Delivery man using toilet

[Fountofwisdom]

I admit I am a bit of a clean freak at best of times. Can’t bear people wearing shoes inside etc. But really don’t like workmen, etc using my bathroom.

A delivery driver arrived earlier with some kitchen appliances, just delivering, not installing. He asked to use the bathroom and I immediately wanted to say no, as I HATE strangers in my bathroom. But didn’t feel I could refuse.

So he was in bathroom for a minute or so and went on his way. I went in to clean the toilet as I always would, and not only had he used it, but he left a big black pubic hair on the toilet seat 🤮🤮 Absolutely revolting.

Have spent 5 minutes deep cleaning and disinfecting toilet and have put the hand towel in wash because I’m so disgusted.

AIBU to refuse access to my bathroom in future? Or am I over-reacting?

i will have builders in for 2 weeks shortly and obviously they will want to use the bathroom, which I’m not delighted about but can’t be helped. Means I’ll have to clean the toilet every day, but I can’t refuse them using it.

But random delivery men - would you refuse? And what would you say?

Can people not see how horrible it is, feeling pressured to allow an entitled hairy assed man who doesn't clean up after themselves, into our bathrooms?

No. Bodily functions are bodily functions, hairy-assed or not. There is nothing 'entitled' about needing the toilet when you need the toilet. Yes, the pube was a bit unfortunate, but he probably didn't spot it.

How would the delivery driver know your house plan?

We had a lovely decorator years ago who always needed the loo and not for a wee. He used to be in for ages but at least he had the sense to use bleach afterwards. He didn't ask- he just used it as he was working in the loo anyway.

Hideous. I’d probably look at getting a new bathroom tbh

I'm not saying it's always massively logical, but nobody should permit anyone else into their spaces if they don't want to.

Most downstairs loos are obvious as they tend to be by the front door, off a porch or a hall.
Not always but often.

It's not about the pube. It's that a strange man pressured OP into the use of her facilities and then didn't bother to make sure they were left as he found them, and she had to clean up after him.

In lived and anecdotal experience (and what you read on MN!), plenty of grown men can't use a toilet properly. A plumber pissed all over the back of my toilet and splashed the wall behind it. And then who cleans it up? Yes, that's you, wiping up some man's piss or worse.

I would arrange a portal op for the builders.

No I certainly wouldn't withhold use of my toilet for someone who has provided a service for me ie delivered something to me.

It sounds like you would have cleaned the toilet whether he used the toilet or not anyway.

Hmm, I get that it was a bit grim and feel sorry for you. But I actually think it was very kind of you to say yes. I'm a clean freak but I cant imagine refusing someone who needed to use my toilet. I always imagine if that was my Dad or my Brother, or husband etc bursting for a wee I'd like to think somebody would do the same and let them use the loo. I have young kids so I'm used to getting my rubber gloves on 😁

I’d begrudgingly say yes but I’d be inspecting the loo after. I’d get my Dettol wipes out and give the loo a good clean and put bleach down. I’d clean the floor where the boots had trodden. Change the hand towel. I don’t understand who wouldn’t.

My god. How hideous some of this is to read! I hope you lot aren’t on the numerous “using the loo at schools” threads where you say school children should not be refused access to the loo as a human right.

What threat do you perceive a public hair to be that the health and environmental risks of excessive bleach and laundry are better options? You do know you can’t catch HIV from it, don’t you?

this is one of those threads where I wonder how some of you make it through life. Is it the echo effect of an online forum or is society really so full of people so incapable of tolerating a human function which is identical to their own?

when your children have friends over, are they allowed to use the loo?

No, I would never refuse to allow someone to use my toilet. I might not like it, but I would let manners override my personal feelings.
Likewise I would hope that someone would allow me to use theirs if I needed to.
I presume if someone is asking, it's because they need to go. Why would you refuse someone that basic need?

I think if someone said I’m afraid my daughters in the bathroom so it’s a no a delivery driver wouldn’t start arguing with you
I could be wrong of course
In which case would you want someone whose happy to argue like that in your house

We have a small front porch toilet, so I'd let them use that. I'd prefer they didn't ask, and none* have asked me so far, but I'd assume they really needed if they asked. As for the hair, it was probably accidental - just firing it in the loo with some paper should sort it.

• no delivery drivers I mean. Electrician was here for three days and when he asked to use it on day 1 I told him he could use it as required. He left no mess.

Neither would I.

Op, he wouldn't have asked unless he was desperate. Put yourself in his shoes.

I'm sorry about the pubic hair but he didn't leave it deliberately and probably didn't notice.

You are going a bit OTT about this.

Just tell them you hate strangers using your bathroom and leave it at that. Most decent people will respect your feelings.

I bet they are more likely to ask women and not men..

A pube from a complete stranger 🤢

He didn’t pressure he asked.

Spectacularly unreasonable. If someone needs the loo, they need the loo. They only exist to be used!
I can't believe some people are such clean-freaks as to care about any of this stuff.

Also, possibly just a leg hair or something if he sat on the seat? My DH has hair on his legs that could easily be mistaken for a pube if a stray one was found!

I’m a community nurse. I would never ask to use someone’s toilet, mostly because I am often in homes that aren’t very sanitary but also I don’t want to intrude.
I do know all of the best public toilets around! I do ‘just in case wees’ when possible as often won’t know when I will next have access to a public toilet.

I don’t think that you are being unreasonable.

I had a role once where a large part of it was doing home visits across London, travelling by tube. (Virtually no tube stations have toilets). So many times, I had to ask to use someone's loo. I don't know if they didn't like it, they always would say yes. That said, I was scrupulous about checking that I left it exactly as I found it! There is no excuse for not doing so.

I do let others use my loo. Had a repair guy in the other day and he asked. He left a bad smell behind! But no mess. And I just figured well if he had to go, he had to go! But I don't feel the need to bleach everything afterwards. I gave the seat a wipe, but that was it.

Should he have asked? Or should he have been professional and used a public facility instead via effective time management?

Most people aren't desperate or caught short.

I let everyone use the loo, but then I also make everyone a brew and a bacon butty, as my mammy taught me to 😂