He didn’t go to Tesco?

[purpleparroty]

I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

If you were 'in the worst' of true influenza, you wouldn't even be able to think about this, let alone spontaneously combust over it and post on MN....

I know, let alone wanting to eat something 🤣🤣🤣🙈

I’m reasonably confident my 9 year old could do a better job. Even in the corner shop he’d have come out with bread, milk, ham, cheese, apples and a cucumber.

@TENSsion

Ah so it was. You've been bothering me for so long I've lost track.

It seems the OP's husband also prefers to piss money up the wall and not to buy decent food.

You're really happy not looking after your car by yourself. The OP however is not happy with her situation.

I’m replying to comments in which you tag me. I’m sorry that you find that “bothersome”

Also when someone is very ill they don’t really want to eat do they??

I’m replying to comments you tag me in. Politely too.

Tag wars. I'll stop tagging you now before I'm bored to tears.

But continue quoting and speaking directly to me?

ok

God your so serious tonight ain’t ya beer thief your getting so deep xx

just following. Learned a new term, weaponised incompetence!

Yes he sounds useless so I would be tempted to send him shopping more often except it sounds like it would be really expensive. To be fair I am not sure my husband would do much better but he does at least know not to use the Spar for anything more than a few items but he does tend to put lots of crap in the basket but would at least get some fruit, salad, bread and milk. Infuriating but presumably this is not the only example of his hopelessness in adulting.

She's sick? And he's I assume a grown adult who should know to go to a proper shop and how to feed kids.

I'm keen to know what would have happened if you don't remind him there as a shop needed?

Take way more steps back and rest up OP.

When you say you have nothing in, nothing in where? The pantry? The fridge? The freezer? Surely you have something? Do you run everything down to nothing?

Well presumably if they did, her DH could have made a proper meal and the kids would be fed. Alas, they’ve had crisps and chocolate for dinner.

Is this a joke?

Weird, weird response. So crisps and chocolate are a great idea for dinner “because it’s Friday.”

The mind truly boggles.

You miss the point spectacularly.

I would be angry, OP. £50 is a lot of money for us and when shopping I have to budget that carefully to spread over several meals. £50 on junk and meals the kids wouldn’t touch would really upset me too. The sulking too is pathetic.

This makes me feel really grateful for my DH. I do most of the shopping yet he’d be able to figure out how to spread £50 to a couple of decent meals, and ones he knows the kids like because he’s actually has eyes and can see what they eat. I’m sorry for all the women who have accepted this shit as being normal for men (it’s not, at all!)

Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again I suspect that was the whole point.

And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain Go back to bed and get some rest. And when you’re feeling better, tell him that you’re not going to pretend to be impressed by him shitting £50 up the wall on inedible crap and sweets rather than proper food that the children will actually eat, simply because he can’t be arsed to drive to Tesco. It’s pathetic. You don’t find domestic incompetence in the least bit attractive and then his whining has ensured that you now see him as little more than an incapable six year old boy. So next time he’s asking himself why you’re not desperate to jump on him, rip his clothes off and have the time with him, he should think back to this moment and he’ll have his answer.

I'd be pissed off too.

This is why I'm single

I haven't lived at home since I was 17 but when I had Covid I asked my dad to do a food shop for me. He did a perfectly good shop including medicine, soup, fresh juices etc with no instructions other than "I have no food in, please can you bring some"

I could shop for a family I have never met before better than he did for his own FFS

To all the poor menz apologists: It's not about dropping standards for a day, which is fine.

It's about pathetic incompetence or worse, deliberate incompetence and then sulking about it.

If her H was away and OP, who is sick, had dragged herself to the corner shop and declared they were having crisps for dinner, that would be her dropping standards for a day because she is sick. And that's fine.

But he had ONE JOB, which is he doesn't even have to do more than occasionally, and that job was to step into OPs shoes for a moment and buy REASONABLE THINGS for them to eat. It's pathetic that he couldn't manage that. If I was OP, I'd be furious too. I'd also be cross because if I have flu, I want a nice soup and crusty bread (or whatever) not fucking crisps.

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Absolutely this.

Thank god sense overwhelmingly prevails on this thread.

Do you not realise that having nothing in means literally nothing for so, so many people? Nothing in the freezer, nothing in the fridge and nothing in the cupboard. Nothing. They aren’t playing dinner roulette; there’s usually a reason they have no food in the house they can make a meal with. And there wouldn’t have been that much to start with to run it down from. It’s great for you if that’s something that is unimaginable to you. But there’s no need to pretend to be stupid about it.

And who the fuck has a pantry unless you’re rich or Nigella Lawson?