He didn’t go to Tesco?

[purpleparroty]

I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

Why not just do an online shop of you’re that worried? And also if you was that ill with “the flu” you wouldn’t even be able to lift your head off the pillow let alone moan at his food shop!

Because a fully grown man should be able to go out and buy food for their family. Given he eats it!

Or…. He could just parent properly and feed them something nutritious in the first place?

The amount of people defending a lazy arse partner on this thread is mind blowing…

These responses are really sad. This was posted on Friday. So that’s Friday night, all day Saturday as most of Sunday depending on when the food shop arrives.

Why are people struggling with the concept that he spent £50 quid on chocolate, crisps and a few ready meals and neglected to get milk, bread, cheese and some fruit/ vegetables.
He could have spent that at Tesco’s and got enough ingredients for 2 dinners, snacks and essentials.
Which is what the Op was probably expecting. Why is the bar so low? She’s poorly, he needs to take care of the kids/house and prepare everyone dinner. I bet when he’s poorly she doesn’t just sit down and throw her hands in the air cause she’s one man down.
It wouldn’t have been that hard to give the Op a call and ask what they needed for next few days.

Is it? Or would it do the children the world of good to learn that a man pretending to be so pathetic and helpless that he has wasted £50 that they don’t have to waste, on crap they won’t eat, and crisps, is not something that should be tolerated? I wouldn’t want any child I was responsible for thinking that was acceptable behaviour from a parent.

Crisps might be fun for tea on a Friday, but I suspect the novelty will wear off by lunch time Saturday, after they’ve had Monster Munch for breakfast. The stupid fucker can’t even make them any toast. Does that sound like a man you’d be proud to be married to?

I do think @Theoldwoman has got a point, I might be a bit miserable if I had to rely on lentils, tomatoes and dried herbs but I'd always have something in and I'm povvo

Good to support the village shop though. Nice to still have one. I think if you are poorly you do have to let go a bit. Others have to step up but they will do it in their own way not morph into you. You are a partnership. How would you take it if he told you which shop you had to shop in…..?

agreed. Why didn't her DH have something in? So when she said can you run to the shop he could answer "actually there is the makings of a dinner in the pantry/fridge so I'll do that and shop tomorrow." mind blowing concept.

Someone actually posted that they would find a grown adult buying and serving crisps and chocolate to their children for dinner "endearing"

And in an ideal world, we’d all have the added ingredients needed, the cooking skills to know what to do with them and kids who wouldn’t turn their noses up at a bowl of lentils. But if she’s down to her last £50, she hasn’t got the money to be stocking up on dried herbs and incidentals.

And for those people where nothing really does mean nothing, and they have a tenner to get a week’s shopping, they definitely won’t be spending it on stuff they can’t actually eat.

You think her husband ‘stepped up’? How exactly did he step up? What did he achieve?

She’s not complaining because he bought the wrong brand of cereal, wholemeal bread instead of wheat germ and oranges instead of apples. She’s said that the children won't eat anything he bought apart from crisps. That’s crisps for tea tonight, crisps for breakfast, crisps for lunch, crisps for tea again tomorrow and unless the shopping turns up early, crisps again for breakfast on Sunday. So what is it, exactly, that you think he should be praised for?

I have a pantry because there was one in the house when we moved in
Im not rich and I’m not Nigella either !
We fill it up slowly when we get the 10% off from Lidl’s app 😁 so that if for any reason we can’t do a food shop, no one starves.

Little and often

Homemade lentil soup is delicious….

Ah, that was partially bad tempered envy on my part. A pantry is definitely top of the kitchen list once I’ve won the lottery 😁

I meant the rest though!

You’ll need one for all of those pies Wilfred ….assuming you don’t have a dog of course

I was being serious
Were you @CliantheLang..sometimes I’m not sure when people laugh at a comment

Totally agree this is very frustrating and YANBU.

Also agree about unbranded food. To be honest, I’m suspicious even of co-op ready meals with meat.. there are few ready meals we’d eat. Would rather buy ingredients and cook, or if no time, simple ingredients like pasta/ tagliatelle, sauce etc. It’s also cheaper.

It’s lazy of him. Weaponised incompetence. “I’ll never do it again” which is what he wanted.

No way would I eat crap food from a corner shop. It’s cheap and awful yet costs a fortune.

The people saying how he tried and you are unreasonable are probably the same people who praise men for being “hands on dads”

"Does it really matter in the grand scheme of things"

"At least he tried"

"Nobody died"

FFS

Dear Idiot, allow me to introduce you to Budget. Budget is a limited portion of overall funds available to be spent on each individual category of expenses.

Ask the Chancellor of the Exchequer why the hell the stupid woman thinks budgets are important. She should surely shut up and go off to paint her nails while the men spend what they want in waste. 🙄 No? Not acceptable? Why not?

Pissing £50 away on chocolate, crisps, ice cream and unidentifiable trays of microwaveable waste produce means that money is GONE and cannot be spent again in order to fix the problem.

UNDERSTAND?

Money can only be spent once and cannot magically be unspent or replaced.

The twat may as well have chucked five ten pound notes out of the car window as he drove home for all the nutritional value it's spending provided.

Low bar having, excuse making misogynistic crap on here. Surely not.

I seriously question how many men have infiltrated this place or the brains of the women on it.

My point is she does need food, and she is quite likely to be extremely fussy about what can go down, so she’s entitled to be mad at him for zero effort?

dry toast is good for nausea/ tummy bugs, but I couldn’t manage it when pregnant until the sickness was fading. It was too foody.

My mum! But it came with the unmodernised house so she kept it when they modernised

Why should she though? The only reason she would need to is because her husband is incapable of buying useful food from a shop.

Or how about: I actually like and want to do the food shop and enjoy planning the meals and cooking. Not all women are slaves in the kitchen who don’t want to be there. My husband also works long hours and I don’t expect he gets up early after a night shift to go and do the food shop? I do it whilst my youngest is at nursery in the morning when it’s quiet as I don’t work. In addition, he does many jobs around the house that I do not want to. Finally, he would do a food shop if necessary and wouldn’t feed the kids crisps and sweets for dinner - it’s just not a weekly job he does. So take your moron comment and apply it to someone who actually is (perhaps your husband if you have one - sound nice?)

Ok fair point, yes fury could be the energy. Agree.

What a pathetic parent.

Couldn't be arsed to do a proper shop, to look after his family, and now doesn't like being called out on it.

Absolutely hate lazy, selfish men like this.

I would be annoyed too. Until the delivery arrives, he is responsible for feeding the kids and dealing with the consequences. You are ill so go to bed and rest.