To make myself some brekkie

[Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead]

Did park run this morning then straight to do a food shop then home. Absolutely starving. Dd was baking some cookies for dh as a surprise so we told him to stay out of the kitchen for a bit. Made myself some brekkie, called through to dh to see if he wanted anything. Hit the roof cos l had already made my own. Told me l am rude. Said l am hungry after running and he said ffs it's all about you.

Hmm it really isn't!!

So made himself and sandwich and not spoken since!

Is he the dick or am l?!

Am off out tonight so don't give a flying one if he wants to ignore me!!

So he was at home while you went on a park run and went and did the supermarket shop. You then made your own breakfast and he didn't want what you had. Then he went mad because you didn't make him what he wanted? Is he disabled in someway? What was he doing all morning and why does he think you should cook his breakfast?

He’s an idiot.

He hasn't made me a cup of tea for months - l always make him one - plus every evening meal and lunch at the weekends.

He knew the surprise was cookies because l tipped him off about it.

He was offered breakfast but knew l was v hungry so yes l did put my needs first for once. And yes he looked after our 13 year old - which l do every week whwn he goes to his sports club once a week although tbf she doesn't really need looking after.

Yeah literally was typing in a hurry, brekkie slighter quicker to type than breakfast, would never say brekkie just typed it!

Apparently not!!

Actually no, we are usually a calm and loving housrhold with a bit of friendly banter thrown in

I couldn’t live like this.
So you made breakfast for yourself without asking what somebody else wanted. Then there’s sulking. Crickey. Great way to spend the weekend.

So, you asked him if he wanted some X, he said no, you made yourself X and now he’s cross? Is that what happened? As it’s not entirely clear.

It works ok in our household. We offer hot drinks but have different time schedules for food in the morning. Absolutely not selfish or rude ,just a different perspective!!

If I was making myself breakfast I’d ask everyone if they’d care to join. Most people say so I don’t know why you didn’t ask your family first. It was a little rude and selfish. I’d never make myself breakfast and not ask who wanted some.

You must have been starving

You made a bacon sandwich and didn’t offer any one some. I’d have a mutiny. I wouldn’t dream of just making myself a bacon sandwich. Everyone loves bacon sandwiches.

That’s not the point

I find this strange ~ if I was making a bacon sandwich I would offer anyone else in the house one ?

I understand what you’re saying but I don’t think applies here. It sounds like a typical weekend thing. Getting out for work doesn’t count. Then it’s everybody on their own

Everyone wants bacon

Do you act like he doesn’t exist.. I’m going to compare this with me going to get takeout and I got myself a filet mignon with a mushroom wine sauce and truffled fries with creamed spinach only for myself even though I knew you were home. I just didn’t think of you and and I’m eating this all by myself. I don’t get that. Your a family.

And when I make bacon I make the whole package so family can munch when they like

After she ate

Ok, so if you hungry and couldn’t go in the kitchen for whatever reason and then your wife comes in the said kitchen and makes herself breakfast without asking him and knows he can’t go in the kitchen but ask as a after thought. It sounds like already have problems anyway bc she’s out for the night and doesn’t care. I’ve been there too. But if you did care you would have asked

Not something worth hitting the roof over, not that big a deal. He’s not going to waste away and had all morning to make himself breakfast while she was out anyway

As long as it wasn’t you that was hungry

I wouldn’t blame someone else for being hungry

I think I have a chip on my shoulder bc when my kids were little and I was running around like a maniac my pos husband would go to the deli and get himself a bacon, egg and cheese sandwich on a roll and eat it in his car. He didn’t think anything was wrong with that. It was big deal, he’s getting himself a big breakfast and not asking his family if we wanted any and we saw him eating it in the car. The big fat pig. I actually hates his guts now and so do my kids. What a se,fish piece of garbage. I’m sorry. I’m definitely acting biased and that’s not your fault. Oh, and we saw him eating. He’s a pig and will always be a pig. I’m sure you had oat nuts and that doesn’t count.

I'd never have considered stuffing my own face without asking if someone I was living with /married to/ or even if they were a friend round for a coffee if they wanted something If I was making it.

It's really bad manners to not offer.