Delivery man using toilet

[Fountofwisdom]

I admit I am a bit of a clean freak at best of times. Can’t bear people wearing shoes inside etc. But really don’t like workmen, etc using my bathroom.

A delivery driver arrived earlier with some kitchen appliances, just delivering, not installing. He asked to use the bathroom and I immediately wanted to say no, as I HATE strangers in my bathroom. But didn’t feel I could refuse.

So he was in bathroom for a minute or so and went on his way. I went in to clean the toilet as I always would, and not only had he used it, but he left a big black pubic hair on the toilet seat 🤮🤮 Absolutely revolting.

Have spent 5 minutes deep cleaning and disinfecting toilet and have put the hand towel in wash because I’m so disgusted.

AIBU to refuse access to my bathroom in future? Or am I over-reacting?

i will have builders in for 2 weeks shortly and obviously they will want to use the bathroom, which I’m not delighted about but can’t be helped. Means I’ll have to clean the toilet every day, but I can’t refuse them using it.

But random delivery men - would you refuse? And what would you say?

Really? I asked our plasterer not to use our new bathroom but the cloak room, downstairs but he chose to ignore me, & use bathroom regardless, plaster foot prints up to the loo, & coving glue left on the wall plate flusher😩

JFC it was a pube not gelignite.

You are being too uptight. Just grab a disinfectant wipe and let it go.

When you say you disinfect after a guest uses the loo if you have a number of guests round do you go in every time after every person uses it?

So a random geezer asks to use your toilet. You feel obliged to say yes. You wouldn’t then go and check? You’d just blithely carry on using the toilet? Sorry, I couldn’t and neither could numerous others.

Other people aren't infected aliens you know.

You shit and pee just like everyone else. You need to get help for your irrational dislike and fear of other humans carrying disgusting germs.

I’m more accepting of workmen using the toilet if I’ve built a rapport with them.

Maybe ask them to sit and talk about their lives for an hour? Sitting will help because they can cross their legs and hold it all in until you feel you know them well enough for them to have a wee in your toilet....

I’m always home alone as I live alone. The only toilet is upstairs. Workmen come and sometimes even do work in the bedroom. All fine so far. I’m 60. I’ve lived alone since DD left home 8 years ago, and before that while she was away at uni in term time or visiting friends.

There’s a middle ground between sitting on the pube and disinfecting the whole room. If he didn’t wash his hands he wouldn’t need the towel. If he did wash, his hands would be clean.

I wouldn’t want the hand towel used by some random from a delivery firm. I’d probs hoover the stairs as well. You don’t know what he’s trodden through the house

Could I suggest that you get some counselling about your excessive fear of germs?

We brought our last house which needed almost everything doing to it so had different companies in. Knowing how the majority of workmen treated using the loo in the house would have made me order a portaloo myself now I know what I know. In a number of instances the men had no shame, they would stink the place out and then shut the door, the next workmen would go in and make some rude comment about the state the other one had left it. There was a window and a can of air freshner. Pee all over the floor, towel flung on the sink assuming that they even used the basin. In total over the 6 months the extension took I would guess 80% of men using the bathroom did not leave it in the same state.

And yes, it is MEN who dont seem to know how to clean up after themselves.

A friend of mine used to be cabin crew for a Middle Eastern Airline. This airline was very particular about how clean the toilets were and would clean everytime it was used (or at least a quick check). Some cultures dont sit on the seat. They squat over it...you can imagine the mess which the cabin crew have to clear up.

So, I suppose when strangers want to use our toilets I guess we are lucky in some ways!

Presumably he had to come into the house anyway to deliver the appliances. I don’t see how using the toilet increases any risk associated with that. I’m not sure I’d consider a toilet an ‘intimate facility’ to be honest.

Nope. Unprotected sex, shared sex toys, sometimes damp shared towels (used in genital areas). Specifically not toilet seats - this is from the NHS website info.

Treat others as you'd like to be treated springs to mind!- would you like to be working, dying for a pee and have someone tell you no you can't use theirs?
I think this is complete nonsense and it must happen so rarely anyway!
If you MUST say no, make up an excuse (someone is in the bath or something,) I don't think its right to say no, I don't want you to use it for fear of mess or a pube!

Delivery men/postmen/leaflet distributors don't get to come inside and use household amenities. We have loads of deliveries, the bathroom would be in constant use if we were seen as offering toileting facilities.

If someone is in your house for hours doing repairs or whatever, fine but not delivery people. They can factor in their bog breaks on their travels.

I too have loads of deliveries, but my bathroom is not in constant use and I offer toileting facilities.

Ive been asked once in over 30 years.

Not sure why your facilities would be in more demand.

'Treat others as you'd like to be treated springs to mind!- would you like to be working, dying for a pee and have someone tell you no you can't use theirs?'

I'd never knock on someone's door and ask to use the loo. The fact he was delivering something is neither here nor there.

A relative who has been a delivery driver for a few companies says that he’s always been told not to ask to use customers toilets.

Where are they supposed to go then? Public conveniences are as rare as hens teeth. Perhaps they should just go in a layby so we can all step in it.

I wouldn't expect a delivery driver to ask but any workmen are welcome to use our toilet.

We live quite rurally and there's plenty of public toilets. They must drive past supermarkets that of course have loos.

Absolutely not. A builder working in our home? Of course. But it isn't my problem where the driver goes to the toilet. Just as it isn't my problem where some random person walking past my house goes to the toilet. Urghh.

I must live more rurally than you then. Nearest supermarket with toilets about 10 miles away from us. No other public toilets. There were some a long time ago in our nearest small town, now closed down

Good grief I have no idea how some of you manage to exist in the world around other people. Do you all wear hazmat suits to protect yourself from coming into contact with other people's germs? Deep-cleaning the bathroom because you've sighted a single pubic hair is not normal. Have you never used loos in a public building yourself? Or at a party?

Letting workmen use the loo is a non-issue for me and all so far have left it in the state they found it. It would feel absurd and a bit inhumane to insist they left my house to use facilities that may or may not be nearby. (Public toilet facilities in the UK are notoriously shite; if they even exist you couldn't rely on them to be open or usable.) I've never been asked by a delivery driver but I wouldn't hesitate either. I wouldn't consider it any sort of imposition.

So agree @gannett. I think those who are so overwrought at the thought of all those disgusting germs workmen bring in are the same people who boil wash towels when they have touched skin... just once