He didn’t go to Tesco?

[purpleparroty]

I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

If I didn’t eat any fruit or veg for 2 days I would feel sick, I thought that was normal.

Ah this thread is funny. The frothing. Moaning about men being incompetent to do a simple shopping trip. 🤣 Maybe stop getting into relationships with men you can't trust to do the basics in the first place. And no, not all men hide that they can't/won't do something in the beginning, before anyone starts with excuses.

I would be livid too. Some eggs on toast would have been much better than disgusting ready meals.
For someone who knows what the family eats because he's experiencing it daily, it's ridiculous.
Tell him to go to the supermarket today and get some normal food for his dcs and you. He can eat what he likes.

Nope, that's bollocks. Flu can have minor symptoms or none at all.

Now I doubt OP has actually tested for the flu, she's probably using it as a general description for some illness that's left her unable to function properly. Apologies to OP if indeed she has actually been tested. But this idea some people have that there's 'proper flu' and it's defined by severity of symptoms is completely wrong.

*missing entire point of thread but curiosity getting the better of me..

OP does your weekly shop not cover 7 meals and most of your food for the week? I can understand needing milk and bread, but not anything else? Not having a go, just curious how people shop especially when you live a bit out of the way.

If your online shop is due on Sunday and presumably money has not been taken for that yet, cancel the order and make him take that budget to the physical shop today and he can make your 7 day budget cover 8 days. If a cheaper supermarket is within reach he can go there.

I would be annoyed at £50 been blown on crap especially when you can't afford it.

Oh come on. It shouldn't be that difficult to buy at least 3 days sensible food for children (and adults). Bread is an essential.

And £50, I can see why the op is peeved.

It’s entirely correct. Flu makes you incapable of doing anything.

Nope. People can test positive for flu whilst being entirely without symptoms or only minor ones, and you certainly won't find a clinical source stating that flu makes you entirely incapable of doing anything, of lifting your head off the pillow or of any other nonsense people like to trot out about it. The £50 note being another favourite!

It's hard to accurately estimate the figures, because for obvious reasons people with no symptoms won't normally test. Ill people don't usually either, OP probably hasn't. But what we do know for absolutely, nailed on certain is that a person can have flu and have anything from zero to severe symptoms.

This meta review contains a useful summary of the research on the percentage of influenza virus infections that are asymptomatic and ranges.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4586318/

Yabu.

sometimes I go to the local shop and just get whatever they have instead of hgoing to the supermarket…. Even though I know it’s expensive and a bit crap.

either state what you want or let him decide where to go & what to buy.

But if you were responsible for feeding your children, would you spend £50 on ready meals nobody will eat, chocolates and crisps? Or would you manage to form some semblance of a meal, even if it was just egg on toast, without having specific guidance from another adult?

I might tell my kids they need to eat the ready meal and not be so fussy! It won’t hurt them for a day or two.

My kids seem to change their minds constantly with what they do or don’t like, it’s hard to keep up! He may have thought they’d be fine with them…. it’s happened to me loads of times with buying food.

However we slice it with the ready meals, there's no excuse for him not buying bread!

I hope it doesn't derail the thread to make this observation, but the first page of replies were so weirdly supportive of this chump. Are some of you dead posh?With "village shop" were some people imagining an adorable farm shop with locally made chicken and leek pies? The OP's use of the use of "unbranded" seemed to get people's backs up, as though she was fuming that Waitrose Essentials range wasn't good enough.

Not everyone lives in the Cotswolds, I grew up in a (pit) village and the ready meals in stock at the local Nisa were next to a rack of Basic Needs brand of rubber thimbles and paper fasteners that have been there since 1994, and we're talking sub-sub-sub-sub-sub-Iceland totally random brands you've never heard of 70% horsemeat lasagne. I quite like Iceland. I'd have said Farmfoods but maybe that sounds like a lovely farm shop if you're from Surrey.

Yabu. You were unwell so asked him to get food and he did. I do most of the shopping and cooking in my house because I want to. If I can't or just cba I'll ask DH but I know he doesn't like cooking so it will be 'tray' food or a takeaway but that's fine, he is an adult and is allowed to make choices the same as me. If you wanted specific items you could have said so or done an online shop, but you've asked him to take care of it and then moaned he hasn't done it right.

Oh for goodness sake! Some of the women on here would have a man publicly flogged for the slightest thing! He popped to the corner shop and bought junk food. Hands up who has never done that before after a long week at work. Please get a grip.

Hasn't done it 'right'? He hasn't done it at all. The only thing he got that his children will eat is crisps & chocolate. Do you think crisps and chocolate is a suitable meal?

Then he sulked off upstairs.

The standards of some MNers regarding men are so low they've sunk through the floor and are currently to be found in the Earth's inner core.

Every day I am grateful for a DH that can shop and cook as well as fix a car and install an ensuite, and who never gets moody, aggressive or unkind.

You left out that he didn't buy the bread and milk the household need either. If you add that essential piece of information, bet you any money that the number of MNers who've never done that would significantly increase.

@Justhere65

Buying junk food isn't the problem. Buying exclusively junk and no staples to properly feed his family is the problem. That it's up to the woman to be considerate enough to make sure there are things in like milk, bread, fruit and vegetables, is the problem. That he spent £50 on this shite is the problem.

What a selfish lazy moron.
God but what some women tolerate and endure.
No wonder so many women think life is easier without them around.

You clearly not allowed to be sick as he will punish you with incompetence and feed your children shite for dinner.
Unforgivable.
Hope you feel better soon.

Quite.

They also seem to be on a fairly tight budget. So while a few pounds on junk for a treat would probably have been ok, he's also spent the money that was needed for staples. Crisps, chocolate and corner shop pot noodles are actually quite expensive ways to feed people, and these children will still need their meals.

I don't think men do this on purpose! They are in many cases just stupid to our way of thinking . They think it's a one off and the problem is solved. Yeah it would piss me off too but then I probably would have done an online shop and told him to get a take away.

I would also add why have the both of you let the household get to the state of having nothing in ? At all? You couldn't feed your household from what you have at home until he gets sent to Tesco on Saturday? 🤷‍♀️

I enjoy cooking and shopping, always have. DH doesn't, always hasn't. He enjoys gardening, always has and I never have. Doing the things you prefer in a relationship and accepting the other person won't do it the same as you is called compromise and is part of a happy relationship. I have high standards thanks personally, just because DH isn't the best at ONE aspect doesn't mean he is a waste of space he has a ton of good qualities that complement and balance mine. If he was ill and I had to cut the grass it wouldn't be great, if he cooks it'll be tray food but guess what? We are happy and have a great relationship because we forgive the small stuff and don't act as though a weekend of junk food is going to kill anyone.

I thought this but thought I'd get flamed for it. Surely you have staples like pasta, frozen veg etc to get through a couple days 🤷‍♀️