Delivery man using toilet

[Fountofwisdom]

I admit I am a bit of a clean freak at best of times. Can’t bear people wearing shoes inside etc. But really don’t like workmen, etc using my bathroom.

A delivery driver arrived earlier with some kitchen appliances, just delivering, not installing. He asked to use the bathroom and I immediately wanted to say no, as I HATE strangers in my bathroom. But didn’t feel I could refuse.

So he was in bathroom for a minute or so and went on his way. I went in to clean the toilet as I always would, and not only had he used it, but he left a big black pubic hair on the toilet seat 🤮🤮 Absolutely revolting.

Have spent 5 minutes deep cleaning and disinfecting toilet and have put the hand towel in wash because I’m so disgusted.

AIBU to refuse access to my bathroom in future? Or am I over-reacting?

i will have builders in for 2 weeks shortly and obviously they will want to use the bathroom, which I’m not delighted about but can’t be helped. Means I’ll have to clean the toilet every day, but I can’t refuse them using it.

But random delivery men - would you refuse? And what would you say?

Tons of people hire a Turdis.
Muddy boots 🥾 traipsing though a house are a real pain .

It’s not because the trades are “ Disgusting “
It’s also because often water and plumbing is off during a refurb.

If it was an Amazon delivery driver, for example, then No. If it was our regular postman, someone delivering/installing an appliance/furniture to the house or workmen in the house, then yes, I wouldn't have a problem with them using the toilet. I would clean the sink/toilet after they'd left. We have a downstairs cloakroom, which is where they'd be directed, and not the upstairs bathroom.

If a builder is doing work in your home, that's his/her workplace.

Why does a postman get different preferential treatment to an Amazon delivery bod? They both do the same job in all intents and purposes.

Imagine a woman being refused access to a toilet after a friendly request in the same scenrio? Women have pubes too so its entirely possibly it could be a woman in the same scenario.

For the love of god, a man asked politely to use the toilet and mistakenly left a single pube behind. Get over yourself and understand that how you treat others may come back and bite you back.

Are these the same people that expect daily amazon, groceries and other packages to be delivered to their front doors, knowing full well that delivery drivers spend hours and hours and hours making deliveries without access to toilets in their trucks?

Many years ago a gas engineer used the loo before he started work, the smell was awful. He had to come back the following week with a new part and did exactly the same thing!

Well there's opposite ends of the spectrum here, both equally disgusting. At one end a person who would leave a toilet in a dirty condition, at the other, those who would rather see another person suffer discomfort because they treat their toilet like its sacred. Thankfully somewhere in the middle of these two ridiculous and anti social extremes, are the majority of the population, who let people use their toilet and clean up after thenselves when they use someone elses.

It’s still your home though and builders are perfectly capable of using a portaloo.
If OP is uncomfortable with them using her bathroom then a portaloo is a perfectly normal solution, there is nothing ‘horrible’ about that.

I'd refuse because I wouldn't be happy with a random strange man coming into my house.

I was expecting to read he pissed all over and hadn’t bothered to flush. I’ve let delivery men use our toilet why wouldn’t I? As well as anyone doing work on our house. Really odd not to allow someone doing work on your house access to the toilet.

A paramedic asked when we were staying in an aparthotel.. DS didn’t need to go to hospital but incapable of getting up just needed to sleep. So they dropped us back and one asked to use the toilet. It’s a basic human need you have what they need access to only a bitch would refuse.

Get a fucking grip.

You'll have sat on worse if you've ever been on public transport or used a public toilet.

@StillweriseLH
’this is one of those threads where I wonder how some of you make it through life. Is it the echo effect of an online forum or is society really so full of people so incapable of tolerating a human function which is identical to their own?’

exactly what I was thinking…..it’s another one of ‘those’ mumsnet threads which just makes me a bit sad

That is how appliances are generally delivered.

My loo, my rules 👌

Good luck with finding a public one that is actually open.

Nothing wrong with asking. The option is there to say no. OP didn't.

I do not understand why so many people are so squeamish about normal bodily functions.

Exactly. What OP flushes down there after a good poo is far worse than a stray pube.

My son literally stinks the house out when he stays with me. Still not a reason to refuse access to your toilet no matter who they are.

I'd rather someone use my toilet (and have to clean up a stray pubic hair) than come across a bottle of piss in a lay by.

Just say no but don’t complain when he pees in a lay-by !!

I can't believe you have had a new toilet installed OP. Yours is now contaminated forever with delivery man germs.

The pube was gross and he shouldn't have done that, but OP I think your reaction is quite OTT. I would be grossed out too and wish the guy had had better manners, but I wouldn't go into a deep-cleaning frenzy about it. And I'm not sure how it's possible to direct someone to a public toilet without it coming off like 'Certainly not, pleb, how very dare you ask, a public loo is perfectly good for a working-class oik like you...' 🤔

Is it more a problem of letting an unknown man use your loo, or letting a tradesperson use it? Just curious.

I can only speak for my location. Public loos are a 1 min drive away at the park, managed by the parish council and open all day long, 7 days a week.

There's also the pub, and the shop. The shop takes in parcels for Amazon / Hermes etc so likely the driver may be stopping there anyway.

YABU to refuse. However, he should have cleaned up after himself. Leaving a pube is gross 🤢

Gross but better than them peeing in your garden. Leaving pubes is completely wrong on all levels though.