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To want to help Ukraine- is there ANYTHING we can do????

298 replies

Helpforthosethatneedit · 28/02/2025 20:23

I am just so sad watching Zelensky. He's had his country invaded by Russia, fought for survival and now he's got Trump and Vance gaslighting him. Mumsnet, there's posts every day on here about this sort of behaviour, but usually it is happening in playgrounds. Wonderful advice is given. But this is not a playground. This is the world. How can we/ the little people help? I feel so so helpless. Please give ideas? Can we do something to support Ukraine and potentially change the future?

Aibu?

Yes- frankly, we, the little people have nothing we can do to help.
No- We need to fight to help Ukraine and keep Europe safe (and here's my idea....)

OP posts:
DdraigGoch · 01/03/2025 16:31

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 15:54

I'm in favour of supplying them with the tools they need to protect their own.'

Tools have been supplied. It's the US ones they need more that's the issue for Zelenskyy

Posters on a parenting site can post support which is nice but the reality is it's the US mandate which is driving this.

Plus thousands dying per day, you'd like to keep going I take it, when bodies get low do you offer?

Ammunition is what they need at the moment.

And no I don't want thousands to die every day. How fucking dare you insinuate that. I'm just living in the real world where the only person with the power to stop this tomorrow is Putin. The Ukrainian army could surrender tomorrow and the bloodshed would not stop.

Only Putin can stop him, which is why the pressure on the Russian economy must be maintained. Any ceasefire which is not permanent only buys the Russians time to regroup and rearm before going in for the kill.

Mightymoog · 01/03/2025 16:34

kistanbul · 01/03/2025 16:18

One thing you could do for free is talk to the people in your life who might not be paying attention and are getting information from social media - remind them that

Occupation isn't peace
Putin killed British citizens on British soil
We tried appeasement after he invaded Crimea in 2014 so we know that Putin can’t be trusted

where would you recommend peole get their information from.
All the MSM is as biased and prone to spouting untrue shite as anywhere else.
People certanly aren't going to be wanting to go to the BBc for info in light of their recent atrocious behaviour

kistanbul · 01/03/2025 16:53

Mightymoog · 01/03/2025 16:34

where would you recommend peole get their information from.
All the MSM is as biased and prone to spouting untrue shite as anywhere else.
People certanly aren't going to be wanting to go to the BBc for info in light of their recent atrocious behaviour

Personally I look across a range of mainstream sources. I do not get facts from social media. I like the FT because it’s a paper that needs to tell its readers the truth so they can make money from investments. If it’s not accurate, its readers lose money. The subscription is expensive though unless you get it through work.

If you’ve lost faith in the mainstream, it’s going to be hard to find something you trust. Sorry I can’t help on that score.

In terms of coping with the world being a scary place, spend time in green places, take deep breaths and say yes to seeing people. It’s hard at the moment. Take care of yourself.

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 16:58

@DdraigGoch it's the reality though, so I'm not sure why you're reacting. If this continues it is thousands more day per day. How many more days before other forces are needed?

It is up in the air rn anyway. Europe cannot do it without US and there's the security issue, hard to know what leaders will advise Zelenskyy tomorrow.

cardibach · 01/03/2025 16:58

DdraigGoch · 01/03/2025 16:31

Ammunition is what they need at the moment.

And no I don't want thousands to die every day. How fucking dare you insinuate that. I'm just living in the real world where the only person with the power to stop this tomorrow is Putin. The Ukrainian army could surrender tomorrow and the bloodshed would not stop.

Only Putin can stop him, which is why the pressure on the Russian economy must be maintained. Any ceasefire which is not permanent only buys the Russians time to regroup and rearm before going in for the kill.

This disingenuous parroting of the idea that if you think Putin should be the one to end this war that you are a war monger and want thousands to die is quite sickening.

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 17:01

This disingenuous parroting of the idea that if you think Putin should be the one to end this war that you are a war monger and want thousands to die is quite sickening.

Yes I find posters parroting on mn that others should fight the same.

cardibach · 01/03/2025 17:01

Mightymoog · 01/03/2025 16:34

where would you recommend peole get their information from.
All the MSM is as biased and prone to spouting untrue shite as anywhere else.
People certanly aren't going to be wanting to go to the BBc for info in light of their recent atrocious behaviour

A range of media maybe? I use Al Jazeera for a different perspective alongside BBC, Sky and Channel 4

cardibach · 01/03/2025 17:03

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 16:58

@DdraigGoch it's the reality though, so I'm not sure why you're reacting. If this continues it is thousands more day per day. How many more days before other forces are needed?

It is up in the air rn anyway. Europe cannot do it without US and there's the security issue, hard to know what leaders will advise Zelenskyy tomorrow.

Nobody. Wants. It. To. Continue.
FFS.
Normal people want Putin to end it. He can do that right now. If he doesn’t, he needs to be made to.

cardibach · 01/03/2025 17:04

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 17:01

This disingenuous parroting of the idea that if you think Putin should be the one to end this war that you are a war monger and want thousands to die is quite sickening.

Yes I find posters parroting on mn that others should fight the same.

That’s not what anyone is saying. @DdraigGoch has already said that Ukrainians are fighting because it’s their homeland. We are supporting them, as is right. If Putin marched up your drive how would you feel? Would you want the able bodied in your country to fight and have support from other countries? Or would you cave in to stop the blood shed? Knowing it wouldn’t stop the bloodshed anyway, just extend it.

