Delivery man using toilet

[Fountofwisdom]

I admit I am a bit of a clean freak at best of times. Can’t bear people wearing shoes inside etc. But really don’t like workmen, etc using my bathroom.

A delivery driver arrived earlier with some kitchen appliances, just delivering, not installing. He asked to use the bathroom and I immediately wanted to say no, as I HATE strangers in my bathroom. But didn’t feel I could refuse.

So he was in bathroom for a minute or so and went on his way. I went in to clean the toilet as I always would, and not only had he used it, but he left a big black pubic hair on the toilet seat 🤮🤮 Absolutely revolting.

Have spent 5 minutes deep cleaning and disinfecting toilet and have put the hand towel in wash because I’m so disgusted.

AIBU to refuse access to my bathroom in future? Or am I over-reacting?

i will have builders in for 2 weeks shortly and obviously they will want to use the bathroom, which I’m not delighted about but can’t be helped. Means I’ll have to clean the toilet every day, but I can’t refuse them using it.

But random delivery men - would you refuse? And what would you say?

Its a badge of honour to have such high standards of hygiene that you find it 'grim' 'vile' and 'disgusting' to have someone use your toilet or walk on your floors. Bonus points for finding 'tradies' particularly objectionable, as it underlines that you're too posh to have the likes of them in your home under normal circumstances

Obviously I meant haven't had a new toilet installed

It's a hair for goodness sakes. Wipe it with a bit of loo roll and flush. Two second job. Do you not have pets or children? They do much worse,

If the bathroom was upstairs and I was home alone, no I wouldn't invite a stranger into my house.
If toilet was downstairs, near the door and I was not alone, yes.
Workmen are different, they're going to be in the house for a while.

Massive over-reaction. People shed hair. Flush it down, spray and wipe, it's clean.

Men/Women have pubes
Men & Womens shit stinks

Who would have thought.......

I think you need professional help.

Why would you assume 'posh' rather than being a sexual abuse survivor, or someone with social anxiety, or someone who simply doesn't want to clean up after a stranger?

You're over reacting.

At the end of the day it was only a spare pube so your reaction was over the top. Plus I would consider it pretty unfriendly not to allow people coming to your home to use the loo.

Eh?
I see everyday sexism everywhere, but not here. What difference could it possibly make to if you need a wee or not?

How is it not professional to ask if you can use someone else's toilet for goodness sake? Bodily functions don't tend to operate in accordance with time management or professionalism. Well at least not in the real world anyway. Have you any idea how many deliveries they have to make, and the penalties if they are late arriving? What opportunity do you think they get to stop at public toilets (if you can even find one that's not closed down these days).

Oh hang on. I've posted twice in 6 pages. I'll be accused of being over invested and fixated if I'm not careful 😂

It wouldn't worry me at all.Im an office cleaner fully experienced in unblocking toilets, chewing gum in the urinal, taps left on so the place gets flooded, tampons on the floor etc etc.However I've found that workmen using my loo at home have been very respectful . I make them tea etc so they are going to need a wee!
I have ibs but quite housetrained at cleaning up after myself!

If the person was there for my benefit, to deliver something or do work at my house, I wouldn't say no. I have health problems, my DH has had major bowel surgery and we both know what it's like to be caught short. Delivery drivers often work schedules where they might not get to a service centre, supermarket or other outlet for hours at a time. UTIs and hideous, humiliating accidents aren't unheard of and I wouldn't put someone else through that. At the same time, I can't think of a time when my kindness has been abused by lack of consideration, so I've no reason to refuse.

I think you’re BU about the cleanliness aspect but that’s cool if that’s how you feel.

However, unless it’s a regular delivery driver you know enough and chat with, for personal safety reasons I would probably say no.

Woman alone at home and letting an unknown bloke into the house - safety risk.
The majority of times I’m sure it would be safe but what’s the difference between inviting a hitch hiker into your car and a stranger into your house? If you wouldn’t do the former, why would you do the latter?

What do all of you who are absolutely horrified do when you need a pee outside of your home?

For me 🤷‍♀️ I'd just spray and wipe afterwards.

Yes, I've been a courier myself and know where loos are available to the public, so managed my time accordingly.

Workmen, no problem

Random man who happens to be a delivery driver - no

I spent a number of years in a place which was nearly 80km from the next toilet and find it quite abhorrent that anyone would consider denying access to sanitation. I imagine if Karma were real that this would come back for your ass, probably not by biting it.

Also, a splash of piss and a pube that can be dealt with using rubber gloves and cleaning products is far preferable than a bottle of piss, a bag of shit, or pair of soiled underpants being thrown into your garden from a passing van.

@CoffeeGood and @IDontLikePinaColadas I wonder if that poster is the parent of the child that called my son a ‘ginger cunt’ in the boys loo on his first day of secondary school?

My son never forgot that. I thought we were past mocking people for things they couldn’t change or control

Well I don’t knock on random peoples doors.
Do people actually do that ?

Yes! I would have disinfected the toilet anyway after even a visitor using it, but how could he not have known or cared that he had left a huge black pube on the seat? You couldn’t miss it.

Massive overreaction. Why did the toilet need a deep clean just because he left a pube ? And why did the hand towel need changing?;
I am totally confused by why you couldn't just give me toilet a quick clean. Perhaps my hygiene standards are too low.

Do you have anxiety issues or latent OCD?

WTF is this reaction all about. It's a person having a wee. We all do it every day and no.2 aswell. You can't catch a disease from a toilet otherwise we would never use public loos or those in restaurants and out and about etc.

I would have no problem allowing him/her to use my loo. None.

That is how appliances are generally delivered.

Not them hanging around and going into my bathroom, though.
They can go and find a public toilet or wee in a bush.

He wasn’t an employee of the appliance supplier, it was a 3rd party random delivery van. Although I’m not sure I’d feel differently either way.