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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 2025-03-01T15:36:46+00:00

Did park run this morning then straight to do a food shop then home. Absolutely starving. Dd was baking some cookies for dh as a surprise so we told him to stay out of the kitchen for a bit. Made myself some brekkie, called through to dh to see if he wanted anything. Hit the roof cos l had already made my own. Told me l am rude. Said l am hungry after running and he said ffs it's all about you. Hmm it really isn't!! So made himself and sandwich and not spoken since! Is he the dick or am l?! Am off out tonight so don't give a flying one if he wants to ignore me!!

Solypim · 05/03/2025 08:11

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Thirteenblackcat · 05/03/2025 08:16

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 01/03/2025 23:55

He hasn't made me a cup of tea for months - l always make him one - plus every evening meal and lunch at the weekends.

He knew the surprise was cookies because l tipped him off about it.

He was offered breakfast but knew l was v hungry so yes l did put my needs first for once. And yes he looked after our 13 year old - which l do every week whwn he goes to his sports club once a week although tbf she doesn't really need looking after.

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You didn’t do anything wrong OP. Your husband and a lot of people on this thread are being d1cks

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IThoughtHeWasWithYou · 05/03/2025 08:23

cheseandme · 01/03/2025 15:46

Well I made myself a bacon sandwich this morning and it never occurred to me to offer husband one ! What a pathetic reason to throw a strop YANBU.

I think this shows how different the dynamics are in different relationships, because DP wouldn’t dream of making himself anything without asking if I wanted some, and vice versa. It would be like me making a cuppa and not offering him one, would never happen in this house!

LePetitMaman · 06/03/2025 13:20

honeylulu · 05/03/2025 07:44

I don't think it's necessarily "bad manners" to make food for yourself, particularly if the others want something different from what you're making. I know plenty of people (mostly male) who will just sit hungry and wait for the woman to tend to them, rather than make the effort themselves. And they definitely wouldn't think of offering to do it for the whole family. Why is that not considered "bad manners"?

I'm astonished that people think op was unreasonable to make her own meal first. He didn't want what she was having so if she made his first she'd be absolutely famished waiting even longer for hers ... after park run and family food shop whilst he'd been sitting on his arse. Hard week at work ... bollocks. I have plenty of hard weeks at work. It doesn't make me incapable of cooking in the evenings and weekends.

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Goodness me. How dramatic. I want toast. He wants cereal. I pour the cereal while I'm waiting for my toast.

I want poached eggs. He wants porridge. You just bob them along at the same time.

"Famished" OP, barely the strength to carry on, what with her going out for a run while he watched the kids, then telling him he can't come in the kitchen the minute she gets back.

I would have waited for my spouse to return for a run before having breakfast, so we could have it together. I'd have been hungry, sure. But it's just courtesy and wanting to do that most basic human interaction of sharing meal time with the person I claim to love. I can't imagine being with someone so selfish that they went off to their own hobby with me watching the children so they could do so, returned to me waiting to enjoy our food together, told me not to use the kitchen, then came out stuffing their face, with the attitude "what? can't you even feed yourself?"

Course I can. This isn't about being an infantile little lady who can't make my own food. It's about a spouse taking the piss then reversing it onto me as the problem.

PoppyRoseBucky · 06/03/2025 16:45

Honestly, what an overreaction on the part of your DH.

Sure, it's always nice to ask, but shit sometimes gets overlooked/forgotten. A simple "ooh, why don't you just sort yerself out, eh?' would have sufficed. He didn't need to make it such a big issue-especially if it's just cereal/toast that takes mere minutes to make.

Might have known clicking on the thread that the smug/superior posters would crawl their way out of the woodwork to prance around, acting like they've never, ever, in a million years, overlooked such a thing and would never dream of it. No matter how tired/hungry/busy they are-they will always, and I mean, always find a way to ask their partner if they want something. Always.

Shit happens and if he blows up like this over nothing-he's a pathetic wet flannel and if you'd feel/react the same over something you can fix in minutes-you're also a pathetic wet flannel. HTH.

honeylulu · 07/03/2025 13:18

LePetitMaman · 06/03/2025 13:20

Goodness me. How dramatic. I want toast. He wants cereal. I pour the cereal while I'm waiting for my toast.

I want poached eggs. He wants porridge. You just bob them along at the same time.

"Famished" OP, barely the strength to carry on, what with her going out for a run while he watched the kids, then telling him he can't come in the kitchen the minute she gets back.

I would have waited for my spouse to return for a run before having breakfast, so we could have it together. I'd have been hungry, sure. But it's just courtesy and wanting to do that most basic human interaction of sharing meal time with the person I claim to love. I can't imagine being with someone so selfish that they went off to their own hobby with me watching the children so they could do so, returned to me waiting to enjoy our food together, told me not to use the kitchen, then came out stuffing their face, with the attitude "what? can't you even feed yourself?"

Course I can. This isn't about being an infantile little lady who can't make my own food. It's about a spouse taking the piss then reversing it onto me as the problem.

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Gosh. What's the weather like in Stepford today?

Mayamemsaab1 · 07/03/2025 19:49

LePetitMaman · 06/03/2025 13:20

Goodness me. How dramatic. I want toast. He wants cereal. I pour the cereal while I'm waiting for my toast.

I want poached eggs. He wants porridge. You just bob them along at the same time.

"Famished" OP, barely the strength to carry on, what with her going out for a run while he watched the kids, then telling him he can't come in the kitchen the minute she gets back.

I would have waited for my spouse to return for a run before having breakfast, so we could have it together. I'd have been hungry, sure. But it's just courtesy and wanting to do that most basic human interaction of sharing meal time with the person I claim to love. I can't imagine being with someone so selfish that they went off to their own hobby with me watching the children so they could do so, returned to me waiting to enjoy our food together, told me not to use the kitchen, then came out stuffing their face, with the attitude "what? can't you even feed yourself?"

Course I can. This isn't about being an infantile little lady who can't make my own food. It's about a spouse taking the piss then reversing it onto me as the problem.

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Is this actually a joke? 😂

LePetitMaman · 07/03/2025 22:09

honeylulu · 07/03/2025 13:18

Gosh. What's the weather like in Stepford today?

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If you take some Crayola and switch "I" with "he" it's the same. Does that help with the comprehension?

It's nothing to do with male or female.