DdraigGoch · 01/03/2025 17:10

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 16:58

@DdraigGoch it's the reality though, so I'm not sure why you're reacting. If this continues it is thousands more day per day. How many more days before other forces are needed?

It is up in the air rn anyway. Europe cannot do it without US and there's the security issue, hard to know what leaders will advise Zelenskyy tomorrow.

There are no easy answers. People are going to die either way. If we just roll over it won't be the end of the bloodshed. Georgia will be next.

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 17:12

What do people think is happening with conscripts?

It's all a bit removed. It's not post Ukrainian colours on SM support and be done or say we must fight on parenting sites and feel good.

The awful reality is thousands of deaths, on all sides.

As for people offering to step in as I said I'm ok if they want to do that. But be realistic about what is happening daily before posting keep going.

Basically offer if you want, for yourself not others

As for the next post. with. this. FFS how are you going to do that @cardibach?

DdraigGoch · 01/03/2025 17:14

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 17:12

What do people think is happening with conscripts?

It's all a bit removed. It's not post Ukrainian colours on SM support and be done or say we must fight on parenting sites and feel good.

The awful reality is thousands of deaths, on all sides.

As for people offering to step in as I said I'm ok if they want to do that. But be realistic about what is happening daily before posting keep going.

Basically offer if you want, for yourself not others

As for the next post. with. this. FFS how are you going to do that @cardibach?

Manpower shortfalls are largely down to ammunition shortages.

Potsofpetals · 01/03/2025 17:19

Maray1967 · 01/03/2025 13:38

That’s an interesting view - is she really that popular? If she is, then yes, I’d agree.

It’s a floated idea. I just get the feeling she doesn’t want to get involved with the current higher powers of the party. She literally had to be dragged out to endorse Joe.

The Obamas are a nuclear family. They have no baggage, not too many skeletons and represent the traditional setup most Americans want. Her kids aren’t running around paying for prostitutes or dropping bags of coke in the White House.

If the democrats are seriously going to continue down the DEI route, spouting that men can get pregnant and run Kamala again, they might as well give Vance the keys now.

They need to roll the party back 20 years and remind voters that the party wasn’t always as nuts as it is.

cardibach · 01/03/2025 17:19

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 17:12

What do people think is happening with conscripts?

It's all a bit removed. It's not post Ukrainian colours on SM support and be done or say we must fight on parenting sites and feel good.

The awful reality is thousands of deaths, on all sides.

As for people offering to step in as I said I'm ok if they want to do that. But be realistic about what is happening daily before posting keep going.

Basically offer if you want, for yourself not others

As for the next post. with. this. FFS how are you going to do that @cardibach?

Just say you think Putin should have back the whole of Eastern Europe. It would be quicker. And it’s what you mean.

Monvelo · 01/03/2025 17:20

Helpforthosethatneedit · 01/03/2025 07:33

This is such a helpful list, thank you. Really have to rethink my beauty brands! Guess I'll go medik8/ Korean beauty?

Feel like I need an opposing list, of things that are NOT American!

MILLYmo0se · 01/03/2025 17:25

So what is those peoples wish/solution then? Obviously most people in Ukraine don't want the war, so what is their proposal if not to fight against an invasion, just let it happen?

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 17:28

@DdraigGoch where have you read that?

In googling it suggests otherwise

www.politico.eu/article/ukraine-army-war-attrition/

@cardibach that's a typical reaction, you can write your own posts not mine. If that's what you think then post it and I'll post what I think.

cardibach · 01/03/2025 17:41

I honestly give up with you @EasternStandard There doesn’t seem to be anything the right do that you can find a problem with. Have a good weekend.

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 17:46

@cardibach thousands dying daily has nothing to do with your ridiculous right left construct. Typical but just so bad.

It's young people who are not wanting to do it. If you can't see that then I can't help you.

Maybe you don't have anyone who would have to do it, hence your blasé responses.

But if you are keen, you are free to offer.

cardibach · 01/03/2025 17:50

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 17:46

@cardibach thousands dying daily has nothing to do with your ridiculous right left construct. Typical but just so bad.

It's young people who are not wanting to do it. If you can't see that then I can't help you.

Maybe you don't have anyone who would have to do it, hence your blasé responses.

But if you are keen, you are free to offer.

Nobody. Is. Keen.
You are raising straw man after straw man.

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 17:53

@cardibach you are free to do it.

Not as easy as SM posts.

I think those who post as you do should walk the walk, not offer other people.

cardibach · 01/03/2025 18:16

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 17:53

@cardibach you are free to do it.

Not as easy as SM posts.

I think those who post as you do should walk the walk, not offer other people.

Free to do what?
Sign up? Straw man. Nobody is asking for it and it’s not the only alternative to Ukraine surrendering.

Jc2001 · 01/03/2025 18:23

MooFroo · 28/02/2025 20:54

It’s not a conflict - it’s an absolute genocide.

Trump sharing his plans for Gaza as a tourist destination is waaaaay worse than his bullying of Zelensky

So why didn't you start your own thread about it then? Why just jump on people for being concerned about other things well?

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 18:27

@cardibach yes I know you are offering other people.

I think everyone who does that should back up their words and offer first.

cardibach · 01/03/2025 18:34

EasternStandard · 01/03/2025 18:27

@cardibach yes I know you are offering other people.

I think everyone who does that should back up their words and offer first.

You aren’t making much sense. I’m out.