to be annoyed that my dad (ds only grandpa) is only spending 8 pounds on ds first birthday present

[nocluemum]

My dad has plenty of money and ds is the only and first grandchild. We live abroad and I emailed a list of presents that I thought ds would like, ranging in price from 8 to 70 pounds, thinking he would enjoy looking in ELC. He called to say that he has got the one for 8 pounds and that was it. Am really upset and dont know if I should let it slide or make something of it with him.....

i would be cheesed off, but only because it was the least expensive its like he looked at list and thought which is the cheapest, like what you do when buying strangers a present from a wedding gift list!!

Dse he sit in his house ringing his hands over all his lovely money?

Yeah, it's like he couldn't be arsed.

rofl lazarou.

Is he like the king from Sing a song of sixpence?

why should be spend more?! It is his money

i have not bought my nearly two year old a birthday present this year, and didn't buy one last year

Is he from Yorkshire 'eee, by eck, thas not gettin any of me luvly munney. Bugger off!'

(awaits bashing from yourkshire tight asses)

My dh is from yorkshire and so is his dad so I'm allowed to take t'piss

a one year old has no concept of expense or worht

most one year olds much prefer the boxes the gifts come in regardless of the contents

Do you think that spending vast amounts of money somehow makes up for the fact that you live away from your dad and he, presumably, doesn't see much of his grandchild? Because it doesn't, you know. The amount he spends means bugger all in the scheme of things.

And if you didn't want the item which was £8, maybe you shouldn't have put it on the list ...

it depends - was the eight pond present nice?
Why in any event are you sending present lists for your child.

( if you sent me a present list for a child I am pretty sure I would send back the cheapest thing on it - especially as a 12 month old will only be interested in eating the box )

Seriously. My 5 year old DD still cries for her grandad who she lost when she was such a little girl. I know this is heavy on emotionality but there really are more important things to be upset about. I would love me dad still to be around buying her hopelessly inapproprairte presents as well as shouting noisily at my son ( who has communication difficulities dad - he's not deaf )
seriously - let it go

Yes, YABU, and sound a bit materialistic, sorry. Does it matter how much a present costs? Especially as it's one you chose as something your child would like. As RubySlippers says, a one year old will have no concept of worth. You'll probably find that one £8 present is more loved than anything more extravagant. Babies are contrary like that

Imagine being the grandad of those 18 kids on the other thread?

Blimey you come across as a rather spoilt person.

You should be grateful that you've got anything at all.

Is that how you judge people by the amount of money that they spend?

YABU - WWB and Quattro are spot on.

You sound ungrateful and spoilt tbh

I bet you feel a lot better now don't you nocluemum? See, everyone's on your side

Did you put the £8 thing first on the list? If it were my Father, he would try to get in and out as quickly as possible. Regardless of the money I think YABU to presume that your father would enjoy browsing in the ELC!

It was a strange thing to post. Did you really think that your attitude is that of an adult?

CL is right, men just have no clue about buying presents

YABU and very ungrateful.

YABU. A gift is a gift and I don't really believe in asking or expecting a certain thing or amount. If anything, people spend too much these days. Also, older people, even if 'well off' don't like spending alot as maybe they have been through very hard times and £8 is alot to them probably.

Totally unreasonable, agree with wwwb why put it on the ist if you didnt want it. You could go to the poundshop for a present for your ds's birthday he really wouldnt care.
From the sounds of it hes going to be brought up to be very materialistic.

Oh dear

dont think you will be asking that one again in a hurry!!!!

Lazarou, you are a sarky bugger

My dad sends money for the DSs because he is clueless when it comes to small children. This is the man that bought a skateboard for DS1 when he was born - despite my dad having no interest in skateboarding and DS1 being incapable of holding up his head, let alone executing complicated moves on a skateboard. I can only guess that it was cheap in Woolies.

Speaking of my Dad, as a quick aside, my dad is a bit deaf (years of standing next to speakers at hippy gigs) and when DS2 was born, DP rang him up and said that we had called the baby Eoin (pron Owen) but my dad misheard and thought he'd saidf Alan. I got cards and phonecalls from my family in Ireland saying "Congratulations on the birth of baby Alan"

I could almost hear them across the Irish sea saying "B'jaysus! They've called the little fecker Alan! Jeepers! That's brutal!"

Personally, I find it hard to bring myself to buy things from a pre-set list - for an anniversary for my mil once we were skint, so I spent literally three weeks making homemade bits & pieces - marinated feta, chutneys, some weird orange and clove liqueur thing that smelled unholy - anyway, I used the resources I had as lovingly as I could, and EIGHT DAYS before the event received a note saying "This year the whole family have agreed to buy us parts of a dinner service we're collecting".

Don't send lists, or assume. Expectation of generosity kills the joy for the giver, ime.

Hope you all have lovely day, tho.

On reflection, is this for real? It sounds a bit implausible tbh.