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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 2025-03-01T15:36:46+00:00

Did park run this morning then straight to do a food shop then home. Absolutely starving. Dd was baking some cookies for dh as a surprise so we told him to stay out of the kitchen for a bit. Made myself some brekkie, called through to dh to see if he wanted anything. Hit the roof cos l had already made my own. Told me l am rude. Said l am hungry after running and he said ffs it's all about you. Hmm it really isn't!! So made himself and sandwich and not spoken since! Is he the dick or am l?! Am off out tonight so don't give a flying one if he wants to ignore me!!

InWalksBarberalla · 02/03/2025 02:28

cheseandme · 01/03/2025 15:46

Well I made myself a bacon sandwich this morning and it never occurred to me to offer husband one ! What a pathetic reason to throw a strop YANBU.

That's pretty strange though surely. Nobody in my household would make themselves a bacon sandwich without offering one to everyone else.

Devianinc · 02/03/2025 02:57

Devianinc · 02/03/2025 02:00

I think I have a chip on my shoulder bc when my kids were little and I was running around like a maniac my pos husband would go to the deli and get himself a bacon, egg and cheese sandwich on a roll and eat it in his car. He didn’t think anything was wrong with that. It was big deal, he’s getting himself a big breakfast and not asking his family if we wanted any and we saw him eating it in the car. The big fat pig. I actually hates his guts now and so do my kids. What a se,fish piece of garbage. I’m sorry. I’m definitely acting biased and that’s not your fault. Oh, and we saw him eating. He’s a pig and will always be a pig. I’m sure you had oat nuts and that doesn’t count.

I forgot to say I’m sorry.

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 02/03/2025 07:48

oakleaffy · 02/03/2025 02:01

I'd never have considered stuffing my own face without asking if someone I was living with /married to/ or even if they were a friend round for a coffee if they wanted something If I was making it.

It's really bad manners to not offer.

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I told him what l was having before l went into the kitchen and he said he didn't want that so l did mine first cos l was starving.

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pictoosh · 02/03/2025 07:49

You didn't do anything wrong.

Moonnstars · 02/03/2025 07:56

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 02/03/2025 07:48

I told him what l was having before l went into the kitchen and he said he didn't want that so l did mine first cos l was starving.

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Could he actually go into the kitchen at this point?
I think it's a communication issue. What did he want for breakfast? What did you have?
I still think it's all a bit odd and I don't understand the timings either of him not being able to access the kitchen. Why did he not eat before DD was baking? It sounds like she started when you came home, or why didn't you let him grab something before she started when you got in? Surely a quick, I am having this for breakfast, him saying he didn't want that, so a reply of come get what you want then before DD is in the way in here would sort this.

CaptainFuture · 02/03/2025 07:56

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 02/03/2025 07:48

I told him what l was having before l went into the kitchen and he said he didn't want that so l did mine first cos l was starving.

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Is the point he 'wasn't allowed in the kitchen' so couldn't make himself anything?
And would also depend on what op was offering....
A protein shake/spinach smoothie/ fried mackerel... no thanks! Basic toast would be preferred!

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 02/03/2025 09:10

CaptainFuture · 02/03/2025 07:56

Is the point he 'wasn't allowed in the kitchen' so couldn't make himself anything?
And would also depend on what op was offering....
A protein shake/spinach smoothie/ fried mackerel... no thanks! Basic toast would be preferred!

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10 mins we asked him to stay away and he had been home all morning beforehand

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 02/03/2025 09:12

pictoosh · 02/03/2025 07:49

You didn't do anything wrong.

Thank you.
He's had a hard week at work so think he took it out on me but l'm not having that.
And my night out was planned ages ago so it wasn't a kneejerk right l'm going out situation.

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MissDoubleU · 02/03/2025 09:14

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 02/03/2025 09:10

10 mins we asked him to stay away and he had been home all morning beforehand

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He’s being a demanding baby, he could have eaten breakfast while you were running or any point upto or after the 10 minutes. Tell him to get a grip

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 02/03/2025 09:34

Moonnstars · 02/03/2025 07:56

Could he actually go into the kitchen at this point?
I think it's a communication issue. What did he want for breakfast? What did you have?
I still think it's all a bit odd and I don't understand the timings either of him not being able to access the kitchen. Why did he not eat before DD was baking? It sounds like she started when you came home, or why didn't you let him grab something before she started when you got in? Surely a quick, I am having this for breakfast, him saying he didn't want that, so a reply of come get what you want then before DD is in the way in here would sort this.

