To not tell friend about weight loss jab

[Arrivals4lucky]

For the past 6 months I’ve been on a health ‘journey’ - had a lot of weight to lose and decided to do it with the help of a weight loss medication. It’s been transformative for me because I didn’t realise ‘food noise’ was a thing until it was taken away by the medication. I’m under medical supervision & paying for the jab privately. I’m going slow and steady but at the point where the loss is becoming noticeable to others.

one of our circle, someone I see weekly cos of kids is VERY judgy about people’s weight, about obese people etc and has vocally said that overweight people need to do something about it while simultaneously saying jabs are cheating etc.This has never been aimed at me, BTW. and usually someone else changes the subject.

She can be really lovely and obvs this is to do with her own food issues etc so while it’s the one thing I don’t like about her, I don’t let it get to me.

I think my health is my own business. I don’t want to tell people what I’m doing etc. DP says, they’ll notice and they’ll ask so just tell them you’re taking meds and it’s helped. Why be embarrassed?

YABU - tell your friends.

YANBU - keep it private. People
will judge.

Nobody else’s business OP.

It's totally up to you, why would it be unreasonable to keep any aspect of your life and health private?
I'm surprised you need to ask tbh

I don't think it's anyone's business how you decide to go about weight loss.

That being said you can clearly see that your friend has judgemental opinions on people's weight. The likelihood that if you tell her and she talks behind your back is huge. So the question shouldn't be 'should I tell her', more of a 'do I want her to talk about me'.

The only person who knows I'm on mounjaro is my husband. Noone else needs to know! Why should they, none of their business!

(on a side note, I put on an old jumper today that hadn't fitted for years! And it looks great! My jeans are also all now baggy round the bum and thighs!! I love mounjaro!!!)

I'm taking the view that if someone outright asks if I've used WLI I'll tell them. They are going to suspect you have and talk anyway. There is no shame in taking them, and frankly I don't care. Who have I cheated? Myself? No harm done to anyone else and I've probably saved myself no the NHS costs down the line.

I wouldn’t discuss other medications I’m on with friends so wouldn’t mention this either. Particularly if you know what the reception to it will be. Someone asked me the other day how I’d lost so much weight and my immediate reaction was to say I’m calorie counting. Which isn’t a lie, I am, just with the help of WLI. When I said that she responded with ‘Oh well done, at least you’ve done it the right way’, which made me internally eye roll.

I get the comments that it's no one else's business but my friend did this and actively lied saying she was fasting, shakes and doing bits and bobs. She was never hungry or moaning like other times after years of various fads and was advising others on her success! While also moaning about money being tight too. I was suspicious but trusted her so it hurt that she actively lied. I hate it coming up when people comment on her appearance as she still lies and they struggle to do it a 'normal' way (as do I).

If it comes up, don't lie. Say you're on the jabs and doing well, all is good and move the subject on. You'll get more interest than criticism I imagine.

Entirely up to you.

I tell the world, because I'm fed up of feeling ashamed for being fat, when it turns out that one jab, and getting slim is easy, because now my body tells me when it's full. It's like cruise control for dieting.

I've lost over 5 stone in 10 months on Mounjaro, only one person know and she is on it too so we are each other's support.

If anyone asks I say that I've just cut the junk out which is true, I no longer eat rubbish food and stick to healthy meals in smaller portions than I used to have.
The jab is just willpower.

Your friend doesn't need to know, she will only judge you.

I don’t think I need to discuss any medication I’m on, with anyone! It’s entirely my business. Would you expect anyone else to divulge personal information about what medication they're taking, or just this one?

I was honest with the majority of people, but did regret it when a good friend decided to tell me after a few drinks that she thought it was “lazy”. Apparently everyone should just get on with it and eat less and exercise more. I pointed out that I’d done exactly that less than 18 months ago and had lost a stone and a half, but had put it all back on because, psychologically, as soon as I’ve lost a decent amount of weight, I find myself thinking “Yay, I can eat again!”

