Delivery man using toilet

[Fountofwisdom]

I admit I am a bit of a clean freak at best of times. Can’t bear people wearing shoes inside etc. But really don’t like workmen, etc using my bathroom.

A delivery driver arrived earlier with some kitchen appliances, just delivering, not installing. He asked to use the bathroom and I immediately wanted to say no, as I HATE strangers in my bathroom. But didn’t feel I could refuse.

So he was in bathroom for a minute or so and went on his way. I went in to clean the toilet as I always would, and not only had he used it, but he left a big black pubic hair on the toilet seat 🤮🤮 Absolutely revolting.

Have spent 5 minutes deep cleaning and disinfecting toilet and have put the hand towel in wash because I’m so disgusted.

AIBU to refuse access to my bathroom in future? Or am I over-reacting?

i will have builders in for 2 weeks shortly and obviously they will want to use the bathroom, which I’m not delighted about but can’t be helped. Means I’ll have to clean the toilet every day, but I can’t refuse them using it.

But random delivery men - would you refuse? And what would you say?

Really!
You think your new build is all new and unused. 😗

Where do these people who have a free for all loo arrangement draw the line?

The bin men need a quick wee, let them in, oh look Virgin Media workmen out the front fixing cables one of them needs the loo. Do you let everyone in or is it just the delivery men?

If somebody needs to go, then they need to go! I'd never deny anyone the use of my toilet! If you're so germ phobic, then you'll have a lot of cleaning products, just clean round when they've gone! That's what toilets are for! Do you only ever use your own?! I doubt it! Such a non issue! 🙄

I wouldn’t like it to be honest. I would assume delivery drivers could plan their loo stops and go to a garage or something. I wouldn’t refuse but I’d not be happy. Also there ks a safety issue letting an unknown man inside your house.

Builders - if they’re there for a while a portaloo is the best bet. Workmen use our loo but I avoid the one they’ve used and go in my en-suite.

People on my property who are doing work employed by me, absolutely, yes.

There's a regular delivery driver whose name and identity I know - whose company introduces him each time he comes by name. I'd be less inclined to refuse him. As to any others, especially were I alone in the house, the response would be 'no, I'd rather you didn't' and direct them to the pub or garage a few minutes' drive around the corner (pub is about 2 minutes away). No explantions necessary: it's not a good idea to flag that you're a lone female in most circumstances (unless it's the police or AA/RAC).

Basic safety precaution.

No but I'm not a delivery driver. Also, the delivery driver wasn't knocking on stranger's door; he/she asked the owner of the home where they delivered to!

You also trot out happily with a tray of tea and bacon butties, like a good little handmaiden, apparently 😂

Oh the delivery driver knew the op? I thought it was just a random person delivery driver/stranger. Well if you know them that is different indeed.

I really need to stop with the gifs but just had to support you with this one

Don't get so defensive. You know what I mean. The DD knocked on your door (not randomly) to a specific address to deliver a parcel.
Pretty inconsiderate not to let them use the toilet; they wouldn't have asked if it wasn't necessary

Keel an eye out for Ruth Langsford. 😬💩

www.dailymail.co.uk/tv/article-14385023/amp/Ruth-Langsford-Loose-Women-REVOLTING-confession.html

Do you think I should go out and buy some bacon @Dotto only I wouldn’t want to hurt a random strangers feelings with my vegetarian patties. As it’s all about them after all.

I must admit I hate this too. I wouldn't mind if they left it as they found it (i.e. clean) but they always without fail,leave it in a mess,with piss all over the seat and even on the floor, and even worse,shitty skid marks down the toilet. Think I'll use the previous posters excuse and say oh sorry my daughters in the bath!

I wouldn't refuse I would automatically clean as soon as they left. I can sympathise with them and it can't be helped but I wouldn't stress about it especially as they are providing you with a service.

I am a fellow clean freak and in my 20s would go nuts about mess and people / family not cleaning up after themselves made me very unpopular. I am the same still but now i don't say anything. I just clean it myself.

Being nice to people doesn’t make you a handmaiden. Bacon butty is a bit much but I always make tea for workmen. I’m not in the least handmaiden-y. Neither was my dad, who also did this for workmen - or anyone in his house to help him with something.
the language is odd through tThis thread too, trying to belittle or criticise. ‘Trotting out’ when all someone is doing is making a drink/food. ‘Traipsing’ through the house when they are just walking to the toilet.
there are 2 different issues too - whether you would let a delivery man into your house (personally with a kitchen appliance I’d have to as I’m not strong enough to move eg a washing machine - it takes to deliver persons usually) and I get that people with different circumstances might have different views on this.
The other is the OP’s total overreaction having let a delivery man use the toilet. There was one hair. Could have been a pube. Could have been a leg hair (both course). Could have been from the delivery man. Could have wafted down from her DP earlier. No urine, no shit stains, no un flushed faeces (though, unpleasant as that is, flushing solves the problem without anyone coming into contact with said faeces). Just a hair. This necessitated deep cleaning and extra laundry (and some posters have called washing your hand towel and disinfecting the loo after someone uses it ‘basic hygiene’). This is odd an unhealthy. The evidence of another person's body shouldn’t make anyone panic about infection.

Thing is that if workmen left as they found no one would really have an issue. Why would you? BUT - they dont so most of us DO have an issue with builders, delivery drivers etc using your toilet.

Having said that I have NEVER been asked by a delivery driver to use the bathroom. As a PP said probably because they have been told not to.

And yes, it is MEN who dont seem to know how to clean up after themselves.

And who comprise the group who also overwhelmingly pose a risk to women.

I'd feel much more comfortable saying 'yes' to a female delivery driver.

In fact, the only cuckoo comments on this thread are those recommending women to throw the door open to any random male who cares to request their facilities. My favourite screwy posts are those suggesting anyone who hesitates to do so is bonkers, or better still, are denying a fellow-citizen the most basic of human rights. Brilliant! 😂

In the real world, letting a random man you don't know from Adam into your home is really the crackers thing to do. And no woman really needs any explanation as to why.

We just had our bathroom completely refitted.

Credit where it's due the guy did a great job, but on the last day christened the brand new toilet by doing a shit in it (flushed after but the smell was obvious) before we had even had a chance to use it for the first time 😢

the bastard

It's your house, it's up to you who you let in. If you feel awkward, just say your child/husband/whatever is in the bath at the moment so it's unavailable. Unless you live in a house where it's obvious that you have a downstairs loo I suppose. But then you could say the plumbers in there at the moment fixing it.

I would usually let a delivery person use my loo but it's downstairs. Also if for whatever reason only the upstairs one was available I'd just say no they can't use it. But, where I live there's cafe's a few minutes walk away where you could use theirs. And there are also supermarkets with toilets a few minutes drive away.

You don't like workmen using their bathroom? So you expect them to drive off to the nearest public toilet? Wtf, you sound very difficult.

Probably more because a stranger had used her toilet....wouldn't you??

Would you call people with OCD ridiculous...?

Wow. Are you this ignorant to people with OCD?