To not tell friend about weight loss jab

[Arrivals4lucky]

For the past 6 months I’ve been on a health ‘journey’ - had a lot of weight to lose and decided to do it with the help of a weight loss medication. It’s been transformative for me because I didn’t realise ‘food noise’ was a thing until it was taken away by the medication. I’m under medical supervision & paying for the jab privately. I’m going slow and steady but at the point where the loss is becoming noticeable to others.

one of our circle, someone I see weekly cos of kids is VERY judgy about people’s weight, about obese people etc and has vocally said that overweight people need to do something about it while simultaneously saying jabs are cheating etc.This has never been aimed at me, BTW. and usually someone else changes the subject.

She can be really lovely and obvs this is to do with her own food issues etc so while it’s the one thing I don’t like about her, I don’t let it get to me.

I think my health is my own business. I don’t want to tell people what I’m doing etc. DP says, they’ll notice and they’ll ask so just tell them you’re taking meds and it’s helped. Why be embarrassed?

YABU - tell your friends.

YANBU - keep it private. People
will judge.

If she brings it up again, suggest she speaks to her GP about using it on a trial basis to help her shed the weight of the judgement she’s carrying around daily.

But no, seriously, if she mentions it again I’d just tell her straight: you’ve made your feelings on GLP1 drugs very clear to me in the past, and frankly I find the topic rather uninteresting. She’ll be stunned but I doubt you’ll hear of it again.

They will know.
When you loose weight suddenly.

How come?

My friend has lost 4 stone since 1 Jan doing keto.

Another friend has a significant and speedy loss due to bariatric surgery.

Neither are on WLI.

I have told everyone. It’s been so helpful for me, I want others to know how good it is!

So there's no area of your life that you wouldn't share if asked? No area you want to keep private? Nothing?

People can have boundaries that they want certain private information to be kept private, whether a friend takes offense to you having a boundary is THEIR issue to deal with. It isn't your friends responsibility that you don't accept their boundaries.

I absolutely agree. There is a feigned moral superior here that screams judgement.

people decide what information to share and what to keep private all the time. There is an anger about weight loss medication because people like to judge overweight people. Knowing that obese people now have a tool they can use to address the challenges they have faced their whole life is really triggering for some people.

so people start with the shaming nonsense. How dare people be healthier, look better and feel more confident! We must bring them down.

Exactly. My family would do exactly the same. Keep it to yourself, nobody else needs to know

You’re right! Abd I love the ‘effing’ straightforward way you’ve put it! People that judge can F off and carry on reading their conspiracy theory stuff, the rest of us that want to pay a fortune can choose what ever the f we want to spend it on. No one judges others for fake nails, massages etc. and recently some types of fake nails have been proven to be harmful so where’s the difference!!!

I’m out and proud because I don’t give a shit who knows or who judges, I’m not doing it for them. I can 100% see why people wouldn’t talk about it though because some people are really really cunty about other people losing weight. It’s really very strange.