To be cross with school bus leaving

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DD12 attends a private school that has a bus service. Due to various reasons, I asked school if she can get the bus for the rest of this week. All confirmed and ok. DD went to the meeting place, bus arrived and said there’s no space for her, then drove off. Amazingly a child who always gets the bus got off with DD and took her to their house and asked the mum to give them both a lift. I am so cross that school haven’t contacted me and I would be none the wiser had this other parent not let me know. Have left a message with school but I’m so cross and wonder if I’m unreasonable to be so cross. I’ve got a very stressful week so unsure if I’m over reacting and anyway not sure what they can do to rectify it now.

No, she’s talking about what would have happened if the friend hadn’t got off and she’d been left at the roadside. She’d have walked home but then been stuck outside. By the end of the day that wouldn’t be an issue, would it - if she’d walked from school presumably it would be miles, take ages and she’d be home later than usual, therefore her mum would be home (given she doesn’t have a key and doesn’t normally catch the bus I’m assuming mum is home by the time the bus would get there).

From the OP’s 3rd post She doesn’t take her phone as they say no phones.
At least read all the OP’s posts before offering advice - it makes it more useful.
edit - sorry, quoted wrong post! I meant your first post about the phone.

From the BUS STOP to her house.

That's bloody terrible. Why did they not check there was space before they agreed? Why didn't the bus driver phone the school before leaving her there?

Sounds like she has a good friend, with a kind parent at least.

If it's any comfort, my kids have never had issues being left at bus stops. And they've been doing buses for 8 years.

I wonder if part of the issue has been private school and the bus will only take kids who've paid for the bus.

The level of reading comprehension on this thread is appalling!

Don't bother to post if you haven't - at the very least - read all the op's posts!

It was the bus TO school.
Apologies if this has got so convoluted that you know that and are asking a different question.

She could have. But she has no key so woukd still be stranded outside. And no phone due to school policy so can’t contact mum.

The bus doesn’t pick up at the pupils’ houses. There are limited predetermined pick ups - the local rail station, village church etc. ie the pick up point that is ‘nearest’ may actually be 3-5m from where you actually live, especially if you live in a rural location, so parents drop their children at those stops before heading on to work.

Forget the 12yo for a second.

You go walk out the door, no phone and go to the bus, house is locked behind you. No key.

The bus doesn't turn up. Next bus is 2hrs time.
You don't have enough cash for taxi.

What would YOU do?

This kid has been put in an impossible situation there is no Plan B or backup plan.

Because the friend offered to get her mum to give them both a lift as a one off and she wouldn’t miss school. But she’d still have a problem if she went home as she has no key and no phone (due to school policy) so can’t contact mum to get let in.

I think a lot of y'all need to get on that bus and get back to school. Reading comprehension 101 would be a good start

Because she didn't have a key and noone was there. How would that be a sensible thing to do?

She’s not allowed a mobile.
I agree a key would be sensible, but if there’s someone in when she gets home (mum normally picks her up) then it wouldn’t be a problem normally. I suspect mum was there when she left too, for the same reason.

I would ignore their no phones rule from now on and tell her to keep her phone in her bag, just in case. Thank goodness for the other, very sensible young lady who got off the bus to be with your dd.

@Sharpenpencil
Yip it all seems a bit weird and a bit far fetched that anyone would do that to their kid?

Round here primary kids are put on the bus. Secondary kids not so much but id bet 99% of them have a phone & key in their pocket.
I'd also think a fair percentage also have a bank card or prepay.card in their pocket too.