I also haven’t told my parents, as I know exactly what will happen if I do. My mother will read one clickbait horror story online and go into a blind panic, and my father will go out looking for said stories in the name of research and email them to me daily, then WhatsApp me to check I’ve read them…

Keep it to yourself. This is similar to the recent botox thread.
Don't let anyone bully you into sharing something about yourself that you don't want to share.

It’s up to you, isn’t it. I tell everyone, but I’m not ashamed or scared of judgment. I feel like being open is fighting against the stigma of it all but I don’t think everyone should.

Everyone is positive to me about it. Maybe, behind my back they say different. I don’t know and I don’t care.

This friend sounds like a nightmare, why bother spending time with someone so shitty?

As for your injections, it's no one else's business so you don't need to say anything you don't want to.

If anyone asks I say that I've just cut the junk out which is true, I no longer eat rubbish food and stick to healthy meals in smaller portions than I used to have. The jab is just willpower.

I think this is what a lot of people don’t understand - not helped by the prevalence of the term “weight loss jabs” in the media. A worrying number of people think it has some magic effect on the way your body processes calories and fat , or somehow blasts the existing fat.

You do whatever you want. I don't keep it a secret and see it as an excellent way to cleanse my contact list of judgemental twats. Anyone who prefers me obese to taking a medication to keep me healthy is very welcome to mutter about my life choices as long as it's a long way away from me.

Keep it to yourself OP if that’s what makes you feel more comfortable. Don’t second guess your own needs.

Can I just ask you and the knowledgable posters on here - does the NHS ever prescribe WLI purely for weight loss? Or do you have to buy them privately? Thanks 🙏🏼

If someone told me jabs were cheating, I would be inclined to ask them to elaborate who exactly is being cheated and out of what. But that's me and I am difficult like that and don't mind losing friends who show themselves to be unintelligent and judgmental.

Not that I’m aware, although someone might have a better idea. I know you have to have been referred to weight management tiers and the waiting list is years long in some parts of the country. I belong to a fb group and the vast, vast majority of the members are paying privately - with a much smaller number getting them on the NHS for poorly controlled type 2 diabetes.

I don't think I could be friends with someone who is so judgemental and nasty. Your personal health is no one else's business and she has no idea what anyone is going through to judge them for either being obese or for the method they choose to help them get back to health.

For the record, I have never suffered with weight gain and never had to diet. I still would not be judgemental about WLI or refer to them as ‘cheating’

Are anti-depressants ‘cheating’? Or are they a way to give you enough of a boost whilst you explore other options to improve your mental health? Same with WLI in my opinion. We all ‘cheat’ at something.

That and the fact that obesity-related illness costs the NHS a lot of money, it’s a no-brainer to me.

I've a friend on it and I'm the only one who knows. I say good for her and you should use whatever weight loss tools that are available. My friend is aware that people can be judgy cunts so I'm telling no one.

I tell a half truth - that i’m eating better and am on a mostly vegan/vege diet.

I just omit to mentioning that I’m also injecting too.

Thanks! This has all really helped clarify what I should do! And as for friend being ‘nasty’ she really isn’t but she does have massive issues around food, her weight etc which means this is the one area that she’s incredibly judgy and insecure about.
She’s slim, healthy but always trying to lose that 5lbs kind of person…

While I agree it's no one's business except your own, I'm surprised at the number of posters saying they pretend they're not using WLI. It creates a lot more "calories in calories out! eat less move more!" noise, when the truth is that people are getting medical support to lose the weight.

I don't think it's a problem however you try to lose weight as long as it's a healthy way. But I feel a bit uncomfortable thinking that so many people are lying about it. I don't get the stigma around it, or the idea of it being cheating? Whatever works, works - be happy it works! The only thing I wonder about is any possible long term side effects and whether (like every diet) you'll end up putting weight back on when you come off the jabs. But again, that's no one's business except your own.

I think I would just tell everyone - why not? People who are that judgey are going to find reasons to judge and talk about you either way.