to be annoyed that my dad (ds only grandpa) is only spending 8 pounds on ds first birthday present

[nocluemum]

My dad has plenty of money and ds is the only and first grandchild. We live abroad and I emailed a list of presents that I thought ds would like, ranging in price from 8 to 70 pounds, thinking he would enjoy looking in ELC. He called to say that he has got the one for 8 pounds and that was it. Am really upset and dont know if I should let it slide or make something of it with him.....

You are being totally unreasonable, but you should know that. I can't believe you are thinking of "making something of it" with him. Get over it and be grateful that you still have a dad and that he wants to send a present.

Sorry if that sounds harsh but my children barely knew my dad and still treasure the charity shop books and old coins he sent them before he died.

Has the OP disappeared?

Actually scrap that - I'm NOT sorry if it sounds harsh.

yes surprising isnt it humphrey

perhaps she has gone to count how much money she has

YABU, you are lucky that your dad is getting him a present. DS got nothing off DH's family and we are currently staying with them!!

I always end up feeling sorry for some one when they post and everyone disagrees with them lol

I suppose you never know the full story at the end of the day

£8 for a present?

In my day we were lucky if we got a tangerine and a clip round the ear for us birthdays

rolf at the sheik

maybe in their family they spend a certain amount of money on one another

I know you shouldnt give to receive....

But me and my sisters all have a similar amount we spend on each other and the children

maybe this has always been done for other family members but this time he didnt

Maybe he asked for some ideas, so she gave him a good range?

Its a lovely day out, sun is shining, Im trying to be nice lol lol

I don't like the bit about being the first grandchild. So what if it is his 1st, 3rd or 7th grandchild. Are you saying your ds should get a bigger gift because he is the first (and only) grandchild?

Agree with the person who has mentioned P&P. By the time you add P&P to the gift it can add up to quite a bit of money.

Dh's dad sent a card for my ds's birthdays. That was it.

If thats not the case, then yes, sounds like OP is being unreasonable

but will now know for next time!!!!! lol

Sheik, tangerines are for christmas!

YABU

At least he is buying a present and I think suggesting a gift for £70 for a 1st birthday is crazy.

YABU sorry

chances are the list pissed him off and he had his own ideas about what he thought he might buy. Perhaps he has something else in mind.

I must admit, MIL will usually ask what to buy DDs so i pick something relatively cheap but nice, she buys that, and often another little thing that she has seen - my mother goes OTT, but DD is only 2 and coudlnt give a shit, i could though, i have stuff everywhere

Sheik - LOL at skateboard...I guess he wanted his grandchild to be a bit cool? You can never start too young y'know.

To OP
My husbands father has NEVER sent a card, present, phoned or in any way shape or form acknowledged my children's birthdays or christmas, so I do think you need a bit of a reality check.

BUT, maybe your dad thought the list was in order of preference?

But seriously, he:
-worked to earn the money

-looked at the list, and obviously cared enough to pay attention

-went out to buy the present

-wrapped it, got it ready for posting

-went to the hell that is many post offices, waited in line etc

-paid for the post

I think that constitutes alot of effort.

Triple points if he gave an appropriate card and filled it in himself.

Well, my birthday is in January, so tangerines are on special offer by then.

do we all line up to give you a clip sheik?

Yes, but can you all make sure it's an expensive clip.

I think YABU. A one year old does not need expensive presents and you will soon be groaning under toys and tut as he gets older or you have more children.

Your father is sensible.

BA bloody BU!

That is what you get for being cheeky.
You sent him a list? WTF...

No wonder he got the cheapest pressie. You deprived him of the joyous task of chosing one for himself. I would have done the same thing if my children sent me a list of present ranging from 8 till 70 pounds. Greed is what I call it.

LOL The OP asked and mumsnetters told!!!!!!!

Come back nocluemum!!!!!! we don't bite, or bear grudges.

If it's any consolation, I posted a very similar thread on here in December and got an absolute mauling from everyone and I'm still here to tell the tale

yes feeling quite sorry for nocluemum now.
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