To make myself some brekkie

[Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead]

Did park run this morning then straight to do a food shop then home. Absolutely starving. Dd was baking some cookies for dh as a surprise so we told him to stay out of the kitchen for a bit. Made myself some brekkie, called through to dh to see if he wanted anything. Hit the roof cos l had already made my own. Told me l am rude. Said l am hungry after running and he said ffs it's all about you.

Hmm it really isn't!!

So made himself and sandwich and not spoken since!

Is he the dick or am l?!

Am off out tonight so don't give a flying one if he wants to ignore me!!

The OP explains that in her first post - OP’s daughter was making cookies in the kitchen and wanted them to be a surprise for the DH.

Right, but then if you're cooking breakfast, wouldn't you offer to make some for the banished adult? Instead of waiting until you'd already made yours?

but why is he making a fuss
she offered?
if he was that bothered he could have asked her

I would be a little irked at the selfishness but nothing major. An eye roll and sarcastic ribbing. Would get over it pretty quickly.

Before closing the kitchen to him why didn't you check if he wanted to get anything first? Surely this is a logical question. 'DH, DD is doing a surprise in the kitchen. Is there anything you want to get before she begins?'
I also don't know why you ate first then asked him after. Surely if you came back did you not speak to him then? Didn't you say you were hungry from running so were going to get breakfast, at which point he could have said me too I haven't eaten yet, and if you wanted him banded from the kitchen you could have then got him something if needed.

As you were out for the majority of the morning I'd assume as a capable adult he'd already had his breakfast. If he wanted anything, even when banned he's more than capable of calling through and asking.

Thank god I'm single living in a peaceful home with my dc

Me too. Think OP's gone off on her night out already 😅

Obviously it depends what the breakfast was.
Bowl of cereal with milk - no big deal.
Fry up - yes you should have offered to make him some too.

Breakfast is really simply. Why can't everybody make their own?

It depends on what you have for breakfast, surely?

I don't think anyone can answer really OP without knowing-

• what it was you cooked
• what's the norm in your house

If everyone normally gets their own breakfast, or if it was just a slice of toast or cereal then he was being ott and rude. If you have some sort of rule that one of you makes breakfast for everyone and the other makes lunch, or if you always sit down for a cooked breakfast all together at the weekend and he had been waiting for you for hours, then you were being rude.

It's usually very simple isn't it and even if OP made something complicated for herself, I don't see why it necessarily has to be made for everyone.
How do they eat when they both work? Surely, each person can make their own breakfast?

If it’s normal in your home to make each other breakfast.
Then I’d understand him being a bit miffed.

However him hitting the roof is way too much of an overreaction.

We only have brekkie on holibobs or at Crimbo.

YANBU, you offered him breakfast.

But do you then make it for hubby?

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How does it even matter what it was. I can't think of anything that isn't more efficient to make two of at once, rather than one and then start again. Even if it was cereal, it's getting another bowl from one place, another spoon from another, the milk out again...while mine goes soggy!

It must have seemed like an afterthought, which is a bit shit. I wouldn't like it if DH was about eat his and then offered to go back and sort mine while his waited. I'd just do it myself. Because cookies don"t need to be a surprise. They're still a treat. And there's no way he didn't hear her baking.

But she did offer!!! Where's the selfishness?! Why does it matter if it's the exact same time as hers or afterwards?! He was being made some cookies ffs! What a stroppy arsey rude manchild. I cannot begin to imagine being in an arse because I'd been offered some breakfast by the person who had just made theirs. If he was starving he could have knocked on the door!!! Jesus wept.

Sounds to me as though he was sulking at being shut out of the kitchen and wanted to take it out on you. I would have assumed he'd got himself something at some point, to be honest.

That’s what I thought. If I’m making something I ask if he wants any, and if he’s making something he asks me. I thought that’s what people who live together and like each other do, but clearly not

He’s definitely the dick @Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead
Hope you have a great night out, and it doesn’t spoil your evening.

It would never cross my mind to break breakfast for anyone else. We all get up and leave the house at slightly different times and everyone fends for themselves. Whoever makes the coffee, leaves enough for the others. My only exception is if I am making pancakes, I'll make them for whomever wants them.

Couldn't bear to be in a situation where people are getting arsey with me for not putting their cereal in a bowl.