Delivery man using toilet

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I admit I am a bit of a clean freak at best of times. Can’t bear people wearing shoes inside etc. But really don’t like workmen, etc using my bathroom.

A delivery driver arrived earlier with some kitchen appliances, just delivering, not installing. He asked to use the bathroom and I immediately wanted to say no, as I HATE strangers in my bathroom. But didn’t feel I could refuse.

So he was in bathroom for a minute or so and went on his way. I went in to clean the toilet as I always would, and not only had he used it, but he left a big black pubic hair on the toilet seat 🤮🤮 Absolutely revolting.

Have spent 5 minutes deep cleaning and disinfecting toilet and have put the hand towel in wash because I’m so disgusted.

AIBU to refuse access to my bathroom in future? Or am I over-reacting?

i will have builders in for 2 weeks shortly and obviously they will want to use the bathroom, which I’m not delighted about but can’t be helped. Means I’ll have to clean the toilet every day, but I can’t refuse them using it.

But random delivery men - would you refuse? And what would you say?

Tbh I hate it when people leave pubic hair on the toilet seat (or bits of black fluff etc) it totally grosses me out! I think you got unlucky he was rude not to 'check the seat' after he used it.

Actually no.
Not these days.
Drivers delivering do just that. Deliver.
Its a very rare company that allows their drivers to go into a property.
OP did say in their first post that they weren’t plumbing anything in.
So, these days Delivering does not mean going into a persons property.

So delivering an appliance which you think suggests a washing machine and you think suggests going into a property
does in fact not suggest anything of the sort.

It could just as easily be a microwave and blender…..

Aw, I wouldn't have worried about the rogue toilet seat pube. I wouldn't have bothered cleaning it either, probably just flicked it into the bowl with a bit of loo roll.

My house is tidy and cleanish but I have 5 toilets and the teenagers have friends over all the time. I would never be able to keep up with that level of sterility!

Nothing bad is ever going to come from someone else using your loo.

I wonder if people with such a worry about germs ever snog strangers (or give blowjobs!) That thought just popped into my head! 🤔

You jumped from toilet seat pubes to blowjobs. I just love the way MN goes sometimes 🤣🤣🤣

That’s a strange leap to blow jobs….

But very funny!

Id say they’re off the menu!

😆Maybe, if they’re good.

OP isn’t comfortable with it.

OP did say it was a large item…

She didn’t complain about the delivery of the item until she was told she she was BU!

It seems you have a bit of an issue OP.
If you can't control it before the builders arrive I would pay for a Portaloo for them
Otherwise it sounds like you'll be a wreck.

I’d have had words with him, presumably he doesn’t do that at home!

Oooops, was that too much? Better on the toilet seat that stuck between the teeth I'd say! 😂

Thanks the second Irish username that’s tagged my stirabout,

We hale from Longford so 👋👋 if your south of the county.

Back to the thread. As is usual on MN, the full story surfaces once pushed.

Blowjob…..toilet seat….stuck….My mind is working overtime and my stomach is churning 🤢

@LovelyLeitrim Hi and a big wave from Lough Allen. If you know, you know 😊

😉

I'm really torn on this because i have severe OCD about toilets, and bodily waste, and germphobia about bodily waste germs and contamination, so really couldn't let someone in my house to use the loo. (only one toilet in family bathroom upstairs) To be perfectly honest i struggle even sharing with my dad who i live with, and hes careful.
But at the same time i have psychological bladder issues that means i very suddenly need to go, RIGHT NOW, completely at random, even when theres an egg cup full at most in there it can still trigger, and i feel full to bursting and unable to hold it. I'm virtually housebound at the moment because of how bad it is, because my OCD means no public loos unless an emergency and then a load of decontaminating when i get home. There's a tesco about a third of a mile away with toilets, but even in a car if i needed to go i couldn't wait the 3 or so minute drive to get there, then walk from parking into the shop and to the toilets, when it comes on i can barely walk the distance from sofa to bathroom.
I'd have a complete panic attack if someone asked to use my loo, because I'd have to say no, then put myself in their shoes but with my condition and get freaked out they're going to wet themself, possibly in front of my house which i wouldn't cope with either.
Presumably its the kind of jobs you just don't do if you can't wait though.

We do, we just use mouthwash afterwards 😣

Your jumping to extremes. I said I wouldn’t begrudge them using MY toilet if they’re in MY property. I didn’t at any point state I’d feed them and let them sleep, did I? You are extremely rude.

Don't misrepresent me. The comment about therapy was because of your wiping down the toilet after anyone used it. That is obsessive and intense. Nothing to do with a strange man or pubic hair.

Sorry that you think I'm rude. You said using the toilet is a basic human need, I just pointed out other things are too but it isn't up to us to provide them for strangers.

And also dripped in the fact he didn't say please when asking, or thank you afterwards. No mention of that in the OP! Maybe the look of utter disdain at him needing to perform a bodily function in her pristine toilet, rendered him speechless, but he was so desperate to go, he inadvertently bypassed the pleasantries! Next drip will be "and he helped himself to my ginger nuts... and he kicked over a plant pot"! 🙄

He’d already left by the time I noticed. I did consider complaining but it felt a bit over the top. I’ve used them before and would have been able to throw more work their way in the near future but definitely not now.

So many drips it’s untrue!!

There are lots of jobs where there is no handy toilet. As a carer, we are not supposed to use the toilet, but what are you supposed to do? There is also a lack of public toilets. I don't mean supermarket ones (which they only want customers to use) but old fashioned ones, where people and their needs were important.

Well done for letting him use the toilet. After all it's just a hair. Let the builders use the toilet. Unless they bring a portaloo which I've seen here recently when they are doing jobs although that may be because there is no loo or running water, etc in the house they are building.