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Partner got a reactive HIV test result

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Foreverstar · 06/03/2025 20:59

Not sure if I'm posting in the right place but not sure where else to...My partner of 3.5 years got tested for STIs last week after speaking to his GP and having had a sore penis for a couple of weeks. He got the results earlier this week just before heading abroad to visit family. The HIV test came back with a reactive result, everything else clear. He needs to get tested again and they've told him it could be a false positive. I'm obviously worried. We both did an STI test when we got together except his blood test didn't have sufficient to get results for the HIV test but all else clear. I'm as sure as I possibly can be that he hasn't cheated and know it could be a false positive and also that it can lay dormant for years but I know he has had what could be called a very relaxed approach to contraception in the past (idiot I know!)...how worried should I be? Had anyone else had this? I realise even if it is positive treatment etc has massively advanced but he's away with limited contact and I can't really discuss with anyone at present...

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Tandora · 08/03/2025 08:14

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You shared the code of conduct- it said that nurses should respect the privacy and confidentiality of patients. None of which has been compromised in any way by any discussions on this thread.

You’ve made your opinion clear- I hope that pp’s reading it - especially that lovely GUM nurse - will treat it with the respect and concern it deserves . None.

18hourfastcompleted · 08/03/2025 08:25

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ToBeOrNotToBee · 08/03/2025 08:33

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Now is not the time or the place
Start your own thread on the code if you want, but for now your input isn't helping OP.

DragonBalls · 08/03/2025 08:38

Sorry your thread has been derailed OP. I hope it works out for you.

@WetBandits thanks for your kind and thoughtful posts

@18hourfastcompleted I’m sure you are super popular with all your colleagues you manage. Sometimes rules and guidelines can be interpreted with some common sense.

Foreverstar · 08/03/2025 08:49

Thank you to everyone for the helpful advice and kind comments and I'm sorry for the issues this thread has caused for some. I appreciate my concerns having been put somewhat in perspective and I will get tested as advised.

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Moutainpass · 08/03/2025 09:07

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Tandora · 08/03/2025 12:23

Foreverstar · 08/03/2025 08:49

Thank you to everyone for the helpful advice and kind comments and I'm sorry for the issues this thread has caused for some. I appreciate my concerns having been put somewhat in perspective and I will get tested as advised.

Good luck OP, I’m so sure it will be fine.

Apologies for the derail xx

Careertimenow · 08/03/2025 13:00

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Can you identify who wetbandits is do you know her real name or where she works? You're coming across unhinged in your posts and incoherent. Op is going through a rough time and you are making this about yourself. I hope you don't work for the NHS I would fear for the patients in your care.

Moutainpass · 08/03/2025 13:57

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PandaTime · 08/03/2025 14:04

The sockpuppeting is strong on this thread.

CerealPosterHere · 08/03/2025 14:30

Careertimenow · 08/03/2025 13:00

Can you identify who wetbandits is do you know her real name or where she works? You're coming across unhinged in your posts and incoherent. Op is going through a rough time and you are making this about yourself. I hope you don't work for the NHS I would fear for the patients in your care.

Totally agree and I say that as an ex nhs matron and ex supervisor of midwives and ex panel member who has been involved in investigations and nmc hearings (not against me). I’m still on the register so perfectly up to date and I would have no issue with anything posted here!

CerealPosterHere · 08/03/2025 14:34

PandaTime · 08/03/2025 14:04

The sockpuppeting is strong on this thread.

Best advice about sock puppeting, don’t have the same distinctive and rather odd posting style on both accounts 😁👍

saying that I didn’t think you could sock puppet anymore as it won’t let you name change halfway through a thread. Not sure if it’s possible if you log in on another device. VPN, etc?

CerealPosterHere · 08/03/2025 15:19

PandaTime · 08/03/2025 14:04

The sockpuppeting is strong on this thread.

Your suspicions were correct 😁

PandaTime · 08/03/2025 15:24

CerealPosterHere · 08/03/2025 15:19

Your suspicions were correct 😁

😆Repeatedly saying the same thing in the same way was a bit of a giveaway.

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