Would you judge this in someone’s house?

[Rainbows678]

I’m currently re-decorating parts of my house. I’ve come across a website that sells prints for the walls and I’ve found some I really like;

This house is full of love, laughter, and a little bit of what the fuck.

Pardon the mess, I decided not to give a shit today.

If you’re happy and you know it, it’s your meds!

As you can probably tell, our house is already a little bit eccentric with its decor… but would you judge someone for having prints like that on the wall with children living in the house or am I just overthinking it? 😅

OMG the people on here who accuse the OP of being "mainstream" when you are all completely agreeing with each other!! YOU are mainstream, clearly. The OP is obviously right to describe herself as a little bit eccentric, because while these artworks may be 'mass produced' she is apparently the only person who actually wants them on her walls.

Sorry OP you've had a right kicking by the middle-class snobs of MN. God forbid any of them 'live laugh love' when they could keep on with the 'judge sneer mock'. So edgy, you guys!

OP put what you want in your house and fuck the haters.

My two DC are also autistic and we've not had any other children in the house for years, so I understand that point.

However, I would say that with autistic DC it's even MORE important to model appropriate social behaviour which generally wouldn't include chucking the F-bomb around in polite company.

I'm an autistic woman too, so I appreciate straight-talking and "not holding back". I can also swear like an absolute trooper - as my previous posts on MN would show! However, there's a very big difference in bragging about "not holding back" and understanding that there may be situations where swearing isn't appropriate. I think it would be really inappropriate to be having a professional person visit your home - teacher, social worker, doctor, nurse - and be surrounded by sweary prints. I think I'd die a bit inside.

Do you remember those car stickers that everyone had in the 80s? They were quite the thing for a while. Often the ruder, the better. Really cringeworthy. These are the wall frame versions of those.

Dogs dressed up in military clothing, Victorian prints that have been bastardised - none of those are remotely "unique" or "eccentric". Look at Etsy and you'll find hundreds of the bloody things. They've been around in the crafting world for donkey's years and now are available as mass prints in shops.

I think your decor style is more mainstream than you realise, albeit a bit stuck in the past.

I'm sorry you haven't had many people agree with you and I'm sure it's hard to read. But you did say that you "don't hold back" so I imagine you appreciate honest and frank feedback.

All of that said, if you like the frames, put them up. It sounds like my household where very few outsiders visit so it's up to you. Make your home the environment that you enjoy, and that you think is appropriate for your DC. That's your choice, reagrdless of what other people might think.

People who describe themselves as eccentric, mad, kooky or wacky are so tedious. Those are descriptives to be used by others.

Tasteless and naff. Just so unoriginal.

I mean I personally find them cringe, but it's not my house. I wouldn't judge you, it's your money and your home.

I have anime figurines and things like Pokémon plushies in my house, so genuinely no judgement here, I know plenty would judge my nerdy ass self.

Edit: some in here are so aggy, for what 🤣 it's your house OP, please put in it what you like and what makes you happy. Everyone has different tastes. It would be incredibly boring if everyone's house looked the same. Personally I love a house with eclectic colours and a higgledy-piggledy vibe.

Oh yes I would judge hard. And come back to judge again. And probably take a picture to keep judging on a daily basis until the end of time.

@wrongthinker

OMG the people on here who accuse the OP of being "mainstream" when you are all completely agreeing with each other!! YOU are mainstream, clearly. The OP is obviously right to describe herself as a little bit eccentric, because while these artworks may be 'mass produced' she is apparently the only person who actually wants them on her walls.

She can't be the only person who wants them on her walls, if she was the company producing them would have gone out of business. The fact that there's a market for this stuff demonstrates that it's not eccentric.

Moreover eccentric people don't care what other people think about them and they certainly wouldn't feel the need to buy decorations or other household objects designed to advertise their eccentricity.

This would all be completely irrelevant if the OP hadn't actively sought people's opinions on it. But she did ask!

You asked a question, and I presume you wanted honest answers, the majority of answers is a resounding yes or not suitable for children and then you get defensive. I really don't know why you posted in the first place.

If something is mass-produced and readily available in shops - like all the things the OP describes are - then by definition, they are mainstream. You can find prints like that in Home Bargains, B&M etc.

Nothing wrong with those shops, I love them! - so it's not being shady, just truthful.

People can put up what they want in their own house - but the OP asked for opinions and said she was straight-talking so 🤷‍♀️

Seems like unless you've got Elephant Fart Farrow and Ball on the walls and the only decor in your home is a solitary reed diffuser then, in MN land you're a tacky chav. Or you're tryhard.

It's easy to see where the high school bullies come from innit.

I don’t think MN is probably the best place to ask after what you explained in terms of decor.

I would bet most homes here lean on neutrals as being the epitome of taste.

Tacky as fuck.

Since you asked, I would silently judge you, yes. Those signs make me cringe.

I agree!

Although I wouldn’t buy myself signs with swear words in, I think posters are being overly harsh and judgemental.

But I wouldn’t expect anything different from many of the MNers, as many of them don’t like people who are slightly different to them and they generally want to only do or have things to impress other people.

I remember the thread about gold hooped earrings and it was like the OP had killed a puppy.
Posters were calling her all sorts of names and saying how chavy they were and no one wears them anymore and it just looks trashy etc.

Then someone posted a photo of Kate Middleton recently wearing almost identical ones to the ones OP had and it all went very quiet 😂

That’s the exact image I got 😁

Hi op

Your original question was ‘would you judge’ and you have now learned that the majority of people will judge, and more often than not it will be negatively.

So what will you do with this information? Will it inform your decision? Or not?

Personally, I wouldn’t put a quotation up on the wall. And definitely not one that included bad language. Mainly because I think it’s very tacky and not at all interesting.

I would probably judge both your taste and parenting…but I would do so silently. I probably couldn’t resist drawing attention to your ‘wall art’ however, so I would probably say ‘Oh, I really like your wall art’, which you would see as confirmation that you made an excellent choice and everyone on Mumsnet was wrong after all.

I think it takes more than one swear word on the walls to be inappropriate around kids. But if I heard your kids swearing and I saw that on the wall I'd probably be judging your parenting.

I'd probably judge your taste, and not as eccentric, but that's not really important, is it? Taste is one of those things that should be diverse. Wouldn't really want to live in a world where everyone liked my taste and I liked everyone else's. It's the variety and challenge that keeps things interesting.

I have children 4, 12, 18. I also have prints on the wall that are tongue in cheek or have swear words in them.
My favourite is my bathroom print. It's a photo of king Charles that says
"Please don't do Charlie in the bathroom"

Pretty sure I'll get roasted for it but I couldn't care less. Those who know me know our sense of humour and get it. I don't shelter my children from things like this and they're generally well mannered, moderately well behaved (as much as any other child of the same age) and they don't run around the house swearing.

(Glad I haven't mentioned the "live laugh toaster bath tee I've worn to the nursery...)

I would guess your house is anything but eccentric.

Okay for small-ish fridge magnets.

In my experience, people who say 'we're all mad here!' are often fairly conventional.

Hers got tapestries tho

Like you know, tapestries...
On the walls!!

I mean.. I ain't not never known any one have tapestries I their house before.

So quirky and unique... Just like millions of other people that but from places like The Tapestry Shop..

For a very sweary website, some people are ridiculously uptight about swearing on here!

I wouldnt think anything of the language but I do find those sort of things rather naff. Its trying too hard to prove you dont care what people think, which ironically highlights that you do.

This is the millennial version of live love laugh and that bloody hideous colourful cow painting honest to god.

I would not comment but yes it’s naff and unacceptable and yes I would judge you