To refuse to work full time even though DH wants me to?

[Arabella3]

I think I’m 100% in the right here so asking for validation 😂

DH and I had a baby DD last year and I’ve reduced my hours to do a four day week. DD is in nursery for those days. No family nearby.

It’s emerged that DH is expecting me to go back to five days a week in a year or so. I have no intention of doing this until DD, and hopefully a little sibling, are at school.

Even with my pay cut I pay 60% of the household bills. We have SC who are with us most weekends and all holidays, so my Wednesday off is the only routine time I get with DD. We can’t afford to save much or do fancy holidays after my pay cut but I don’t care, I’d rather have the time with DD.

AIBU?

I said if you’re that interested in me you start one

So much for not derailing 😂Dear me

I know I’m sorry, that poster seems really interested in arguing and I’m happy to do so off this thread…

Yeah if we can get back to the op @Arabella3

Though I’m sure she’s enjoying the love in here 😂

Buh bye👋

Though notice in not Mumsnet fashion. A lot of support for a shocker 😱 step mother.

All us bitter first wife’s and whatnot must be having a day off

So you want me to start a thread asking you specifically why you post mumsnet giving your male view (unsolicited) on matters?

Cause he's a man, and men don't like equality when it's women who benefit.

I can mansplain it for you already.

“Because I can”

If you want to know.

better than me blathering on this one about why I’m here…

Step mums are usually mud on Mumsnet. The first wife's are out working their arses of for their children.

I've put up a thread on chat re why do men post on mumsnet. Could someone more techy than me link it? Thanks.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5279533-why-do-men-post-on-mumsnet-asking-after-another-thread

What a small minded question to ask. Why are men on Mumsnet. Why do some men get full custody of their children? My DD's boyfriend had no contact with his mother she wasn't allowed near her children.

But on the flipside there's not many wealthy women who'd happily work a high level job and fund a partner sitting at home doing nothing. A lot of men do this however.

I'm talking about the women pulling up at the private schools in their big Range Rovers they didn't pay for and leaving all the housework to the cleaners. There's not many 'lads that lunch' compared to 'ladies that lunch' let's be honest.

Am I alone in finding something genuinely a bit sinister about @Billydavey

maybe because I’ve come across him on other threads
Needless to say he has a nasty cheating ex who is completely unreasonable

Why do some men get full custody of their children? My DD's boyfriend had no contact with his mother she wasn't allowed near her children.

Statistically, we're the main abusers of children. Most people don't know this because the focus is usually only on sexual abuse.

Those types are normally paid to be the pretty trophy wife. They are expected to be ladies who lunch but also be gym bunnies in shape, perfect hair and make up. A yes women on his arm.

Sadly often traded in once their looks “expire” women don’t tend to be so fickle on their partners looks as his naturally ages. Often cheated on while they are out “networking”.

Can we keep my history off this thread, it’s totally irrelevant

Not proportionally though. Men are far worse when they actually do the caring.

I don't get that impression on Mumsnet when women talk about mil and DM. Not all women are maternal some are evil and horrible people.

Sorry but it's factual. When you account for that fact that women are the primary carer most of the time, whether that be in the home or in a childcare setting men are proportionally far far more dangerous to children.

I wouldn’t be too worried about this at the mo OP, given that DH said ‘in about two years’ I’d just brush it off with a ‘we’ll see how things go’ response then move on.
Its not worth getting upset about in the here and now, or even discussing with DH.
Enjoy your Wednesday off with DC and go with the flow, in two years you might have a sibling on the way which will determine everything.

I think outright refusing is unreasonable but talking about it in a year or so is absolutely fine.

It doesn't sound like there's any need for you to go back 5 days? You're the majority breadwinner and the majority childcare and the majority domestic chores so I think you're doing plenty.