Delivery man using toilet

[Fountofwisdom]

I admit I am a bit of a clean freak at best of times. Can’t bear people wearing shoes inside etc. But really don’t like workmen, etc using my bathroom.

A delivery driver arrived earlier with some kitchen appliances, just delivering, not installing. He asked to use the bathroom and I immediately wanted to say no, as I HATE strangers in my bathroom. But didn’t feel I could refuse.

So he was in bathroom for a minute or so and went on his way. I went in to clean the toilet as I always would, and not only had he used it, but he left a big black pubic hair on the toilet seat 🤮🤮 Absolutely revolting.

Have spent 5 minutes deep cleaning and disinfecting toilet and have put the hand towel in wash because I’m so disgusted.

AIBU to refuse access to my bathroom in future? Or am I over-reacting?

i will have builders in for 2 weeks shortly and obviously they will want to use the bathroom, which I’m not delighted about but can’t be helped. Means I’ll have to clean the toilet every day, but I can’t refuse them using it.

But random delivery men - would you refuse? And what would you say?

I often hold out for 3/4 hours when out and about to avoid using public toilets, luckily I have a strong bladder. But if I must, I ALWAYS hover, never sit or touch the seat.

That’s exactly the excuse I thought of afterwards but not quickly enough at the time!

You are absolutely correct.

It’s op’s home. She’s not manning a public toilet, open to all sorts.

Yeah, thought I'd gone back to 1995 for a moment. Very unnecessary.

Exactly. If I use a toilet at someone else’s house, I always check that I haven’t left any mess etc. But for a stranger to do it in your bathroom - absolutely stomach churning 🤢

Why did you need to describe a working man, simply asking to use the toilet as an 'Entitled hairy ass man'? Why? Its just unnecessary. The bloke wanted a wee, he asked, he had one. Christ, he left a pube not a nuclear device. Get over yourself and your misandry.

This - big over reaction

I'd be far more on the alert for him to approach me in a negative way and make a pass at me if I was there on my own TBH. He can pee all he likes in my loo though!

Oh for goodness sake, get a grip! It’s not like he left a big dump on the floor! 💩

Because he left a pube from his hairy ass behind, obviously!

I wouldn’t have been happy either. Delivery drivers should be factoring in loo breaks at service stations or supermarkets.

I don't assume they're posh. I believe that some posters think it makes them sound posh to moan about tradesmen coming into their homes.

How do you manage using shared toilets at work?

Then you have a problem.

@Dotto Oh no!!! Not a pube?! How will we all live. So, what made him entitled?

Just think one day all deliveries will be automated and you won't have to deal with humans and all their filth

Not a chance is a delivery driver using our loo. There are supermarket and public loos everywhere. What next, the postman pops in for a quick slash? Just no.

Totally different if you do home visits which are presumably to clients who know you, and you them. I’m talking about someone who is a completely strange man who has asked to come into my home and use the bathroom purely because he happens to have delivered a package.

Years ago my grandmother let in a meter reading man so he could relieve himself. He took a wristwatch that she had taken off and left at the side of the sink.

She realised immediately after he had left. She called the police and the meter reading company.

It turned out that they were not using their own employees and were using an agency who were hiring casual workers.

She never got the watch back and all she heard back was the 'reassurance' that there had been other complaints about the man and he had now been sacked!

Police weren't interested.

She claimed off her insurance.

Crikey, the use of the loo is the first thing I offer to any tradies/delivery drivers who need to come IN to install or fix something. I am often profusely thanked for offering and now I can see why!

Wouldn't proactively offer to a random Amazon driver or similar but would let them if they politely asked.

Now I'm wondering how many single black grey pubes I may have inadvertently shed over the years in other peoples' loos . . . .

Exactly.
You can catch all sorts of stuff sitting on a public toilet seat.
I suppose I just assumed people never do that though.

Im also confused by others that wouldn’t clean the toilet or wash the towel after a completely random stranger used it. We got rid of towels in public toilets in favour of tissues and hand dryers to stop the spread of infection. Public toilets now even have the ability to not touch the flush ( just wave at it ) for the same reason.
Err, a random persons pee on your hand towels and door handles is really gross.

What difference does it make who employs him? 😬

I take it you would have happily sat on his pube then? I didn’t hear the tap either, so for all I know he wiped his pissy, pubey penis hands on my nice clean towel. Which is now in the washing machine.

As someone who has urgently needed the loo in the past , I would never deny anyone the use of my loo