous- truly!

That’s a unicorn you’ve got there, I’m jealous- truly!

He does snore tbf 😂
But yes he's lovely. He's my best friend and makes me laugh every day.

Is it though? Is it that unusual?

So not crisps and chocolate like the OPs husband bought?

For dinner? Really?

Women have been so gaslit as a social group that a man being capable of doing a shop without a list, or (as another running thread) buy gifts for Mother’s Day/birthdays etc without being told is some rare magical creature, when in fact 99% of men are fully capable of doing these things. They choose not to. It’s an absolute choice that many are fighting tooth and nail not to break out of - hence the classic line ‘well I won’t be doing it again’ after deliberately fucking up the basic task they deemed beneath them.

I think so, sadly

How often do you give your children crisps and choc for dinner?

And you really think it's ok for a grown man and father to be this incompetent?

It's either that or they've just decided to be contradictory for the sake of it (which seems to be happening more and more)

I fail to believe there was absolutely nothing at all in the house to eat alongside crisps and chocolate.

No, I’ve never just fed them that, but if it happened for a day? Kids would love it and no lasting harm.

As a one off, yes I think it’s fine. I’d roll my eyes at DH and tell him to use his brain next time!

My kids would look at me like I was crazy.