To be upset with my DH’s reaction to a parking problem?

[LovelyBranches]

We have a problem neighbour-the daughter of our next door neighbour.

In the past she has attacked me in the street when my DS was a baby. I’ve had death threats from her. She has broken into our garden and taken a Stanley knife to our garden furniture and broken all of our pots (my mother happened to be sitting outside the house so we know that the only way to access our garden was via the fence next door).

Over the years we’ve called the police but they’ve never done much because we didn’t have CCTV.

Fast forward to today, and my neighbours daughter is obsessed with parking. She has use of two cars and whenever she leaves in either one of them she will go through a detailed manoeuvre to deliberately leave one car permanently on the road outside my house even though they have two driveway spaces. We have one driveway and a garden the same size as a driveway but it doesn’t have a dropped kerb. This is where neighbours daughter likes to park.

However today, she hadn’t done this and I was able to park on the public road outside my own property. However I was in my house when I heard a loud squeaking noise and saw that she had come home and was using her car to ram my parked car a meter down the road. Annoyingly my CCTV has just stopped working and I don’t have evidence, and I’d like to move so I don’t want to tell the police as you have to declare neighbour problems when you move.

I phoned DH almost in tears, it had shocked me to see my car being bumped and I’d had visions of my car rolling down the street. It also feels like a violation that she’s using her car to ram my parked car down the road when it’s parked legally on a public road outside my own house.

DH came home and has blamed me for inflaming the problem by parking on the road directly outside our house. It’s this I feel most let down by. I didn’t do anything wrong, or try and instigate any problems. I simply parked outside our house but he believes that I should avoid doing this because of the previous problems we’ve had, and that we know how awful this woman is and we should be trying to keep out of her way.

I feel he is being unreasonable and could have been more comforting and understanding. Is DH unreasonable or was I?

The only person unreasonable is your psycho neighbour.

You both need to decide whether you are going to fight her or avoid her.

She sounds like a crazy ex girlfriend

Is there a possibility your DH and her ever got together?

Or she has feelings for him that weren't reciprocated?

Dear Lord...🙄

You sound as crazy as the neighbour's daughter!

I try my best to avoid her, but she is unavoidable. I was late picking my DC up from school the other day because she gad involved an elderly man in her parking obsession and she was shouting at him to move further forward. This is directly outside my front door so i turned on my heel and went inside and had to wait until this man had fully parked directly in front of my front garden until i could leave.

If i fight her via the police, then I will have to declare it when i move (which we're hoping to do thus year). I have no options except to report her to the council for parking fully across the pavement. She is known to the police for drugs and dealing and violent conduct.

DH and I both feel that this woman is obsessed with me. We are both late 30s but she lives a very different life.

This is why I feel DH could have been more comforting. He knows how much she obsesses over me and how much her conduct impacts on me.

No, thankfully not. I know DH’s ex’a and they are all annoyingly perfect and much more upper class than me. In comparison I am the woman who’s had to brawl in the street when my neighbour’s daughter attacked me (with my 10 month old baby watching).

There is literally no situation that an MN commenter cannot make about cheating.

It’s an immutable law, and I think we ought to name it.

I mens honestly though it’s legal to park there. You want to move this year. You parked there knowing it was going to cause a scene.

Of course you should be able to park there but sometimes it’s better to not poke the bear even if you are legally correct.

Is she a tenant or an owner? If she is a tenant, the council / housing association (if not private rented) should be supporting you on this.

I’d be doing everything possible to keep everything as peaceful till my sale went though.

I'd just keep my head down till you move and park anywhere that won't rile her for now

Do not let the estate agents put up any for sale signs outside your house

FFS, get a camera @LovelyBranches they're cheaper than repairing dents in your car. And you get the satisfaction of passing the footage to the police.

What on earth do her parents make of this insane behaviour?! Get your cctv fixed quick and keep your phone to hand ready to record if she does something else.

Obviously your DH is being unreasonable, but you need to speak to the parents of this woman.

FFS

Moving or not, I would have reported her. Your DH could have been more supportive. You were entitled to park where you like

Did you hurt your arm making that stretch? How ridiculous

Has she damaged either car OP? She sounds unhinged willingly causing damage to her own car!

Yes, he should have listened to you and sympathised, but you both really, really need to agree to do everything you can to not jeopardise a house sale. I get his frustration. If that means not parking legally on the road, so be it. Hope there's not much damage?

LTB Law?

The crazy ex girlfriend is a misogynistic story created by men to cover for their poor behaviour. If she exists at all in real life, she is rare and she is certainly not relevant in this situation.

It's so sad to hear women using the term.

OP won't be able to sell if she presents evidence to the police for around 5 years because it's kept on record for buyers to check

A friend of mine had neighbour issues that the police only got involved in after there were death threats and the person was eventually incarcerated for 3 months. In their case though the threats and issues were anonymous till the police discovered it was the neighbours crazy daughter.

Friend couldn't sell for around 5 years due to issue being accessible to buyers. Felt trapped in her gorgeous home. Eventually moved further away

Murphy’s (cheating on you) Law

Sorry but I am with your husband on this.

You know, 100% know she is a violent druggie?
She was harrassing another NDN this week?

And you want to move so will not involve the police?
You knew she would kick off to some degree

You should have stuck to your regular space. The last your DH needs to worry about is this woman attacking you or your child on the street again.

And as you have called the police a number of times and installed CCTV you need to check if you need to disclose this as a NDN dispute?

Amcatt (All men cheat all the time )
Amsa (all men shag around)
Amacs (All men are cheating scum)

Sorry your DH wasn't more supportive. I would avoid any interaction with this woman at all and I guess that's where your DH is coming from. She sounds unhinged and dangerous.