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Exactly - why didn't he eat before she was baking? He had had all morning!

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Iamnotabot · 02/03/2025 09:53

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 01/03/2025 15:56

Yeah, i'd have cooked for everyone.

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How very 1950s of you.

Iamnotabot · 02/03/2025 10:04

Devianinc · 02/03/2025 01:17

Ok, so if you hungry and couldn’t go in the kitchen for whatever reason and then your wife comes in the said kitchen and makes herself breakfast without asking him and knows he can’t go in the kitchen but ask as a after thought. It sounds like already have problems anyway bc she’s out for the night and doesn’t care. I’ve been there too. But if you did care you would have asked

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I believe the reason he couldn’t go into the kitchen was because his daughter wanted to surprise him with a batch of cookies.
A bit of a waste of time in her part by the looks of things.

Sidebeforeself · 02/03/2025 10:18

@pictoosh I was hardly bitching. Anyway , now somebody has said munch , so I’ll have to go lie down with a wet towel over my eyes!

MissDoubleU · 02/03/2025 11:40

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 02/03/2025 09:34

Exactly - why didn't he eat before she was baking? He had had all morning!

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Have you asked him this..?

Soujds to me like he doesn’t like that you’ve been out in the morning and is throwing the dummy out the pram because you haven’t rushed to tend to him the second you return. Everything’s about YOU. You left him to fend for himself, how could you

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 02/03/2025 12:08

MissDoubleU · 02/03/2025 11:40

Have you asked him this..?

Soujds to me like he doesn’t like that you’ve been out in the morning and is throwing the dummy out the pram because you haven’t rushed to tend to him the second you return. Everything’s about YOU. You left him to fend for himself, how could you

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Yes and possibly because l was going out last nt.
He is more than capable of making himself food so god knows why.

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MissDoubleU · 02/03/2025 12:10

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 02/03/2025 12:08

Yes and possibly because l was going out last nt.
He is more than capable of making himself food so god knows why.

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Classic. Man isn’t centre of attention for one day and he starts getting moody and saying “everything’s bout YOU now.”

Misaster · 04/03/2025 11:17

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 02/03/2025 00:20

Actually no, we are usually a calm and loving housrhold with a bit of friendly banter thrown in

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Really? 🤔

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Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 04/03/2025 14:11

Misaster · 04/03/2025 11:17

Really? 🤔

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Yes, really!

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What is the need of this?

Seems a bit intimidating, like you're trying to corner the OP.
Why? To win an argument about her household breakfast arrangements?

Never2many · 05/03/2025 07:04

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It’s bad form to bring up other posts on a thread.

Clearly you’re just spoiling for a fight.

Never2many · 05/03/2025 07:07

I can’t believe the number of people who are giving the OP a hard time over this. Imagine the opposite:

“this morning DH went out running and came back from doing the food shop. He then asked me if I wanted some breakfast and I said no. AIBU to be furious that he made himself breakfast when he knew I didn’t want any? He should have not had any either IMO.

Because ultimately that’s what it comes down to.

He’s pathetic.

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honeylulu · 05/03/2025 07:44

I don't think it's necessarily "bad manners" to make food for yourself, particularly if the others want something different from what you're making. I know plenty of people (mostly male) who will just sit hungry and wait for the woman to tend to them, rather than make the effort themselves. And they definitely wouldn't think of offering to do it for the whole family. Why is that not considered "bad manners"?

I'm astonished that people think op was unreasonable to make her own meal first. He didn't want what she was having so if she made his first she'd be absolutely famished waiting even longer for hers ... after park run and family food shop whilst he'd been sitting on his arse. Hard week at work ... bollocks. I have plenty of hard weeks at work. It doesn't make me incapable of cooking in the evenings and weekends.