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Middle-aged professional women doing drugs on the weekend

542 replies

Snookerfan · 02/03/2025 22:12

Is this common now? I was invited to a house party Saturday night and snow was being done quite openly, there were also Mary Jane vapes and Ecstasy passed around.

These were mainly mothers with adult grown sensible families. What is going on, am I totally not with it?

Was it always this way or is this scene infiltrating a different demographic now?

We always knew people like this did this, but was it this open and accepted?

I didn’t partake, still a great night.

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Clevesian · 03/03/2025 07:13

Pathetic. And they are supporting the dealers/gangs who exploit some of the most vulnerable in our communities. Including children.

sierramiller · 03/03/2025 07:13

What's snow? Cocaine?

Presumably these people never stopped since the 90s

I have some friends like that

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 03/03/2025 07:15

Mary-Jane? Have you just watched a 1970s film?

MellowCritic · 03/03/2025 07:16

Strawberryfruitcorner · 02/03/2025 22:27

And here’s little old me worried about having a coffee after 4 pm 🤣🤣

Controversial for me is having 2 biscuits instead of one.. I'm bad ... I know 🤣🤣🤣
Ok i lied... its usually 3 🤦‍♀️🤣

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 03/03/2025 07:18

These people make me sick.
Because somewhere down the line there are young people involved in selling drugs, often county lines, who are subjected to violence and control.
They are also funding horrified gangs who run the drug trade in the UK.
I am sure these mothers would have been horrified at the murder of Olivia Pratt-Korbel, but are siting in their lovely homes removed from the problem.

Ginmonkeyagain · 03/03/2025 07:19

What kind of weirdo takes E at a dinner party?

christmaspudding43 · 03/03/2025 07:23

Bluh · 02/03/2025 23:30

And hard yes. Legalisation of drugs would stop all these issues and we should all be asking for it like this

I'm open to legalisation although unless absolutely everything is legalised there will always be a problem with illegal trade.

However, regardless of the arguments over legalisation and the relative damage done by drugs vs alcohol, drugs are not legal and their use perpetuates drug violence and county lines. The answer to the point about the problematic supply chain is not for people to carry on taking them and shrug and say it's not their fault they're not legal.

TorroFerney · 03/03/2025 07:24

Strawberryfruitcorner · 02/03/2025 22:27

And here’s little old me worried about having a coffee after 4 pm 🤣🤣

Snap, and buying caffeine free Diet Coke!

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 03/03/2025 07:25

Ginmonkeyagain · 03/03/2025 07:19

What kind of weirdo takes E at a dinner party?

The outrage on here is hilarious!
Particularly the horrified gangs who run the drug trade. Are they horrified that they are a gang, or that they are a drugs gang?

TorroFerney · 03/03/2025 07:26

mommatoone · 02/03/2025 23:11

OP you seem more focused on their 'svelte figures' than the fact they are cokeheads or whatever they are! I'm cringing

And to be fair you don’t often see a fat drug addicted so not that unusual.

SatsumaDog · 03/03/2025 07:28

Nobody I know is doing this, but I’m usually asleep by 8! Seems a bad idea to me.

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 07:39

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 03/03/2025 07:15

Mary-Jane? Have you just watched a 1970s film?

😂😂

penguinbiscuity · 03/03/2025 07:40

If they're middle aged now, then they may well be ex-ravers. There were millions of ravers in the 1990s and 2000s.

For many it was a way of life, not just something you did occasionally.

Not surprising some of them still do it in a party environment.

Personally I haven't taken drugs for decades but only as I was pregnant or breastfeeding my DC for over a decade so I stopped completely and aI moved towns and have no idea where to get decent drugs in this town!

Now the DC are older, I wouldn't mind a bit of MDMA if I was offered some.

Do you all know it was designed to be a therapeutic tool, useful for counselling & especially couples therapy? It increases a feeling of empathy with others, it's really quite lovely.l IMO.

Coke, now that's another story entirely. It was taboo on large parts of the rave scene back in the day (as was heroin) as we wanted happy, psychedelics and stuff that would keep us in a party mood and dancing for hours, not addictions. (To be fair that wasn't the same in all scenes and it was more prevalent in later years, but for a long time in large parts of the rave scene it just wasn't a thing).

Coke is extremely addictive, potentially life destroying and a shit drug IMO, it turns groups of people on it into wankers. I'd give a group of people doing loads of coke a swerve tbh.

But MDMA and weed every so often? No big deal as long as it isn't being done around DC IMO.

KatyaKabanova · 03/03/2025 07:41

This reminds me of an episode of Frasier called "High Holidays" Niles decides to try a pot brownie for the first time in his life. He uses what he thinks is all the current drugs lingo, as if he's street wise, it's really very funny.

Noidea2024 · 03/03/2025 07:45

We live in an affluent commuter town, and although we're not in the local party scene, I am told it's very common here among those who are. These are professional women and the stay-at-home wives are business owners, who mostly still have primary or very young secondary aged children.

