Would you judge this in someone’s house?

[Rainbows678]

I’m currently re-decorating parts of my house. I’ve come across a website that sells prints for the walls and I’ve found some I really like;

This house is full of love, laughter, and a little bit of what the fuck.

Pardon the mess, I decided not to give a shit today.

If you’re happy and you know it, it’s your meds!

As you can probably tell, our house is already a little bit eccentric with its decor… but would you judge someone for having prints like that on the wall with children living in the house or am I just overthinking it? 😅

I think the OP's choice in decor is dreadful too but you've taken that post totally out of context.

I have nudes all over the place. I always have. Classical nudes, Renaissance nudes etc. I have never considered art inappropriate, but I wouldn't have up a Francis Bacon. DD has flower pictures that make skulls in her house. It's what you like.
I tend not to put up slogans or quotes though, and I wouldn't put up the ones you quote because they are cliches and a bit naff, to be honest and also I don't like swear words on my walls.

What I think about when someome says that they're "eccentric"

There's two different but related things going on here but both point to the same fundamental need, which is people seeking approval from others for their lifestyle:

• The snobbery or taste factor (depending on your perspective) around these "sayings" items (live, laugh, love/wine o'clock, whatever). Some people think they're inspired, others find them cringeworthy. It's subjective but very Marmite.
• The appropriateness or otherwise of swearing around children. Also very divisive.

One is a class/style consideration, the other is moral. But both are deliberate "antagonists": people know they will prompt judgement. Everyone knows that this sort of thing will be loved or hated, it's not middle ground.

If you're the kind of person who wants never to offend someone and to create calm, tasteful consensus you presumably care quite a lot about how other people perceive you and go out of your way to not upset the applecart. If you're the kind of person who doesn't care what people think of your decor or dress sense or the language you use at home you will just crack on and please yourself.

What is irritating is when people seek to have it both ways and advertise their "eccentricity" or "madness" or "straight talking" in a way which seeks approval and admiration from others (and I think this is partly why people are so irritated by the "live, laugh, love" phenomenon: it's the idea of seeking approval from others of a supposedly "unique" philosophy which actually isn't unique at all).

If you want to take the "please yourself" route, whether that's cheesy posters on the walls or walking around naked from dawn to dusk, do it and own it but don't expect people to give you a pat on the back for it. If you genuinely are as straight talking/speak as you find/insert cliche as you think you are, then you shouldn't expect people to congratulate you for it or be perturbed when they don't.

They're pretty naff and "done to death".

I wouldn't approve of the swearing either.

So well articulated. Exactly this.
I am afraid the phrase " Our house is full of love and fun" irritated me.
What is everybody else's house full of?
Misery and weeping?
The whole sayings on wall reminds me of Fisk!

I'd judge you both on the quotes and on the swearing!

I would find them tacky and wonder why you had put them up especially with kids.

I would be cringing for you.
Its very try hard. Sorry!

I'm struggling to see why you care what other people think and why you asked for opinions, going by this and your other responses?

Really dreadful - not because of the children (although thats an added factor) they are just totally naff

I wouldn’t judge you. I’d assume you’d teach your children what’s appropriate to say and what’s only for adults.

its not that deep. The meds one would go above their head anyway.

in actually shocked how everyone else is judging this badly. I just see it as personal taste ‘art’ so you don’t censor it. And children need to learn to live in a mixed world. Like would you censor the paintings with boobs out in an art gallery or just walk by and answer questions of they came? But clearly we’re going to be outcasts on this!😬 @Rainbows678 might have to rethink a couple of my pictures or my child might never get a play date again!

If you have to ask 'is this OK', you already know this is not OK.

The meds one is hugely passive aggressive—in fact they all are. Why not just put up in 80 point bold, Fraktur typeface

”JUDGE NOT LEST YE BE JUDGED” and call the job of simultaneously instructing and silencing your visitors done?

Eccentric is creating a folly in your garden, decorating your living room to recreate Tutankhamen's tomb or cutting holes in all the walls to accommodate your ever expanding model railway. Putting up a poster with the word fuck in it is not.

@Bingbopboomboomboombopbam they’re not my cup of tea but if you want them up on your walls then go for it.

Does it matter if other people judge you for it? That’s down to you, if you don’t care what people think, put them up. If you do care then pick something else.

I also have quite unique prints in my house already - my dog dressed up in military uniform

Unique? That was done to death five years ago or so. It’s old and yes, tacky.

Honestly, do what brings you joy. Though I'd be tempted to add "I have no taste and I don't give a fuck if you hate it" to the collection.

This. I think OP either doesn’t know what the word eccentric or lives under a rock. None of those things are anything but mainstream or just naff. But I’m all for decorating your house the way you want.

I feel a bit sad that swearing around children is so normalised that people would consider putting it on their walls at home. And justify it by "they hear worse at school". Yes they do, but they shouldn't, it's been a slippery slope to normalising foul language over the years. I do swear if I've dropped something or something has happened, I'm no saint. But I try not to when other people are around, I do slip up sometimes, but I try because swearing grates on me. I know people will say "they are just words" and I suppose they are, but I can't help the way I feel. 💁

The things you list here do sound interesting and "different".

The things you list in your OP just sound like naff greeting-card messages or the tacky plaques/signs saying things like "you don’t have to be mad to work here but it helps". It’s all a bit "Look at me! I’m mad, me!"

I inwardly roll my eyes when I see things like this in family homes. Depending on your children's ages, I'd wonder if parents coming into your house on play dates would judge.

EDIT Ignore as I hadn't seen update with no other children in the house.

I wouldn't judge you for choosing them, but they would irritate me after a while.

I've recently put a poster up on my kitchen door saying "Here we F*cking go again. I mean, good morning" and my mum hasn't stopped moaning about it. I'm keeping it up as a matter of principle now!