NameChanges123 · 03/03/2025 07:46

Strawberryfruitcorner · 02/03/2025 22:27

And here’s little old me worried about having a coffee after 4 pm 🤣🤣

😂

Sparrow7 · 03/03/2025 07:47

penguinbiscuity · 03/03/2025 07:40

If they're middle aged now, then they may well be ex-ravers. There were millions of ravers in the 1990s and 2000s.

For many it was a way of life, not just something you did occasionally.

Not surprising some of them still do it in a party environment.

Personally I haven't taken drugs for decades but only as I was pregnant or breastfeeding my DC for over a decade so I stopped completely and aI moved towns and have no idea where to get decent drugs in this town!

Now the DC are older, I wouldn't mind a bit of MDMA if I was offered some.

Do you all know it was designed to be a therapeutic tool, useful for counselling & especially couples therapy? It increases a feeling of empathy with others, it's really quite lovely.l IMO.

Coke, now that's another story entirely. It was taboo on large parts of the rave scene back in the day (as was heroin) as we wanted happy, psychedelics and stuff that would keep us in a party mood and dancing for hours, not addictions. (To be fair that wasn't the same in all scenes and it was more prevalent in later years, but for a long time in large parts of the rave scene it just wasn't a thing).

Coke is extremely addictive, potentially life destroying and a shit drug IMO, it turns groups of people on it into wankers. I'd give a group of people doing loads of coke a swerve tbh.

But MDMA and weed every so often? No big deal as long as it isn't being done around DC IMO.

Completely agree.

penguinbiscuity · 03/03/2025 07:51

christmaspudding43 · 03/03/2025 07:23

I'm open to legalisation although unless absolutely everything is legalised there will always be a problem with illegal trade.

However, regardless of the arguments over legalisation and the relative damage done by drugs vs alcohol, drugs are not legal and their use perpetuates drug violence and county lines. The answer to the point about the problematic supply chain is not for people to carry on taking them and shrug and say it's not their fault they're not legal.

When I told ok drugs in the 90s, most of it didn't come through gangs. Quite a lot of it can't from old hippies, it was a cottage industry. We used to get speed one person away from someone who made it at home, similarly the acid came from old hippies, who had friends who made it, some of the ecstacy via Holland where it was legal (this was the first to get taken over by the gangs AFAIK) and the ketamine was brough into the UK in small amounts from countries where it was legal to buy it in pharmacies by the people who sold it to their mates - no gangs involved. And for a long time Ketamine wasn't even illegal.

I'm totally out of touch now so I have no idea where the drugs come from these days. The hippies who are still with us are mostly too old for that kind of malarkey I would imagine. And I can well see how gangs would move in on this.

Having said that, I always assumed county lines was mainly the hard core stuff like crack / coke / heroin, isn't it?

The quickest way to get rid of drug gangs is to legalise and treat addiction as a health issue not a crime. Especially weed - make it legal for people to grow small amounts at home, then it's totally pure and zero money to drug gangs.

5128gap · 03/03/2025 07:52

Evorel conti, oil of evening primrose and the stuff Claudia Winkleman advertises on the telly (for the really daring. Wouldn't touch it myself.)

FluffyDashhound · 03/03/2025 07:52

Panterusblackish · 02/03/2025 22:37

Can they get me some speed? I need a boost

I only have 1.5 days off per week and I have to fit in the housework, life admin, meal prepping and cook a roast. When are they doing their chores, when?!

If you ask about the speed could you also ask for some tips on household management, these ladies are clearly doing it way better than me if they are free to live it up with Molly on the weekends.

Elvanse adhd meds lol - legal and least you no what's in them lol

0ohLarLar · 03/03/2025 07:54

My friends drink but not to excess. Ive never seen drugs being done and no one talks openly about having done it in the past. All early 40s, mix of lawyers, accountants/finance, doctors, architects.

SallyWD · 03/03/2025 07:55

I imagine they're the type of people who have always done drugs. I have one friendship group who still dabble now and then, simply because drugs have always been part of their social life.
Some of us lost interest after our teens/early 20s and of course, many have never touched drugs.

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 07:55

I don’t know anyone who does this and I’m in my 30s. I have a small child and have no interest. I know plenty of people who smoke “Mary Jane” at weekends. I don’t think it’s any worse than drinking and feel it should be legalised actually.

FluffyDashhound · 03/03/2025 07:57

It's pathetic in all honesty. And how casual use causes long term use. I've sort of split with my bf recently for becoming a iv cocaine addict simply starting as 'occasional user'. Hopefully he attends the NA meeting tomorrow. But yes I am.a boring sod I don't drink and I've never even touched a drug except the one that grows in the ground which I used for a short period. I just take my adhd meds concerta and methylphenidate.

penguinbiscuity · 03/03/2025 07:58

TheIceBear · 03/03/2025 07:55

I don’t know anyone who does this and I’m in my 30s. I have a small child and have no interest. I know plenty of people who smoke “Mary Jane” at weekends. I don’t think it’s any worse than drinking and feel it should be legalised actually.

Yeah, you're too young! 😁

The rave generation are 40s-60s now.